Boyfriend can’t accept my past

[2026dreams]

My partner wants to know about my sexual past and everyone I have slept with, is this normal ? He wants to know details of people I slept with 27 years ago

Honestly I think he has ground me down to thinking im
not worth much
he seems to think I have behaved so much worse than I did
but I am okay I can’t do it anymore so I just choose peace

I am so pleased you have finished with this crashingly inadequate specimen.

@2026dreams I think that's why he's done this, he suspects you've had more partners than him so he's ground you down to make you feel he's the best you can get. I'm glad you asked MN before he made you feel even worse

I hope you've blocked him on everything and never go back. He's got major problems which you do not need. Better to eat fruitcake than live with one.

Better to eat fruitcake than live with one.

I will be remembering this one. LOL!

I hope you know you are worth an awful lot. This 'man' does not deserve ypu. I've had sex with plenty of men. My husband would never ask me how many, and I don't ask him. What we did with our bodies previously, who with and how many times has absolutely nothing to do with the relationship we are in now.

Of course it's not normal. Keep it to what you do or don't like, or maybe the odd hilarious anecdote. But a detailed kiss and tell of everyone you ever rolled around with? Why would he even want to know? Ugh.

Get rid.

Sorry, you already have.

@2026dreams
If he's asking you
Why aren't you asking him??
Surely you've a right also to know this "gods gift to womens" past before he bestowed himself upon you!

Taught by who? And I'm old.

It's a weird thing to ask of someone.

It's perfectly normal, yes. For controlling weirdos like this man. Bin him.

EDIT: I see you have, well done. Don't have him back. He's a misogynistic control freak.

I bet he did this to his ex wife. It can’t just be me who has this side of him

Please be very careful of this man.
I know you say you’ve ended it but you sound a bit vulnerable in that he’s ground you down.
All of those videos and stuff he’s sending you all sound like manosphere stuff. It’s dangerous.
Please don’t let him talk you around because I doubt he will go quietly he sounds obsessive.
He is a fool. The one thing we can’t change is our past and nor should we be ashamed of it.
It is more than just this body count thing it’s clear he doesn’t like you going out. He wants you so low.
And if you picked a number - any number - and told him he would use it as a means of abuse.
I met someone at 29 who had been around as he called it. Don’t judge. Then he asked me and I told him I’d had two previous partners, one I’d been with for 11 years.
He didn’t speak to me for days said he couldn’t cope. And I’d lied as well, it was actually 5. Just two had been serious.
Once I told him it was like a red rag to a bull because it wasn’t enough.
Then he wanted to know more details and he just used it against me. He would question me over and over.
Please don’t go back, listen or endure this.

Who is he to judge what promiscuous means? As far as I know there isn’t a number above which you qualify for a big P to be tattooed on your forehead, but below which you are still classed as a virgin!

it is none of his business. Just as his past sexual history is none of yours.

He clearly has issues, whether about his own performance and ability sexually, or about womens sexual autonomy. I think I would be reconsidering whether I wanted to continue sharing life with someone so suspicious and so vicious in his condemnation.

In the '80s, when we were all going to die of AIDS, and not be sure who we caught it from, so you'd have to tell everyone you'd ever slept with.

JFC he’s a nutter 😳

Glad you’ve dumped him

Possessive and controlling. Unfortunately for some women this combination proves fatal.

The only sane answer to a "body count" question HAS to be "Honestly, to my knowledge, I've never killed anyone."

They always seem to come out with this 'body count matters' trope, but don't appear to have any acceptable answer as to why they think it does.

I don't remember this feature of the 1980s.

It would be a useful thing to do for tracing infection if you actually caught hiv or a std but not as standard each time you dated someone.

Is it possible you misunderstood this difference?

Absolutely fucking noooooooooottt!!

Just reading that has given me the ick.

Who the fuck does he think he is?!!

Were the lists meant to include addresses, pics and dates of birth?

Seriously this is so deranged, never heard of anyone sharing lists of people or even saying the number as a 'recommended' thing.

Me neither, and I was a student in the 1980s.

How on earth would giving someone a list of people you slept with ten or twenty years ago tell them anything relevant? A current STI check would be much more informative.

He has messaged me telling me choice have been made and not to call him