I have ONE fucking thing a week I do for myself and dh repeatedly lets me down by being late home

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and tonight "he forgot"

I have been so supportive to him lately and he can't even be fucked to think of me

This is becoming a pattern
I am beginning to think he is a selfish cunt who doesn't give a shit about anyone but himself.

In fact I have thought it for a while

He is compounding it with repeated selfish behaviour

I never let him down
never

lol at sexy manny, great idea

Do his good points outweigh this problem zone

You need to let him down occasionally.

My dh goes through phases of being utterly self-centred too

dh asked me to email him a list of dates we couldn't make a works do

i didn't include ds2's birthday (damn fool that i am)

you can guess the rest

i think tis odd that finbars h never rings to say he is on his way.

lol at you can guess the rest

i remember that tutt

He has loads of good points

We have rowed repeatedly over his inability to think about me though and STILL he lets me down

frankly i find it easier just to have no time to myself at all

then i'm never let down

I don't agree that 'men just are like this'; I live with a bloke who does frequently not remember stuff but I don't think it's inherent - I think on one level the Children Stuff is relegated to me to remember. Because my partner - and a lot of other men - seems more than adequately able to juggle, and organise, a rather good career.

This relegation really, really pisses me off.

I do have to write Important Things in Large Lettering in Dh's diary though.

I write them across the whole day space so he can't pretend they're not there and double book.

Once a term I fill Dh's diary with Events he Must Not Miss, particularly School things that either I cannot attend (and someone has to) or that require both parents input.

I will leave this thread open when he gets home

I never moan about him on mn but this time I am so fucked off that I am

He won't liek that I bet

Ill have him
i email dh my dates

and thats it

cammelia i often wish i could log into dh's work server

and have editor rights on his organiser

so fecking sad eh? aspiring to be my dh's pa

I'm not sure about the men are like this thing. Dh wouldn't let me down if we'd agreed he'd be here so I could go out but it happens so rarely he could hardly miss it tbh. Cd, does he forget, or just not think it's important, or what?

Dh has to remember umpteen things to do with children every day (as he drops and collects them) and he manages it but because he HAS to. If he forgets a PE kit/money for something he has to sort it out.

It's in his diary

bet he never misses a business meeting

dh wanted me to access his online diary
i said no
look at the friggin calendat
but i do haev the luxury of parents nearby and a reliable teenager next door

Dh often doesn't remember his own dentist appts etc either so its not about him not thinking of me.

I just think men are all Mummys boys underneath.

I think you need to have a big row discussion about it tbh

Not very positive but that's what I resort to!

Does he put it in his calendar at work? I need Outlook to tell me where to be every day, does he need to do sometihng like that to remind him?

Ah. Dh does this occasionally.

In fact, I spoke to him twice at work yesterday and both times he forgot to ask about DD's fitting for her hearing aid. Twas only when he got home at gone 9pm that he said "oh, how did it go today - I kept meaning to ask".

BUT, the things he forgets he makes up for by doing little things here and there. Like seeing something nice or useful when out and about and buys it for me. Not big things, just little things like a bar of chocolate he knows I like or something. (yes, i'm easily pleased!).

Sorry you've been let down lady. It sucks.

again cammelia i find myself nodding

maybe it's not all men

maybe it's those who have/had mothers who organised their fathers

so now they expect it of their wives

MIL runs her ship like a sergeant major

Oh ok, it's in his diary.
No excuse then.

And absolutely, I bet he never does miss a meeting.

I say to dh sometimes when he says on phone "gotta go, Michael wants something" "you're not fking married to fking Michael"

Sympathy CD.

I go directly to DH's secretaries and get them to put things in his diary. We are a coven.