Hi everyone,
Dior, belated Happy B'day to your DS - you must be so proud of his end of term report - you know, I think that what this shows about all our dcs, is that whatever the men are putting us through, we are still doing a brilliant job with our dcs - they are growing up, I hope, to be wonderful people - so let's all give ourselves a pat on the back, girls !
UC - sounds like a photo to keep, whatever happens, even if you wish he'd taken off the pinny and had a nasty accident on the hot stove . I also think a legal separation would be a good move - he does seem to come tripping back when he thinks you're moving on, doesn't he? This will send him a signal, loud and clear, that you won't be kept on the back burner (pinny or no pinny). As the others have said, it doesn't have to mean the end, but it'll help you to know where you stand and plan your life for yourself. If he later wants to tag along, you can deal with that as and if it happens. Nothing is forever - look at the Burtons - or even me - DP and I are on our 2nd time around - even though he seems hellbent on screwing it up again
Ginny, glad you had a good time. Do you think you could continue to have a relationship without living with DP? Could that be the answer? Did he behave better before he moved in, or would it just be better not to know he's on the piss, as he won't be coming home to you?
McD, so glad DD took the news so well. Children can be remarkably flexible about these things as long as they are in the open. I know of a man who didn't tell his DDs about his new family, and they found out by accident. It has backfired horribly, and they don't ever want to meet their half-siblings. Which is a loss to all the children, but the man's a pratt, always was and always will be.
I had a pleasant quiet weekend. DD was out with her friends most of the time. I was supposed to meet a schoolfriend for a picnic yesterday, but decided against it as his friends are really boring and not particularly friendly (been on picnics with them before, and spent most of the time talking to myself as friend had his new girlfriend with him). I was also feeling down about DP despite the sunshine, so spent the day in the garden, lots of undergrowth needed pruning. Felt better for that and walked to work today. Hope I can see DP this weekend in Derbyshire. We always seem to be closer away from home, more like we used to be, and it will be nice to get out of London. (the downside is that his alcoholic sister and BIL usually come to that show - and then have a drunken rage against the family afterwards - can I face that? )
Talked to a RL friend yesterday, who said she feels much the same as DP about sharing the front room with her DCs though her DH is more easy going, so she has fixed up TV and comfy chairs in their bedroom. If only DP realised that this feeling is not unique to him!