Boyfriend can’t accept my past

[2026dreams]

My partner wants to know about my sexual past and everyone I have slept with, is this normal ? He wants to know details of people I slept with 27 years ago

I'd be waiting for the next round OP, just be armed with your resolve. I doubt that will be the last of it.

She HAS given him the boot.

I'm a man in my 50s and I agree with the PPs who say this a red flag. I could see chatting in general terms as part of the getting to know you phase, but not a body count or having to account for and report on details from years ago.

I think it’s normal to ask a general question from the perspective of getting to know someone deeply. I definitely asked my husband if he’d had long term relationships, what he’d been up to dating wise at the time we met etc. but to ask specifics and obviously from a point of judgement is wrong and is a reason to LTB right now. No explanation.

Glad you've ended it Op, three years is more than enough time to waste on a man who doesn't trust you to go out by yourself

its a type of control - even if he knows what is he going to do about it? A friend of mine her x "couldn't forgive her for being unfaithful" because she slept with someone before she even met him... ridiculousness

Tell him to fuck off and end the relationship. This is not a good guy.

RUN.
Edited to say I see you have, glad to hear it.

Oh good ♥️

I absolutely love that op had a problem, asked about it, got the answers she knew herself and went and did what she had to! Usually there’s so much handwringing and back and forth, but op handled this perfectly 👌🏻 well done op ❤️

I can’t do it anymore so I shan’t
he used to send me Facebook reels in the night about body count matters

Remains to be seen what happens when he starts the love bombing though. And he will.

I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this batshittery, OP. Well done for dumping him. Truly excellent work 👏

at 50?! Does he have developmental delay?

😂possibly
it’s so weird when I think about it and then he would be perfectly normal when I spoke to him

Obviously condoms and sti tests are more important. I’m just saying that the list is something we were taught to do.

Not normal. Your past is your past. Hexshould only be concerned with the present and future. Not to mention your your previous partners privacy too.

OP this is straight out of the Andrew Tate playbook. So is the number three, which a pp brought up. This is the ‘body count’ number that’s the acceptable maximum for a woman according to Tate - and he uses that exact phrase. He argues that a low number is vital for women because loyalty, ‘discipline’ (whatever that means) and bonding are supposedly eroded by multiple partners.

What was your (now ex) partners attitude to his own ‘body count’ ? Because surprise surprise according to Tate, this shit doesn’t apply to men.

Sounds to me as though your (now ex) partner is a fan.

I doubt that's why he "dumped her". He just got an excuse. Men like that need to have the woman 'at fault", particularly when he's down the pub with his mates explaining why he left a girlfriend 9 months pregnant with his child.

I mean I’m not the best place to say this given the topic I have made but the list being something you were taught to do sounds quite strange, it’s giving me forever and Judy Blume vibes

Get rid of him. This will be the tip of the iceberg and he will get worse.
Your past is none of his business.

No. He is a frothing loon with control issues seemingly

@2026dreams I am actually really, REALLY proud of you for not falling for his creepy, weird sexual questions.
A list, a body count, descriptions seems more like someone wanting to find a brick to bang over your head than real concern.

Be be aware though. He might not, probably won't stop. I hope and pray he just lets you alone but be prepared.
New lovebombing, texts, emails, calls, showing up where he knows you go. Gifts, etc. It's all more of a red flag, not someone who is "sorry". Block him on all of your social media and communication devices. Watch your surroundings when out, even by your home.
Stay aware is all that I am asking.

Taught by whom?

Andrew Tate?

Someone who enjoys the "details"?

Any other nutcases....