Pinkpoet support thread (TW for SA)

[PinkPoetAgain1]

Just starting a new thread for those who are following/supporting

I’m all over the place mentally at the moment as I said in my last thread but I’m still listening xx

Hello Poet, hope you are alright. Sending best wishes.

Just checking in to send best wishes to Poet, I hope she is ok and safe x

💜

We’re all thinking of you Poet, if ever you need to come back to this thread you should x

I am thinking of you as well Poet, hope you're okay and looking forward to this nice weather coming up ❤We're here for you whenever you need x

Poet has been in my thoughts as I am sure she has with so many MNetters who have followed her threads.

You’re in my thoughts @PinkPoetAgain1 I hope you’re doing ok x

Hi @PinkPoetAgain1 , hope you are doing ok.

All I can say is that police took IDVA complaint (something not related and referred by school) and ran with it. Turns out there are videos of him assaulting/raping me. - surprised to say the least Similar scenario "you are too sexy" "can't keep my hands off you", "if you loved me" and so on. Discovered this is very common - see threads here on recent news stories and podcasts eg swingers and endeyecheck/womens aid Not all men of course and please no excuse for men with ADHD and/or autism - they know right from wrong. It's devastating when you find out someone you thought you knew and trusted actually never liked you and used you for your house owning and earning ability and sex. When you start waking up to what's happening, the tables turn ... you are the perpetrator, the sex mad pervert and family court is a nightmare.

Have you got your own thread? I’m so very sorry for what has happened to you.

Just a plea from me. This thread is filling up and I don't want it to be full when PinkPoet comes back. I'll keep quiet now and maybe we can make an effort to leave space for Pink when she comes back. I know there's a huge number of people who are worried about her.

I understand but the thread is only at 162 posts? It doesn’t get full until 1000.

FWIW I don’t think Poet will be back at all to be honest. She said she wasn’t leaving him and so there wasn’t anything else to be said. It all sounded very final.

Oh shit, sorry. I don't know why but I thought it was much further on. As you were.

Been away for a few days and just checking in now I’m home as I wanted to say hi to @PinkPoetAgain1just in case she’s around and wants to talk

Just in case other women are in similar circumstances to Poet, there’s a survey running by ITV to collect data about unconscious sexual assault in conjunction with the EndEyeCheck campaign.
https://tally.so/r/obkWy5

I’ve just watched the news about the group of men up in court - plus the victim’s husband - who took part in drugging and raping her.
I know it’s not the same for Poet.
But lots of these men looked very respectable, including a decorated paramedic.
This lady wants to stay anonymous but the shame must still change sides.
A timely reminder that there are some dangerous men out there who pass themselves off as dutiful members of society.

I’ve been thinking of you too PP, I really hope your alright and safe xx ❤️

@PinkPoetAgain1 dear Poet, we all really hope you're okay and coping. If you're not, please don't hesitate to come back 💐

It’s me again, I changed my account again, but I did read all the supportive and lovely messages. I didn’t want you to think I didn’t. ❤️

I took a break as I felt there wasn’t much more to say and I was just repeating myself again and again.

Thinks have been, genuinely, really good. He has seen a therapist twice, he hasn’t touched me without consent in any way since I was last on here, he has been kind and the last few days I’ve been recovering from a sprained ankle (tripped down a high cerb) and he’s been really great looking after me. So I’m happy with how things are going.

I’ve come back for some support right now because I’m feeling sad and awful again. I went to bed early and he’s been watching the football. He came to see me (must have been half time) and tried to wake me up but I was in a deep sleep as I’m on pain meds. I was aware he was masterbating behind me and touching my upper body but I went back to sleep so I assume it didn’t go any further or I would have woken up. I then went on to have the most HORRIFIC vivid nightmare were he held me down, r*ped me, hurt me and strangled me. It was so scary and seemed so real and now im so anxious. But im pretty sure he’s done nothing this time specifically to warrant it.

it felt like a bit of a flashback but not sure if thats from the first time i was assaulted which i dont remember at all or from more recent events.

I need to book my next therapy session in
Right now I’m just trying to calm down enough to sleep
he’s still up watching football related things I think

Oh poet, I didn't want to leave you at this time of night with no contact. How awful.for you. What he did do and what you think he might have done. And he might have done something, his track record suggests that. But the fact you even had the idea is so so worrying. Can you sleep separately tonight, please? Just to keep you safe, then think about it in the morning? Please keep yourself safe tonight. It's a well backed up fact by stats that post football matches, male domestic violence ramps up, and i include sexual behaviour in that. Please keep yourself safe tonight.

He broke your boundaries again, remember that. I am so sad for you, but you need to protect yourself tonight then work it out tomorrow.

I’ll go in with one of the kids ❤️ thank you for your message
i don’t think he’s done anything this time as Im on my period but the nightmare was truly awful, the worst ever . Feel so shaken by it

OK, yes, go in with one of the kids, that's a good idea. Tomorrow you can think about how to tell your therapist about the nightmare, you need to do that. She sounds good from your previous posts and hopefully can talk you through it. I'd do that without seeing him this evening, just go there now, and try to rest with your little one. I am so sorry this happened, although, and I'm going to say it, not surprised at all. It's who he is, he's dangerous and will not change. You and the children deserve so so much better.

I felt so sad after I read things were going well only for his boundary breaking habits to come back. It’s like he came back to wake you up for something sexual and not just to check up on you. Try sleep with the kids tonight to calm your nervous system, it sounds like you had an episode of PTSD brought on by him wanking behind you :( I hope your ankle gets better. Good to hear from you as we all do think about you x

Yes, I'm glad that you felt you could speak here as we do worry. Never think you can't.