Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

Well I guess I do. It’s not like I decided to track him. We share an Apple family account and everyone is on there and probably have been since it first got introduced. He often works till the early hours of the morning after a night shift in hospital and if I wake up I might check to see if he’s still at work or driving home.

No way and he doesn’t mine. I can understand if you have lost trust in them but otherwise really not healthy.

Or just use the tracking app?

We have life360 on our phones with the kids as well. It’s handy for knowing when to start cooking as I get a notification when he’s left work. The kids like it too so they know when we will be home from work and how far away we are from picking them up from school and things. I don’t use to to check anyone’s location as such though, and I’d imagine they would just turn it off if they wanted to hide where they were!

Isn't it duller not to need to know where people are? Just let them live their lives a bit? I think that's fairly prosaic. Definitely duller than tracking.

I think ‘track’ is a very negative way of describing it. Sitting there watching someone’s movements is weird.

Sharing your location so someone else can see if you’ve already left work or whether you made that train or if you’re at home before they phone you is not weird.

Well that’s your life, isn’t it? We go to big places like theme parks pretty much every school holiday, DH and DD1 love the big rollercoasters so I’ll take DD2 off somewhere else to go on a smaller ride and check on map when they are off the rollercoaster and we will head on over to meet them 🤷‍♀️ We might do that multiple times in a day. And we don’t always want to arrange a specific spot to meet, we will just amble in their direction and don’t have to keep phoning to explain where we are when DD2 has got distracted by something or the queue for the rollercoaster is longer or shorter than expected.

Only inasmuch as we are both in a circle with DS on Life 360.

It's handy as I can tell roughly how long till he'll be home from work.

We all have find my iphone
not about keeping tabs or tracking someone - just very useful if you loose your iphone! Which we have done.

Funny how all the people objecting seem to think the only reason to track someone is trust. Many seem to think you are constantly watching a screen tracking their every move.
Its a useful tool that has a hundred applications, Not least of your phone is lost or stolen you can find it again.

Not actively but yes we all can see each others locations. I use it to check my daughter got home and sometimes to check where my husband is if he’s a long drive home, or if I’m wondering when he will be back from golf.

they do it with me when I’m travelling for work. But no we don’t actively track one another.

Exactly. We had our car stolen from under our noses at the motorway services. But because my son left his iPhone in the car we were able to track it in realtime and direct the police.

No I don't.

I also refuse to track my teenage children.

Occasionally, if we are meeting etc we share locations using whatsapp (for 1 hour or 4 hours or something)

This is purposeful and consentual. I do not consent to being tracked myself and i choose to trust rather than track my family, and use location sharing for specific times of need.

There are always people on these threads who claim their tracking is completely innocent, and its only used to see if their beloved caught the train or whatever.

But to know that, they'd need to be checking it all the time to see if they had or hadn't caught it. Or if the beloved was always on the 1807, then surely just assume that is the case today unless they send a message or call to say otherwise?

And as a matter of principle, no grown adult should be covertly trackable throughout their whole daily life as a matter of course. It's intrusive and unnecessary.

Yep. He works alone, at night, in a dangerous, police-adjacent job in some very dubious places. He’s been attacked a few times.
It’s a safety precaution, that’s all.

I love a rollercoaster as much as the next person, but I doubt you're going at Christmas and February as they won't be open, which leaves 4 school holidays. Not legitimate rationale for tracking someone 24/7 in my eyes. We're out more weekends than not and I have never thought once oh I wish I had tracked my husband.

We have life 360 as a family but I only look to see who’s home for dinner etc

both of us plus kids are on life 360, only ever use it for convenience - timing meals if one of us is on our way home, if he has a long drive I might check he got there safely. I could live without it if he wanted to but we both find it useful.

I have Find my iPhone on so I can find my phone if it’s lost. It’s not connected in any way to my DH and his location.

That’s not true. As said I might check to see if my husband is coming home from golf. Which means another 2 pm or something I might click and look, or if my daughter has been on a night out, I may check, but no, I’m not sitting actively checking repeatedly. What an odd take.

Agreed.
It's a blurred line. Maybe I spend too long working with violent men who use this normalisation of monitoring as justification for their controlling and abusive behaviour.

But I can track my own phone if it's stolen I just log into find my, I don't need my husband to do it

No I’ve never tracked or even wanted to know DH’s location. He messages me when he’s leaving work if he knows it’s my turn to do dinner just so I can start it. If I needed to speak with him I’d call him or message. I have zero desire to see where he is as I trust him 100%

Maybe it’s thr word track that’s the issue, it’s really just a location share. The word track indicates actively looking, stalking almost, when most people don’t do this.

We can all track our locations here. All adults.
But very rarely do.
But useful when we can’t find our phones!