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DP is being so ignorent

163 replies

MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 13:36

I've just had a row with DP. Its the first one we've had really and I feel so crap about it.

Its all over a holiday. Basically we're going to Orlando (me, my kids, him and his 2 kids). I have spent months organising everything and he keeps trying to challange me on everything I plan.

I've been before with my kids so I know how everything works. I booked a villa for us all (big party so was cheaper) but he wanted to stay in a nickalodeon hotel. I got him to see sense over that but that its everything else. He wants to go to disney to take his kids, I've been before and told him universal is better but he's insisting on wasting £500+ on disney tickets.

He wants to go to discovery cove, I don't. I've been before and I don't think its that great but he wants to waste another £400 on that.

The latest thing is that I want to do a trip to miami but he wants to stay i orlando for the entire two weeks.

I know its about compromise but I've been before and I know how it all is over there yet he refuses to listen to anything I say. Is this the early signs or a controller?

OP posts:
lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:21

that is the most sensible thing you have said so far, be a family, go together!

ihatebikerides · 01/08/2008 14:21

Why must it be one or the other? Is doing both not an option?

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:23

It could be an option but it will cost us around £1k on top of what we have already paid and I'm worried we won't fit everything is along with the water parks and sea world. DS2 will probably want to visit sea world twice, he's a complete animal nut.

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ihatebikerides · 01/08/2008 14:24

So, your DS gets to go to Sea World twice, but his kids won't even see Disney once? Hmmm...
Re-read your threads, MrsMissMs. It might show you how you're coming across....

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:24

we have been to florida, did universl and disney and a waterpark and days by the pool. you will have time, prioritise ebfore you go
find out what rides are the must do ones

you can spend a few hours doing different things in the parks and meet up at a set time and place

Jux · 01/08/2008 14:25

You booked this because he'd always wanted to go but now you won't let him go to the place which was the reason he always wanted to go...wtf? If you - oh I can't be bothered.

SmallShips · 01/08/2008 14:25

i think if you're quite happy letting DS2 do sea world twice, you need to be flexible with your DP and the rest of the DC, otherwise i can see all hell breaking loose!

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:25

DS2 will have to understand that with 4 children to keep happy, going the same place twice will not be an option

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:25

But they don't want to go to Disney I am booking the space centre thing for his kids...we don't like that kind of thing but I know they'll love it.

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batters · 01/08/2008 14:25

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lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:27

have you asked him before you book anything else??

nervousal · 01/08/2008 14:28

but WHY don't they want to go? because you've persuaded them that its rubbish?? I can't believe kids of that age wouldn't want to go to disney?

Anyone else worried about the "them" and "us" terminology? You are going as a family - not as two separate units

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:28

I asked him if they'd like the space centre, he said they'd love it but he was worried about the cost. so i paid for it for them.

Thats why its annoying me a bit that he's willing to spend another £500 on disney.

OP posts:
lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:29

it is his money and he wants to go and that shold be enough of a reasn

Original poster
MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:29

The eldest thinks its a bit babyish. (disney)

OP posts:
TheUnsinkableMB · 01/08/2008 14:29

Pmsl...Is this the early signs or a controller?

Yeah, You!

cocolepew · 01/08/2008 14:29

UNIVERSAL CAN BE DONE IN A DAY! Listen to yourself. We were there for 2 weeks, we did Wet and Wild, Sea world lots of times as it was only across the road, all of Disney expect the spacey one, Nasa and went to see the shuttle launch, Universal, Busch Garden (not very good IMO) and more. I had the ticket for the universal attractions but wished I'd got a Disney ticket instead.

Fimbo · 01/08/2008 14:30

OP has another thread going in travel

SmallShips · 01/08/2008 14:31

agree with nervousal, you seem to be dividing into seperate families!

beanieb · 01/08/2008 14:31

when you say 'his kids' are they not yours too?

MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 01/08/2008 14:33

It's his fault????

Either you truly are the selfishest bitch ever put on this earth or a troll

SmallShips · 01/08/2008 14:36

oh FGS, shut up moaning, go on holiday and have a good time!

Kimi · 01/08/2008 14:37

I think you are being a bit unreasonable, just because you and your kids have done it all before why should he and his kids miss out.
Why don't you take your kids to Olando for a few days and let him have time with his kids making happy memories

How woulsd you feel if your children went away on holiday and were not allowed to do anything good because the people they went with had done it already?

You are being very unfair

claricebeansmum · 01/08/2008 14:39

I can't believe how this is your holiday YOU want everyone to do what YOU want. On most family holidays I don't get to do a great deal of what I want to do because my interests are different but I enjoy and revel in the time spent with the family having a good time.

You do sound most selfish and I am for your DP and all the children involved.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 01/08/2008 14:42

Cancel Universal then. Get over it. I have jusrt read all throught his, and while I understand you wanted to do something nice, he might also want to have a say!

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