Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

You can just turn in off temporarily, sometimes you have to anyway as it uses battery power. We’ve all done this at some point and no one questions it.

Lots of people saying the other person/s were totally cool with being tracked.

But there is really no way for someone who is anti-tracking to say no to a pro-tracker though is there? Any reluctance or refusal would be seen as suspicious and make the pro even more keen to use it, while the anti would be equally keen to avoid it.

If the trackee was notified every single time they were tracked, with details of who/when/how long for, all those to-the-second innocent dinner preparation checks probably wouldn't seem quite so vital for the tracker after all.

Why? Is he six?

And they’ll never stop being “shit at replying” if mummy continues to make it unnecessary for them to reply. Let them deal with the consequences of not replying, and they’ll soon learn the importance (and courtesy) of it.

If someone was cooking dinner for me, I’d be bloody thankful and would think it basic manners to let them know my ETA. I wouldn’t be one of these DHs with the big important jobs which require varying finish times, who despite holding down such a job, forgets or finds it impossible to inform the wife at home who is cooking his dinner.

so I shouldn’t pick my own kids up?!!

not that this is relevant in any way whatsoever as i shouldn’t even entertain justifying why i pick them up.
there’s one bus route where we live and it won’t be where they are (there’s no public transport to their school, and therefore their friends)
They’ve both done scouts and DofE they can read a map, use sat nav in their driving lessons etc. yet it’s still easier to go “directions to” on find my.

You’ve not met many have you? And actually, I’m as bad. I will put mine down in the house and go in the garden or whatever.

Just snorted out a chocolate digestive!!

Have met and dealt with plenty, they’re hardly an endangered species. And it’s well-known that people learn best by experiencing consequences for their behaviour. If they text mummy looking to be picked up, but don’t reply when she asks where they are, they’ll learn sweet fuck all that’s of practical use by mummy tracking them and turning up in the middle of the random field they’re in. However, if mummy doesnt magically appear, then they’ll eventually check their phone again, see the text and realise that basic communication is important (not to mention mannerly).

Ah, right. Well, my teens weren’t shit at replying. Well, if they wanted to be picked up they weren’t anyway!

Why is it that trackers are particularly appealing to those whose husbands are pedalling off in their Lycra? Dh has his faults but I thank the good lord he’s not squeezing into a nylon mesh outfit and pumping along country lanes for hours, with me at mission control monitoring progress.

I do make the dinner every evening; dh hops about a bit but he’ll txt his eta. I suppose if I tagged him I could be more precise in my timings and present a cordon bleu meal the second he comes through the door.

Our whole household (also my parent and siblings) have each other on Find My Friends.

Find it very useful as my husband works late a lot and so I can see if he’s left work or stuck in traffic etc without him needing to text/phone. (Less of an issue now CarPlay is so much better but used to save a lot of time to just be able to see how far from home he was.)

Now DC are older it’s good to see if they’re where they need to be to pick them up etc.

I think it’s only weird if one of the parties thinks it is. No big deal to us, we’re not doing anything we wouldn’t tell the other one about later anyway.

No that’s weird. Why do they not trust them? I can trace my dh for safety reasons (rides a motorcycle) but never have actually done so

They don’t text to be picked up and don’t reply like that. They aren’t that rude or stupid.

just during the day if they’ve gone into London or something I can use find my to check they’ve got where they are without texting and getting no response for an hour as they’ve not heard their phone.

The anti-trackers on the thread seem to be imagining a scenario of constant tracking. I’m thinking they are visualising banks of monitors with trackers pinging around pac-man style.
i track my immediate family members and they all track me. Some track each other. It’s no big deal and we all have better things to do than check constantly. But it’s there if it’s needed for any reason. It’s certainly not symptomatic of a lack of trust. The opposite I would say.

This is crazy. You are all tracked all the time. As are your DHs. All your apps track you, your work phones track you, your 'find my phone's track you, your weather app, maps, everything. I share a parking app with DH, DS and every ex girlfriend DS has ever had. The cheap skates from years ago still use it when they are in our town. So horror of horrors, I know these random young women are parked out the back of Marks and Spencer. No one cares. You can look up where people on your Netflix friends and family are logging in from. You are happy for Tesco to track you but not DH or the children. Why?

I agree. It’s used with trust on all sides. So everyone’s trusting everyone to use it for good and not abuse that.

having been in an abusive relationship, I’m thankful phones weren’t like this then. It would have been awful.

We have life 360 for the children, DH was only added to it when I was driving across the country last autumn as I hit a diversion and needed help. We have both stayed on it, but it’s to check children getting home from school etc, I did actually check where he was tonight as I was walking the dog up the woods quite late and he was picking me up, so checked his location to time meeting him as he wouldn’t ring when he arrived he would just wait not to rush me. If either of us were stalking the other I’d be pretty concerned

I expected my teens to let me know if they wanted to be picked up. We had a few rules-they messaged me when they got wherever they were spending the night, for example. The rule was they weren’t to do anything that would make me look like a crap parent if they went missing and I had to do a TV appeal. Worked for us.

Not by design, but by default. We all have iPhones, iPads, AirPods and a family set up to share apps etc. So all the devices are on Find My which means we can “track” each other.

It’s been very handy helping to find lost devices. We’re all aware. DD loves knowing exactly where we are and looks in on us.

We use it to check DS is at home before phoning him so as not to disturb lectures/work/fun.

We all know, we all consent.

Fuck no! We don't have any location apps installed. People freak out reading 1984 and then think it's normal to track others.

We have similar in our house. Ours is “how would this look in the daily mail”.
find my just adds an extra useful “they’ve swapped to the overground I’ll leave to get them”

Oh and my FIL has an iPhone so he’s on FindMy too (with several family members) but this is because he once blacked out while on his mobility scooter on a quiet cycle path so now we all check he’s moving/where he’s meant to be. He’s aware and has consented. We did think about just tracking the scooter but decided to track the person (he’s back on the buses until he gets the all clear for his scooter).

We’re hoping to upgrade FILs phone soon purely for the falls detection with notification sent to emergency contacts.

You’re hearing from women because it’s Mumsnet … nothing weird there.

My husband very frequently sorts dinner and I don’t get home at the same time every day. We like to eat together with the kids.

Why on earth do you care?