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DP is being so ignorent

163 replies

MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 13:36

I've just had a row with DP. Its the first one we've had really and I feel so crap about it.

Its all over a holiday. Basically we're going to Orlando (me, my kids, him and his 2 kids). I have spent months organising everything and he keeps trying to challange me on everything I plan.

I've been before with my kids so I know how everything works. I booked a villa for us all (big party so was cheaper) but he wanted to stay in a nickalodeon hotel. I got him to see sense over that but that its everything else. He wants to go to disney to take his kids, I've been before and told him universal is better but he's insisting on wasting £500+ on disney tickets.

He wants to go to discovery cove, I don't. I've been before and I don't think its that great but he wants to waste another £400 on that.

The latest thing is that I want to do a trip to miami but he wants to stay i orlando for the entire two weeks.

I know its about compromise but I've been before and I know how it all is over there yet he refuses to listen to anything I say. Is this the early signs or a controller?

OP posts:
hercules1 · 01/08/2008 14:01

You sound very selfish.

EffiePerine · 01/08/2008 14:01

He isn't spoiling everything!

Fimbo · 01/08/2008 14:01

I think this is a troll.

ThatBigGermanPrison · 01/08/2008 14:02

he's allowed to be happy on his own terms, he doesn't have to be happy only at things you say are ok for him to be happy about.

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:03

I'm not a troll for gods sake.

The point is I have already bought tikets for universal, sea world, wet and wild and this daytona trip. If we were to add disney it would cost £500+ for him and the two lads ALONE. We want them to come to universal with us but everything I suggest, if it doesn't include disney he doesn't want to know.

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PortAndLemon · 01/08/2008 14:03

He's wanted to take his kids to Florida for years. He's had years to imagine what he's going to do with them when they get there. Now you've dangled Florida in front of his nose but folowed it up with "but you're not going to get to actually do the stuff you've dreamed of doing, because I've already done it". You do sound highly unreasonable, TBH.

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:03

innit, tho?

yes, darn him and his opinions and needs, and how dare he have his own views ? curse him and his children for wanting to go to disney and ruining your holiday

SmallShips · 01/08/2008 14:04

just grin and bear it love, after this, you won't have to endure another horrible family holiday again, your DP will be running for the hills.

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:04

you must have known he wanted to go to disney, so a bit late to act pissed off about it ! you should not have booked it all, if you were not going to be happy if he wanted to deviate from your plan

he is a grown man, and he can make his own decisions

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:05

His kids don't even want to go, they want to come to universal with my kids!

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Fimbo · 01/08/2008 14:05

What''s your usual name then if you are not a troll, on a previous thread you said you had name changed.

SmallShips · 01/08/2008 14:05

and please ignore my large racoon comments

nervousal · 01/08/2008 14:08

I think your racoon comments are the most sensible things on here....

definite troll

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:08

what woudl you do if the situation was reversed and DP was telling you you were going to florida, but would only do the things he had chosen?

cocolepew · 01/08/2008 14:08

His kids don't want to go to Disney because you told them it was crap. At their ages I think they would prefer Disney to Universal. We did universal in a day. You're being petulant and YABveryU. Give him a chance to discover what he and his kids might like instead of dictating to him.

sherby · 01/08/2008 14:11

how can anyone think this isn't a troll

Hes just RUINING EVERYTHING

did you stamp your feet when you typed that

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:14

right fine I'll cancel the entire thing and see how happy they all are then.

I'm keeping the car.

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hercules1 · 01/08/2008 14:15

A troll for sure!

cocolepew · 01/08/2008 14:16

It's not going to affect us you silly tosser. Only the children.

Fimbo · 01/08/2008 14:16

You haven't answered my question.

ihatebikerides · 01/08/2008 14:16

I am so hoping this thread is a wind-up because it saddens me to think that anyone could behave so badly as the OP otherwise. The worst thing of all is you having told his kids Disney is crap. How mean. They're 8 and 6, fgs. The perfect age to believe in the Magic Kingdom. And what about the other Disney parks, like Animal Kingdom?
Personally, I found the Universal parks unbearable with all that LOUD pop music. At least the Disney parks had panned music that was relevant to the theme. And they were MUCH cleaner and more wholesome.
Anyway, none of that is the point. I would have hoped that you might be feeling crap about the argument with DP because you realised you were being vile. Sadly, it's because he won't agree with you.
Bet he's wondering how to end this... because your whole stance indicates a personality that I wouldn't touch with a bargepole. Sorry.

ThatBigGermanPrison · 01/08/2008 14:17

Yes, you take your football home with you.

lulumama · 01/08/2008 14:18

whatevaaaaaah

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MrsMissMs · 01/08/2008 14:20

I can't show my original name as my friend (who I posted the last thread about) might catch on to who I am!

But I have been a member for around 2 years.
It doesn't matter if you think I'm a troll to be honest. I'm not going to waste my time trying to convince you otherwise.

I don't know what to do for the best. Obviously I can't make him not book disney, I just think its a shame that his kids won't see universal with us. The only other thing I can think of to do is to cancel universal and do disney again with them so we can all stay together.

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