Glam & Fab Part 6 - The Summer of Discontent

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Hope you all find your way onto this new one !

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Oh fark only 250 calories - am definitely buggered then!

Am off to bed now but might post a link to my slight barney thread if I'm feeling brave tomorrow. Am a bit worried as I upset the OP - that's so unlike me! I think my arse-kicking tendencies are coming back

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LOL - you mad stalker you! Did I arse-kick or what?!

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Oh crikey - now I really do feel bad I really did go off on a bit of an evangelical diatribe considering it's the only thread (other than this one) that I've done more than 1 post on for months

I really must go to bed now - my eyes are burning and I can't see! This must be what it feels like to be a true MNer

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cnc great to see you back even if your arse kicking as long as it's not here When lo due ?

Baffy glad you had good hol can't believe it's over already maybe you needed some time away to see what you have in your life that makes you happy and what doesn't. I know that sounds simplistic but maybe that's what it comes down to ? When are you viewing house ?

Ginny when is the hol must be soon now ? So to hear he is still investing 24/7 in alcohol but glad you still getting support from aa. Do you think he may try and change when you are away and the dc's will be in his company all the time ?

Dior you have done so well

TFM how's entertaining going ? We did swimming and park yesterday. Was hoping to do park and picnic today but it raining so we going to hire out dvd and get some popcorn/sweets and have cinema day at home.

Ladyl how did first day go ?

to everyone else

Well not speaking to dp today had an argument last night about how much time he is on computer bearing in mind my mnet use. I don't mind it but i hate when i try to talk to him and he doesn't listen properly or only half arsedly listens because he too busy on computer. I have no adult convo all day so it would be nice to have a chat even if it's not very exciting. So i told him he may as well go and take computer with him and stormed off to bed! He has gone to work today so will see what tonight brings.

Oh well good job i have mnet

hi everyone, back after another nice long weekend away with H.

really confused about the future tho. really really really confused. he is still reticent and i feel like i'm driving for something i'm not sure i want anyway.

cnc, brilliant to see you back. can i ask a favour? if i email via FB can I ask a question about child contact etc? feel free to say no if you'd prefer not to tho.

hope everyone else well.

Dior sounds like you're doing great with the diet/excercise and hope the bully issue gets resolved. are they in the same class next year?

LL, how's the new job? I think I mght have to to job hunt, got my half year review on Thursday!

Baffy, glad you had a good time. Well done for having a word with yourself and enjoying it!!

Tanee, did you read the paper yesterday about the theatre company who's SAT Nav sent them down a flooded lane and they ended up on the roof of their bus? I thought of you and dp when i read it altho I realise it wasn't really anything to do with you LOL.

UC, well done on getting glam. hope you're doing good too.

HW, hope you're enjoying the hols.

TFM, hope all good with you. thanks for the text. phone went on blink over the weekend so couldn't talk to anyone. new 3g up and running today tho.

hi to anyone i've missed too

Hi everyone
Sorry not been around much busy with my lot and trying to do things with them during the hols.
Just realised only got 2 weeks until holiday in spain and so have embarked on a 'quick fix' diet. Never done one before but i am trying the meal replacement shake thing for only 2 weeks to hopefully kick start me. I did a detox at the weekend and i know it sounds weird but i already do feel a bit slimmer (although the scales have not shown it yet ). I know it is not the best way to do it but i am desperate not to feel like a beached whale the first day i arrive. I have about the same as you to lose dior so maybe we should make sure we meet up from sept onwards to give each other some encouragement.

Baffy glad you had a good time - it really does clear your head if you can concentrate on what you have - your lovely ds. You should be proud you did the holiday on your own and i bet you feel less daunted by the prospect now. (i almost wish i was going away just with the children - but i am treating the hols a bit like that).

Anyway got to go now the usual chaos to sort out.

Feeling a bit smug too though as yesterday managed to get 3 out of the 4 pairs of school shoes bought - now just got to make sure their feet dont grow .

aw no Lily, i hate it when it gets that way. mind you, just recently it's been me that has been filtering H out whilst i watch dd or get a job done. hate to admit i'm not overly interested in what he's saying either!

at least i've been able to catch myself and apologise then listen to what he's saying.

my excuse is i'm not used to him being around

ginny, seen your FB updates and really feel bad for you. sounds like DP has really gone off the rails this time. maybe this is the final slide to rock bottom before he starts the journey back up?

really glad you're going to Al-Anon tho.

talked about the first time H went awol this weekend and he said "i must have been so twisted to have done that". he still says he can't remember much when i ask him some questions. i'm not sure it's a memory issue as much as not wanting to discuss it.

otoh, we have had a couple of good talks about stuff and we did have one small blow up on the way to the festival. i got the shits as his "i can't babysit, i've got comittments" transpired to be various fun activities with his mates from the pub.

he knee-jerked when i accused him of not giving a shit that my life has changed beyond recognition and that he has no regard for the fact that he leaves me 100% responsible 100% of the time.

anyway, we calmed down. talked it thru and the end result was good so all's well that ends well.

on the whole communication is a great deal better. he's being much more honest. not sure i can especially deal with an honesty that says "i sort of know what i want in the future but i'm not ready to do it yet".

that makes me feel very shelved, sidelined, unwanted, unimportant and just like i'm on standby waiting for him to decided the time is right.

none of which makes me feel very kindly disposed toward him...............

god i've waffled on now!

sorry

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Hi Cash - good to see you? When's your baby due? I have to confess there has been a bit of fishwifey screaming going on, especially at 3 in the morning!! I'm sure the neighbours think we are complete pikeys!
We go tomorrow afternoon, and I'm starting to look forward to it at last. The boys are beside themselves with excitement - ds2 woke me up at 5 just to remind me that we are going tomorrow and ds1 has already packed a suitcase full of lego and toys (might leave that one here!!)
Got lots of work to do today before I go, and loads more to do at home so might not get on here too much but hope everyone has a good few weeks. I'll be thinking of you all
xxxxxx

