Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

It’s been explained many times it’s nothing to do with trust. It’s about family schedules and logistics.

What you personally think means diddly squat.

Ditto. I’m not tracking him because I don’t trust him, but so I can see how far he is from home so I can organise tea.

what I find weird are people who automatically think that seeing where my husband might be means I think he’s doing something nefarious!

I do find it odd that some of the people thinking it’s some kind of stalking app and shudder in horror, are the ones also acting incapable of seeing how it can be useful and talking about people having affairs.

Whereas the ones of us using it are doing it mainly for things like getting dinners ready, checking for safety on bikes/hikes etc or collecting kids. And those thoughts haven’t even entered our heads. Not something we are worried about.

I do! He’s usually on calls on the drive home from work so saves me trying to get through to see what time he’s back for dinner.

To those with tracking apps,.if your DH/partner suddenly decided to turn it off and stop using it so you couldn't ever see their location again, wouldn't you be a tad bit suspicious?

Isn't it a bit of a slippery slope when it comes to romantic partners? A bit of a thing that once you start, you can kind of never stop. Even if all innocent and above board.

I know I would be suspicious if I had a husband that always used a location app, then suddenly out of the blue decided to switch it off forever and never share their location on it again.
Surely there'd then be a bit of suspicion?
Like, why can I now not see where you are? Why do you now not want me to know?

Just a thought experiment 🤔.

Do you think it seems more suspicious to stop sharing locations than to not want to share in the first place?

We share for convenience not because we think the other is cheating. If he wanted to stop sharing, that’s fine.

Kind of indirectly. DH has an AirTag on his keys so they can be found if he loses them, but it’s connected to my phone because he doesn’t have an iPhone. The result is that I can see where he is if I care to look. He knows this and doesn’t care. It’s handy sometimes to be able to check if he’s home - like if there’s a parcel coming or something. Most of the time I forget it’s there.

DH stopped for a while. I just told him if he wasn't going to share location he'd need to keep me updated if he was going to be back after 6:30 or he'd be eating his reheated dinner alone. A few weeks later he told me I should be able to check his location again.

Don't know why he stopped sharing, I didn't ask him. I didn't find it suspicious, I can think of several non suspicious reasons and none of them matter. I don't think he has to share his location with me and I understand some people not liking the idea of someone being able to tell where they are, or even of wanting a particular thing they do to not be observable even if everything else is.

Similarly we share diaries with each other, but if he marks something private so I can't tell what he's doing, I don't find it suspicious (though I may be intrigued, especially around my birthday).

Yep. A pretty basic requirement to communicate with your parent and let them know you’ve arrived safely somewhere, or let them know where you are when you want to be picked up. Also, it’s basic manners to inform someone what time you’ll be home if they’re cooking dinner for you. But too much for some, apparently. They’re too busy and important to keep in touch, too scattered, just shit at replying.

Well funnily enough “find my” on iPhone is not infallible and there have been a couple of instances where it stopped working for a time - but weirdly the last thing that occurred to me was that it’s been turned off because he’s having an affair/joined an OCG or some other dramatic reason. It was assumed to be, and proved to be tech issues.

it seems to be quite common amongst the younger generation to location share with friends as well as partners. My young adult children interestingly all used to share location with me for 24 hours for a specific reason eg a long journey. One by one without me asking they have all turned it on indefinitely one day and never turned it off. They might joke about me monitoring them but they know I don’t routinely, but it is useful from time to time.

We have find my iphone on and it's mainly used to check the other is going to make it back for school pick up etc.

We're all entitled to our opinions.

Having an entitelment to an opinion doesn't mean your opinion is valid. As in this case - a blanket statement about it being controlling is obviously going to be challenged as blatantly absurd since so many people have counter examples.

All opinions are valid. We dont have to agree with them all.

If Parent A isn’t going to make it back for school pick up, surely they would tell Parent B and/or make alternative arrangements? At what point does the tracking come in?

If DH is going to be later than expected, he drops me a text.

It has never occurred to me.to do any of these things but we are mid 60s. I don't think the DC and their partners do it either.

I can't believe so many people claim to need it to find phones and car keys.

All the posters claiming their husband has access to their location but never or infrequently looks at it, how do you know? Does the app tell you how often he's looking?

No they aren't. They may be sincerely held but if they are incorrect, they aren't valid.

You could say that about many things. You either trust them or you don’t.

Who gets to decide if they're right or wrong. Thats the whole point of opinions that people's views are different!

Not at all… same as you

No, we don’t track each other, I do find it odd when people do, I also wonder how much time people have if they can just sit and stalk their partner.

I think if you have been in an abusive relationship or otherwise had trust issues with partners or perhaps parents it’s completely reasonable not to want anyone tracking you.

It quite hard for those people to understand that people who have been fortunate never to be in that position wouldn't have those qualms.

I’m quite happy to have my location available to my immediate family but absolutely would not agree to a ring doorbell - something lots of people are quite happy with.

Horses for courses.

Do you mean this or are you joking? How do you think it works? Someone shares their location and immediately you have to just sit and watch your screen for 9 hours a day?

That would be the point of the discussion that you failed to engage in.

You made a claim - some one pointed out how it was incorrect - you claimed "I'm entitled to my opinion" as though that gave your opinion validity. It didn't. You need to counter the argument put to you. Your opinion is just hot air if you can show how it's true.