Do you think this man only wanted sex?

[gloriousday34]

Do I forget this one and move on?

So. Long story short guy at thr gym was looking at me intensely for a good week. We exchanged lots of glances. Finally on Friday he speaks to me. We were parked next to each other. We got talking about work and what we do. He said look I think you’re attractive and I’d like your number if we can do something on Sunday let’s grab a coffee. We talked about various things like weekend plans and he also said im a liscenced massage therapist too. So I said oh god dont be one of those guys. Intimacy is accessible anywhere now days you need to have a connection with women. Be then said yeah yeah I know what you mean. We then talked about coffee again and he said listen I’ll let you know if anything changes and . I said yes perfect (at this point I had a weird feeling he’d flake) . I would love that. Swapped numbers. He texted me as soon as he got in thr car to leave with his name and a “x” Liked all my instagram stories of me and my outfits etc. we texted a bit but nothing too deep over Friday and Saturday. Anyway. This morning I got “hey im not gonna be able to do today ive just got some bits and bobs to do” so I just said “that’s alright. No worries x” because I’m not going to beg for this.

I just feel a bit confused. What did I do wrong?? What did I say or do. I nearly said when are you next free but then thought no actually he should be the one saying that to me!!

my question is, shall I let him go and forget about it because clearly he’s not putting any ounce of effort in here.or do I offer him thr benefit of my doubts

Other random parts of convo: he shook my hand and I jokingly said, shake my hand firmly, he asked what I do at weekends usually I just said I’d go out with mates but most are starting to settle and marry now so I don’t see them as much, I said look ive been single 4 years now and sex is accessible anywhere he then said yeah but when 2 people are dating and attracted sex is natural and I said yeah of course that’s a given. He shook my hand and side hugged me after and we left. He liked all my instagram posts and we messaged very pointlessly over 2 days then he pulls out randomly. Idk I just felt a little let down i dont get what I said or did?

Tldr; was kinda looking forward to a date. He backs out because he has "bits and bobs" to do which quite honestly ive never heard anyone use that one. Was he just after sex or? I say this because I reckon if it was important he’d come back with another day

OP will be back and it'll be a different made up bloke in the next scenario

I love this. Thank you

So many young women just hand their Insta to random guys. Could someone tell me why? Why are you invested in what some rand thinks of your life? This is a serious question, because I am old and haven't a clue.

"Do you think this man only wanted sex?"

Yes.

"Do I forget this one and move on?"

Yes.

If you have to question whether someone is interested... they aren't.

This.

A bit odd to mention that you can get sex anywhere, twice, in an initial conversation.

You got the measure of him straight away and called him out. Good start. Your mistake after that was agreeing to meet. Just don't have anything to do with sleaze balls like this, even if it means pulling out of a plan you've just made. Tbh, given you're not looking for a quick shag, I wouldn't be agreeing to go on dates with randoms you've only exchanged 2 lines with. I'm not saying don't chat to guys at the gym but take your time over it.

Bits and bobs???

You're well out of this one. Wot a knob.

Made me laugh. The best bit was I just said okay no worries. I’m not fucking about. Old me would have entertained it.

@gloriousday34 it sounds like your prepping for a battle rather than a date, you seem really defensive looking for any sign that he is a bad guy, maybe he is, maybe he isn’t, we can’t tell and neither can you from that interaction. What does come across is your distrust and your holding sex as some sort of prize “I’m not dropping my knickers after a walk in the park” no one is asking you to, dating is not a battle to be won. Maybe your vibe that your giving off on here put him off?

Sounds like an opportunistic, one off shag predator to me. Keep away from this type. They are not worth a carrot.and to be avoided at all costs

🥕 👎

Does your SM give off high maintenance vibes? E g that cat bum selfie pout, swishy hair posing, silly filters, thong bikini, MLM aloe vera/candles/makeup junk etc that most men don't find attractive?

You say that, but you still started two threads about him.

Don’t give your number out to people you don’t know. If he had the maturity you’re looking for he would have realised he could chat to you at the gym first, hi it’s too hot to work hard today, how do I use this equipment blah blah blah. Then from a bit of friendship, swap numbers.

My bum isn’t out no. It has no posts just one of me in a dress but it’s not like trashy or anything. I do have a few male friends from uni that still follow me. Maybe that’s off putting. However it’s a first being blown off for “a few bits and bobs”🤣🤣🤣

😂 Maybe he's perfect but had a busy day volunteering at the local care home, taking his Granny out for lunch and finally walking his Andrex Puppy in the park. He'll waltz into the gym tomorrow clutching a box of Milk Tray in one hand, diet coke in the other and a proper florist massive red rose tucked into his tool belt.

😋😋😳

I think we may just have found a player and a bit of a useless tool in thr toolbox

Now you’ve got it off your chest here, take heart that you are missing nothing by giving him a cheery wave and leaving him off to his bits and bobs.

Her vibe is having standards

I think as soon as thr massage comment came out. I just thought. That’s a cheap line to get me naked. There’s no other reason you’d need to get your hands on me. My god the man is beautiful but there’s just no way because I can tell he’s going to f me over🤣

The context was his sleazy massage therapist comment…which was him testing her availability..OP shut him down like a good un

I think it was too. He’s really attractive but I’m too old for getting my feelings hurt

How was your holiday @gloriousday34 ?

We cross posted saying the same thing :)

He sounds a bit foolish OP ..a time waster …you dodged a prat 💐

Handsome with demanding bits and bobs …what a shame

I kept replaying everything I said thinking shit did I say something silly or wrong or maybe he just thought I wasn’t pretty close up. But then most of my friends said thr moment he said “sex comes when you’re attracted to one another it’s just natural” and all that bs we all felt he was just in it for fun