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Hi everyone - hope everyone is ok....not got time to catch up hope all ok...total and complete financial meltdown here - lost it with H and said am really panicked we might lose the house and he can't just keep getting angry and not talking about it....he put phone down then rang back half hour later quite calm and sensible says he has "rescue plan" which involves him moving out of his lovely flat and into shitty one bed we own (very grotty and rundown whereas his flat is lovely 2 bed recently refurbished) - he also said he would look after kids if I did do some extra weekend shifts (that was my suggestion)..he had some other suggestions (not yet offered to sell his stupid top of range mitsubishi though)....anyway feeling bit calmer been hiding at sis this weekend (tarts baby's birthday on sat and just didn't want to be about)......
Will probably not be around much need to sort things out before I end up in debtors prison

Hi all, I'm just popping in briefly as we're almost single-handed this week at work - so I really ought to try to be in charge and do some work instead of gassing with my friends .

Will catch up on all of you asap - but just quickly, wanted to say hallo - Baffy, good to see you back.

Dior . How's the depilation going ?

Ginny - lol at Twatface - great name. I had an exbf who I always refer to as Pratface - the only man I ever knew who, after stalking me and being an absolute prick, I would cross the road, if not the town, to avoid! I'm so sorry yours is sliding downhill so badly. Have you decided on whether he holidays with you or you go it alone?

PC, I didn't see the story about the theatre group - but it COULD have been them ! Certainly we had so much rain in Eyam that we thought the show would be flooded out, but amazingly, 200 people turned up on the Saturday night and luckily the audience at least were under a marquee. We were baling out the stage supports, which, left under bright blue tarpaulin all night, turned into little swimming pools. I love SatNav - I like the way the voice seems to get more and more irate with every wrong turn you make .

Well, DP and I had a lovely four days together. He was like his old self and I am glad I went. I admitted to him that I'd almost told him to shove it on Wednesday, as he seemed so unenthusiastic about my visit, and he said he hadn't known how much he wanted me there, until he saw me lurking at the back of the audience on Thursday night. Then he realised just how much he'd needed to see me . We walked a lot, exploring the plague village and Buxton, and sat up far too late every night, and it was like rediscovering how much we enjoy being together all over again.

Just hope we can keep up the good work at home.

Seem to have my first booking for a student, starting on Saturday - just one girl, aged 17, from the company that visited last week. Hope it goes well.

Ginny, just seen your earlier post - I really hope you manage to have a good holiday - despite him. But so sad that it'll be goodbye at the end. - but as AlAnon said, take one day at a time.

Anyone know where TFM is? I miss our Guru!

Hi everyone, welcome back Baffy. Just a quick one to say I probably wont be about much as I have a busy few weeks.

At the moment I feel like im about to implode trying to pack for the whole family....I know we are going to have that moment when we get in the car about to go away with me really stressed and short tempered and hubby (whose sole input in the holiday preparation will be getting in the car and plugging in the sat nav) will say "what on earth is wrong with you" Do you think it would be OK to slap him a few times or would it start the holiday badly?

Wily, get the Satnav lady to slap him - she sounds like a right dominatrix!

Wily, I am so there with you on that!

H very nearly did something similar after turning up slightly late and i was still running round like a nutter getting everything together.

he rather sensibly showed some restraint tho and kept shet!

maybe he is learning

how about just waiting till he's got in, plugged in satnav then realise you have just one more bag which you must absolutely shove in his window via his head?

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I'll be on the beach sipping cocktails by then Dior, but I'll still cross my fingers anyway !!!
Well he's coming round tonight for a chat (the one he wanted to have on Friday) I am going to try and clear the air between us so we at least start the holiday off on a good foot. BUT I'm laying the law down too, I'm not putting up with him talking to me like shit again, holiday or not.
Wily - I am so with you on the packing. Its a nightmare. I've already had a text from his dd asking if we've got any room in our case as she's full up! This time I'm only packing for me and the dc - he can do his own, but that's hard enough.
The sad thing is I'm going to miss my little kitten. My friend is having him to stay at her house and I'm hoping he'll be OK (and that she gives him back!)
How wet am I!!
MacD - sorry you're not doing too well. At least he did come up with the rescue plan, although his attitude at first was crap. I'm sure it will be OK in the end.
Anyway, better get on. Just got the last washload in off the line so just got to iron that, then pack the undies and last minute bits.

Have a lovely holiday Ginnny. Hope you have a great time with the dcs. So sweet how excited they are. Lol at suitcase of lego You are being very strong re. p. Well done

New job going well so far thanks all. Team are friendly enough. It's weird not knowing anything, but that will come. I suppose I should enjoy not being rushed off my feet. It is right next to the shopping centre so I will be so skint!

Good luck in your half year review PC - maybe delay looking til you find out whether you're on track for a bonus

Hi baffy glad you had a great holiday and enjoyed your time with ds. How is everything with h?

MacD - sorry about your financial problems. H's suggestion sounds like a sensible step but I agree that the Mitsubishi should go. It's hardly an essential is it.

Hi TFM - you have been busy haven't you.

UC - how are you?

Happywoman - you must be permanently busy with 4 kids. That struck me when you said you had bought 3 out of 4 pairs of school shoes? It is a struggle to even get one pair, let alone 4. Must be lovely too though.

Dior - well done on the 9 mile bike ride and the school walks. You go girl! Sorry I didn't realise you were a WW leader before - some of my posts must have seemed quite patronising

Hi Lilyloo - how's it going?

Ignore the question mark after shoes. Grammar has gone awry.

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