How would you feel/react if a new man said the following about your body after sex?

[honkytonkwoman]

(1) "It's too bushy." Said about easy-to-guess bits, which I had (I thought) trimmed very neatly the evening before.

(2) "Your clitoris is not very easy to find."

(3) "Ooh, your legs are a bit stubbly - you need to Immac." Said, again, while cuddling in the early hours of the morning, and at the very early stages of grow-back - I'd shaved the morning before, less than 24 hours previously.

I want to know how others would respond or react to this, before I say anymore. Thanks.

oh I read the remarks in question to dp and he said "blimey, hope he'll not be expecting another shag then"

he also mentioned he thinks this is the type of man who would come on your face without asking

'I'm really sorry but you failed to satisfy me, anything you heard I was faking, I hope your ego is not too briused but I don't want to see you again.'

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i wouldn't bother to ever speak to him again.
who needs that.

he's going to try to 'accomadate' the stubble.

lmfao.

come on op, you do not need this.

don't answer him, don't text or reply give him NOTHING back.

move on and be proud of who you are. he really is a moron.

in essence have some pride.

you know he is not deserving of you, and it's 2 shags in!! Imagine the control he would be attempting to have on EVERYTHING, if you saw him as a regular boyfriend.

ewwwwwwwww, my skin is crawling.!

I wouldn't wait for your 'not speaking time' to be over before you dump him. That's giving him all the control, HTW. I would txt and dump NOW. But that's just me.

ViolentViolet, excellent lyrics.

"U r shtsmr" - pardon my ignorance, but I can't read that bit

"He is a tall, good-looking, very well educated, handsome, articulate, perceptive, often caring, accomplished" all of which could have been said about Ted Bundy

I think it is telling that such a catch has "lots of female friends" but no girlfriend already

His perception regarding sex and the female form are all most certainly based on porn and not experience

Personally I would lose the loser if he is making you feel bad this soon in the relationship I would image he is going to be emotionally abusive once he really gets going. Whilst it is great to have the right man in your life it is better to have none that an idiot like this.

Just my opinion of course

A polite text or email is probably the best.
"Please don't contact me again. I do not want to date or spend time with someone who makes rude and unpleasant personal remarks. If you find that all your relationships end like this, maybe it's time to ask yourself why. Goodbye."

And then ignore any reply he makes. But, at the risk of being alarmist, be cautiously prepared for trouble. He sounds like the kind of man who hates women and he will not like being dismissed. He may go on a charm offensive (please don't fall for it, you know he's a woman-hating lousy lay and a few bunches of petrol-station flowers won't change that) - but he just might get troublesome and start phoning up to be abusive, for instance. If anything like the latter happens, keep a record of all calls etc and take them to the police after 3 incidences.

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he sounds extremely rude and obviously has little experience of real women
really, you should feel sorry for him [

and the idea that he can 'accommodate' your slightly stubbly legs is laughable really
what a prize arse

"a few bunches of petrol-station flowers won't change that" LOL

I had a boyfriend once who reacted in the way the OP described to any criticism, tbh it was quite tiresome he did similar by hanging up on me mid conversation and not calling me when I had "upset" him...unfortunately I didnt like him as much as he thought I did so when he did decide he was "over" it and deigned to call again I just told him not to bother any more

Having said that I dont have much tolerance for high maintenance people of either sex - my ex best friend was a drama queen, I know its fickle but I really cant be bothered with it.

Now I think you can be cool and dignified but get some satisfying revenge as well:

Arrange to meet for lunch or whatever, make sure you look stunning but cool and business-like. Settle down and order. Then, get out smart notebook or similar and classy pen (not chewed biro).
'So, Dave, in light of your comments earlier this week, I felt we needed to review our situation with regard to where we stand now and how we can move our relationship forward in a mutually beneficial and satisfying way. I felt it was very considerate of you to highlight my flaws in that way and I have drawn up an action plan to allow me to tackle them in a proactive and forward-thinking manner. I am delighted that we have made this window in our diaries today to allow us to now set out a similar range of targets for you.
'Clearly, we have to work with the materials at hand so, while your penis is rather smaller than those I have been accustomed to working with in the past, we will have to think of ways round that unless you have considered penile enhancement? No? Perhaps we can put that on the back-burner for now. Of course technique can make up for other shortcomings; it is early days so there is no blame attached to the fact that I did not orgasm this time; however this will be a key part of your performance review next week. If we focus on foreplay and the sustaining of the erection for more than three minutes before your orgasm for this week, I am sure that progress can be made.'
Show him the flowcharts and diagrams setting out his targets, pat him on the back while he chokes on his breadstick, and sweep out, head held high!

Oh I definitely would not get in touch to tell him he's dumped or whatever. No contact at all, then if/when he contacts you, you can do your dignified "Oh sorry, no it's over, I obviously don't want to be with someone who criticizes my body and can't be kind and respectful in bed, see you around then..." .

If you get in touch he will probably take it that you are hanging on to him and need to get back at him and somehow he means something to you.

lol slayerette, you'd need some brass bollocks to pull that off

yep gettingin touch, or even answering, gives them fodder, and gives them an opportunity to question youself again.

why waste your time contacting this waste of space?

seriously.

treat yourself to something nice instead.

people like this are not worth ANYONE'S time.

I wouldnt contact him tbh although the need to have the last word can be a little overwhelming sometimes

by not contacting them, you have something far better than the last word.

yeah....silence speakes volumes...just ignore him.

I would phone/email/write to him in order to feel that I was in control of the situation. It?s assertive and forthright behaviour.

Just not answering his calls and ignoring him feels passive aggressive and sulky to me.

A polite, ?I do not think that you are the right person for me. Good luck for the future?, would bolster your resolve to see the red flags in possible partners quickly and act upon them. You already know that you deserve better. Good on you, now act on it.

actually I am with expat hes not worth the pence it would cost to phone/text/or the price of a stamp...let him come to you

def, no contact, act like he doesn't exist. that will wind him up greatly.
you have already pointed out what he's done wrong, and he doesn't get it.

can't believe you had to ask tbh