Does anyone track their husband’s location?

[Lana20]

Hi everyone I was just wondering if anyone uses a tracking app to check on their husbands? I don’t but all my friends do and they think I’m crazy not to. Is this normal? My husband just tells me where he’s going and calls me but apparently that’s not enough lol.

You sound rather disappointed in those of us who are at home putting the finishing touches to a meal for the family based on everyone's availability, gannett.

This works both ways in our household, and in fact, three ways as DD has also put food in the oven when DH and I are on the way home from something.

I have wondered why you seem opposed to the idea of this. We are all really busy in our family but we do like to eat together as often as we can which sometimes takes a bit of creative timetabling. Sharing locations helps us get more out of day sometimes. We could definitely manage without it but equally it is useful and none of us object in any way. I don't mind that you are not sharing your location at all and wouldn't suggest you do. However, you don't seem to reciprocate the sentiment.

Why don’t you track your husband he might have gone to the shop without permission.

DH shared his location on Google Maps when he went on a long business trip abroad so the kids could follow the interesting places he went . The conversation went like this:

"I've shared my location so the kids can see where I am."
"OK, cool."

I shared mine a while later later because I was going on a hiking trip and wanted to show him the route. The conversation went like this :

"I've shared my location so you can see our route. "
"OK, cool."

Neither of us ever bothered turning it off because it's kind of fun and sometimes useful. If one of us did turn it off the other would barely notice, let alone care.

This. Thank you. Brilliantly stated, Iwanttobeafraser.

i don't but i don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, unless someone is using it to be controlling

All those men whose wives think that stalking them electronically is OK should LTB as soon as possible!

We have each other on find my friend. We use it infrequently and not to track one another, but it’s incredibly handy incase of an accident (though thankfully we haven’t needed it for that reason so far). I horse ride and he mountain bikes, both of us are quite often alone

eta, I also frequently travel abroad alone and like the comfort of knowing someone can see where I was in incase anything should happen

That's abuse unless you've mutually agreed it.

@cinquanta 😂im glad it’s not just me having communication issues dealing with this poster. I don’t think they know their head from their tail!

We have Life360, I mainly use it for timing cooking dinner as I WFH, he doesn't and doesn't have specific finish time. My two kids who live at home are on it too, pretty much for similar reasons.

My children live with me and are young adults lol! It started when I lost my phone and it was on silent mode , so my sister suggested I used ‘find my iPhone’.

it started as a way to track the phone not the person .

we also find it useful to know where we are without messaging (my phone usually in bottom off bag , or can’t answer as busy) .
My son is 20, he’s a bit of an airhead, new to driving , and started going off travelling .. so it’s good to know he’s safe , got to a hostel, got to his destination etc.
it’s a safety net.
obviously if I had a controlling partner, I would hate it to be used as a monitoring device.
if a device was put on your phone without knowledge, that would be scary.
if everyone is happy , I’m happy.

So I can plan when to eat with him. Or not eat with him if he’s going to be too late. Or decide whether I’m going to ask him to get fish and chips on his way home. Or so I know whether I can eat with him at the golf club before I go out to play. Or quite often to work out whether he is coming home from work that evening or if he is staying in our flat in town (because, as explained above, I haven’t been listening). In the past when he travelled a lot it was useful (or at least interesting) to know what country he was in! We don’t live in each other’s pockets and we don’t feel the need to constantly communicate so it suits us. He can see where I am too.

We both have location tracking on for each other. It's not about trust - it's about convenience. For example, at the weekend he had a prang in his car and needed me to come out to him. I didn't need to get directions to wherever in the middle of nowhere he was, I just got my phone to direct me.

Yes, this is us too. I think if either or both of you have jobs or hobbies that mean your location and routine is a bit erratic, it can come in handy.

From this thread I can extrapolate that Cycling Husbands (due to every other poster mentioning the Lycra-clad partner) either need to be monitored, or are the type that like to be monitored. Just to be controversial, it’s like the men with big shiny wedding rings: they either have suspicious wives, or are displaying that they’re darned pleased to have got someone…

So would you be happy if he was tracking YOU? 😱

Yes, he can and he does.

Urgh, with a helmet cam - "you're on camera! You're going on YouTube!!"

It’s not about trust or peacocking it’s about safety.

My DH cycles for many miles into the absolute middle of nowhere on tracks rather than roads. He’s been to A&E after cycling accidents on several occasions over the years, so periodically making sure that he hasn’t come off and isn’t lying hurt alone is fairly reasonable.

I don’t check on his location if he’s cycling with a friend or a group.

I don’t track him on nights out or when he’s working away from home.

If he was a gym user, or exercised in populated areas then I would rarely check his location.

Research shows that being hands free, while legal, is still just as dangerous, so we don’t do it.

I share my location with my family because it's convenient (eg so they can find the car when I'm picking them up after sports). I don't think my husband shares his with anyone- I've never asked and have no interest really.

I would say it's pretty unusual to track your husband unless there's a special reason to do so (eg because he's off hiking in remote locations).

I don’t understand how tracking children keeps them safe. There was ONE situation with one of my children when tracking was useful-we live in the country and dd loved to go out alone on her pony, so we used to turn tracking on in case the pony came home without her-but we turned it off again as soon as she was safely home. I haven’t come across any other circumstances where tracking genuinely helped to keep a child safe.

I’ve got teens. They like to wander and I get messages “can you pick me up” and they are in a random field 3 miles away from the friends house I dropped them at. Or to check they’ve got to their destination if they are using public transport.

teens are shit at replying. It’s much easier just to open find my and see where they are.

I also send them my Waze link when I’m on my way so they can follow me and see how long I’d be.

Drive lots of vans for work. Most of them don’t have this facility.

They are teenagers - they can work out for themselves where they are and how to get home. How is this teaching them independence? Can they not use the maps on their phone?