The Dating Thread 59 - meeting in midsummer with passion ablaze🔥

[Nosdacariad]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
If you're wondering if you're being too picky/should give another chance after the second chance/should try harder - the answer is invariably NO! You're not and you shouldn't. If this, now, is as good as it's going to get, the A game, then do you want what comes next?!
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

Thank you @coolpattern and @Ilovelurchers enjoy the date!

As I said they never seem to look in a mirror these type of guys. See them on OLD - young looking and young at heart - well you must be 85 then not the 60 you pretended!

My ex Mr Situationship sometimes told folk he was younger than me on holiday and made jokes RW taking an older lady away 👀 - a/ he wasn’t b/ he didn’t look it c/ he wasn’t believed, or at least some checked it with me, which I doubt they would as people normal folk appreciate that could be offensive

Negging just comes easy to some folk I guess - might be gifted free along with the crazy mirrors they must buy.

You sound absolutely lovely - he definitely knew you are too good for him and just pulling last straw from a depleted bag - tosser.

Thank you. Two people recently have told him he was "punching" so maybe he was feeling that 🤷‍♀️

Dog walk is happening! Heading out now, wish me luck with Mr Peach 🍑

Oh yeah, in my experience a certain kind of men hates to be told that.

A couple of people made comments to the ex who used to put me down, assuming he was my dad (he was actually old enough to be my dad so it was fair enough.) And I remember a guy in a pub once asking him what he did for a living because he must earn a lot to be with a "lovely young woman like me" - but it was purely a joke - any decent man would have laughed along. But it was always a day or two after things like this, that he would make a point of telling me he didn't find me attractive....

Whereas my daughter's dad (no saint - he cheated a lot - but to give him credit he always made it clear he found me attractive used to almost be flattered if people asked him how he was doing so well to get a woman like me and would just shrug and laugh along - his ego was

secure enough to take it...

Good luck lovely! I hope Mr Peach realises how lucky he is to get the chance of a date with a woman like you!

Good luck!

So just got home from my date with Mr Peach and it actually went really well! It was a very strange date but in a good way, it’s hard to explain. He felt very familiar? As though he was an old friend I hadn’t seen in forever, but with the attraction there too. Definitely attracted to him! His personality was a lot gentler than he comes across over message.

After the walk we went back to my car (very busy car park for a country park) and we sat cuddling and kissing like teenagers 🙈 I could tell he was very nervous though!

Feel this one could have legs, but you just never know.

This is brilliant! Great news 😁

Wow, that sounds brilliant! And you utterly deserve some dating luck. ❤️❤️❤️

Oh God did I overreact and do the wrong thing?

What makes you think you have overreacted? If it helps, I suspect the answer of literally every person on this thread would be "hell, no". But it is your view that matters.

I am so pleased things went well with Mr Peach, @empirebiscuits12 . An old friend is a wonderful vibe to have, and snogging like a teenager is my favourite thing about dating at a more mature age!

How does everyone stop themselves getting carried away with a new iron? I have already planned several holidays together. Obviously I have not told him, that would be insane. But I do wonder that I am setting myself up for a fall.

@BellaBlackberry83 I just don't want to have thrown the baby out with the bathwater.

I think planning holidays is fine so long as there is a voice in there reminding you it's just for fun at this stage.

I understand, @Nosdacariad. I have definitely been there. I think the question is whether the baby is worth dealing with the bathwater. You will make the right decision for you x

No

I have already ended it 🙃

@Nosdacariad I promise I won’t text my ex if you don’t text yours. Currently I’m contemplating sending him a screenshot of his dating profile asking if he actually understands what ‘monogamy’ means 😡

Oh don't do it! I sent MrX a screenshot of his Tinder while he was declaring undying love to me.
He said someone at work made him do it 😅