Glam & Fab Part 6 - The Summer of Discontent

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Hope you all find your way onto this new one !

mac, that pic of you at the wedding is lovely.

please don't put skinny pics up for comparison.

I could show you pics of me when I was 17 and there was a gap at the button of my jeans coz my hips stuck out so much!

in those days this was considered boney and unnattractive and i was ribbed for my boy-like figure with no boobs.

either way, i ain't 17 or boney no more and i ain't never gonna be again!

not wishing to belittle anyone's isshoooos with their body image but when there's so much other crap we're all dealing with what's the harm in the odd kilo bar of chocolate !

you're a working single parent with a lot on her plate besides. go easy on yourself!

when the time is right, you'll find ways to feel better about your body. look at Dior & TFM for inspiration!!!!

,McD i know i am lucky as i am stuffing my face but luckily dd is sucking it all out and has a rather lovley pair of thighs to show for it, dp says she takes after me Interesting about bf dd until she 1 maybe you can comment on this although haven't said it's helping my weight on ther as not very pc

Agree with PC lurrrve chocolate

i was another "opposite" in terms of BF. I was really quite tubby until dd self weaned at 15m.

very envious of my friends who were blardy catwalk thin when BF.

I am having the last laugh now tho as I began to lose weight the minute dd stopped and have now settled at around 3kg less than I was when I had my booking in appt.

I admit that as I no longer train I have dropped a lot of muscle but I'm still not sure why my waistline has shrunk as well.....

MacD stop putting yourself down...when I saw your profile pictures on FB I thought "oh shes really nice...what was her husband thinking, he must be mad"

McD just seen your pics of dd on your profile they are lovely dd the same with loads of hair will have to work out how to put some pics on mine!

Macd if you'd love a good hangover do you want mine?!

Please take it!

UC I hope you're ok?

full fat coke baffy and some cheese n onion crisps.

surefire hangover cure

My hangover cure a good fry up, a macdonalds (only time I eat them) or another drink

I tend to be a bit of a day after vomiter these days so I try not to get hangovers now.

I recommend 2 Nurofen Iboprofens and a pint of water. Stops the head throbbing!
MacD - you are gorgeous! The photo of you at the wedding in the black dress is stunning and you don't look at all overweight.
UC - hope the chat wasn't too awful this morning.
Well its our 3 year anniversary today. Dp is working down the road from me. I've just been to a thing at ds1's school all morning, phoned him up and he says "I'm just at Travis getting some sand" (Travis is 2 mins from me) so I said "Pop in and have a coffee on way back then if you like"
His answer?
"Ah well I'm not actually in Travis, I'm just outside the Bristol (about 10 mins in other direction) about to have a pint!"
I just told him to shove his anniversary up his arse!!
More lies, more drinking. I've had it. I'm so furious!
Oh yes - he took me for breakfast this morning in Witherspoons (so he could have a pint!).
WTF am I doing wasting 3 years of my life on such an arsehole.
Somebody slap me!

Ginny so Can't believe you went to Wetherspoons

Def a Macd Baffy

boring can anyone help

i can't do macD hangover cures anymore after eating 2 in quick succession (think still a little dwunk) then going on a mahoosive training session and depositing them over the side of the boat.

actually, a mahoosive training session works brilliantly for getting rid of hangovers.

I only went in there because it was absolutely pouring and it was the closest place. I hate it in there but they do a nice fry up (sorry Baffy!!). I had coffee but he had to have a pint (it was 9.30 in the morning FFS). He probably went back there for a few more when I went up to school
I'm sitting here thinking how happy I was 3 years ago when we met and how lovely (I thought) he was.
Now its all turned to shit, like everything in my life usually does.
Sorry. I'm on a real downer today.

Oh Ginny so sorry. I didn't mean 'why' did you i meant i can't believe he goes there and takes you
That is very that he thinks having a pint at 9.30 am is ok although in that place i guess it is
Don't really know what to say 'happy anniversary' doesn't seem appropriate
Can you not treat yourself anyway if he won't ?

Thanks Lily - I don't normally go near the place I hate it, but I didn't want to have a row today, so I let it go, bit my lip and went in. Thinking about it he probably only suggested it because he knew I didn't want to argue today and he knew he'd get away with it. But as usual he pushes me too far.
I might go shopping later - try a bit of retail therapy to cheer myself up. Although the weather is so shit I might just hole up under the duvet and forget about today altogether!

Order yourself a lovely bunch of flowers then !!!

OMG!!!
He's just put a really nice Anniversary card through the letterbox and inside he's written "Hope you find someone nice, All my love X!"
WTF's that all about!

Oh dear why has he done that ?

Did you see him ?

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Just to be spiteful I guess. He says he lied because he was in the card shop buying a card and didn't want to tell me.
Prat!
Am I being unreasonable? Is it me? I don't know any more. He's tying me up in knots, lying all the time and now the card?
Its all so confusing

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ginny for you.

quick update, i have booked a consult with Dr Halvorsen who specialises in informed immunisation. will take dd 1st august. intend ot have consultation then possibly do a blood test to check for existing immunity or have the measles jab there and then.

on a positive note, h has been very supportive and we have had a proper discussion about the way forward. altho i have done all the research and basically said "you have a right to your own opinion but please don't disagree with me on how i want to handle this"

he is happy with the way i want to go and, thankfully agrees that it is the best way forward.

he works nearby so we will have lunch together after the appointment.

I feel so relieved to have finally made a decision!

He lied about where he was and said he was going in the pub rather than say he was getting you a card

Because obv that was going to make you feel better!

ginny, he is being childish and spiteful.

he got busted and instead of being adult and putting his hands up to it, he's trying to wheedle his way out of it and make you feel guilty to boot!

i am so sorry you're going thru it again with him.

especially on a day when you wished for something happy and pleasant to help rekindle what you had and give you hope for the future.

am assuming you've got childcare for this eve? if so, get onto a mate and get something organised for tonight pronto.

if you decide to give him another chance he can make it up to you at the weekend.

PC glad your sorted

Ginny if he has posted it to get a reaction i wouldn't give him one and i certainly would follow PC'S advice go out and enjoy yourself !

Glad its sorted PC and that H has been supportive.
Lily - he did go to the pub, it was saying he was in Travis when apparently he was in a card shop I still don't buy it. I think he bought the card after to make me feel guilty (and it worked!).
Just had a good old screaming match on the phone - I'm never going to find anyone else like him (a good thing imo!), nobody else would ever put up with me , I'm selfish and I should let him take the dc and his dd on holiday and not go because all this is my fault and why should they all suffer because of me.
Yeah - like I'm going to send my precious dss abroad alond with him. God forbid
Oh and I should go to anger management and not some stupid churchy group (Alanon)
He's deranged!