Husband said he wants to split up and I’ve been totally blindsided - part 2

[mummy917]

Made a new thread as the original one is almost full 😊rel

From your posts o don’t think it’s just the last 3 months is it?

I’ve missed the meaning of There We are Then. Can someone explain plleeeeease

The first letter of each word @Unusualsuspects

Doh! Ha ha yes, excellent 😂

What sort of lawnmower do you have OP. Before he left my XH made such a fuss about the lawn and how much work he did looking after it. We have a battery operated lawnmower so it stops automatically if you let go and there are no cables to worry about. My 9yo can use it. She cut the grass herself tonight. So basically pretty much his entire contribution to the household has been replaced by a nine year old girl. It’s really nice realising you were right all along when you told him he wasn’t doing enough around the house. There we are then 😂

Oh brilliant!!

Good for you op on saying no thanks to the lawn but you can take the kids out.

That's what he should have been asking in the first place. There we are then. 🙄🤦

I think the midnight text was him all alone in his new crappy place wondering if he'd made the right call and wondering if you were pining for him. 🙄🙄🙄

Keep offering time with the kids and make sure it's ALWAYS out of your house, and like you say, with all of them together.

For now in your mind Id work with the thought that you cannot rely on him as a coparent, offer the time, let him turn it down or mess about knowing that to be fair in the end the kids will be fine as long as you are fine.

You are doing great.

T.W.A.T.

He sounds like a waste of space and you and the kids are better off without him. He will only have himself to blame if in future years his kids dont want to see him and dont have any relationship with him.

He might think hes going to live the life of riley now but fast forward 10 years and they wont want to know him.

I changed the phone id photo of my xh to a Cock(erell) my son asked me why dads picture was a chicken while ex was on the phone!!!

@mummy917

You can always change his name on your phone to 'Mr Wonderful'. You'll get the sarcasm, the kids probably won't. Or do as a friend did, she changed her ex to 'Mr Lastname'. She said the 'formality' of it both amused her and helped her keep her cool when she had to speak to him.

I wouldn’t do well on Countdown would I? 😂🤦‍♀️

You should change the password too !

TwattyBye (less polite!)

Ha, yes I wasn't sure either....but then spotted the first letters of each word and did wonder if it was that ha ha

Because you cannot be the villain in your own life story.

No he’s not asked how the kids are, not FaceTimed them or anything since seeing them briefly on Sunday. I don’t know why, but I thought he’d at least ring to say goodnight to them but nothing.

And no, it hasn’t really just been the last 3 months that he’s been this way for, but I’ve definitely noticed it more since all of this started. I really hope he will step up and I will keep offering him the time with the kids but also won’t chase him for it. When I offer if it’s a no or he doesn’t respond, then I’ll leave it at that.

I may just change his name in my phone to There We Are Then 🤣 my eldest will probably grass me up though hahaha.

My lawnmower is a mains powered one but it’s easy enough to use. I like the sound of a battery powered one though, no wires is appealing. And I did laugh out loud at the fact your husband’s only contribution has now been replaced by a 9 year old 🤣

Have the children commented on his lack of contact? Not boding well for 50/50, is it?

Look for a battery powered one that munches. No cuttings to get rid of. It munches the cuttings then puts it back onto the grass so it acts as fertiliser. You cant see it

Look for a battery powered one that mulches. No cuttings to get rid of. It mulches the cuttings then puts it back onto the grass so it acts as fertiliser. You cant see it

Meant to edit not quote!
Mulch not munch

I thought one that munches was just brilliant! 😂

He’s really pushing himself to be father of the year isn’t he 😂. I’d love to know when he thinks this 50/50 is meant to start. I hope the kids are doing well and that your daughter’s settling in day goes well today. Be interesting to see if he even remembers to either wish her luck or check in afterwards to see how it went.

It will be interesting to see how much contact he has once he’s got the new place sorted out, settled, and maybe has a chance to miss then? But then, he wasn’t that engaged with them, or at least by the end, so…

How are the kids doing?

Hope the new school taster day goes well.

TattyBye is good! 😂

Love the idea of getting kids to help in the garden, does their self esteem wonders!

And I’m tempted to look into getting myself a battery lawn mower that ‘munches’! 😉

This.