Do women really rule out average height men, or is it online talk?

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My younger step brother who is 19 [I am male btw], told me that women only want to date much taller men, he's roughly the same height as me, 5'7 [5'9 in thicker soled trainers lol], and is very introvert and hasn't had any dating experience, he has a few friends and I have noticed girls in the past being nice to him/liking him when I have seen him socializing. I was aware of this height bias which shows up quite a lot online and on social media, even here on mumsnet I have seen dating related threads where many women appear to be very dismissive of dating shorter men [used to nose sometimes using my OHs old account ,she didn't mind ahaha]

Because of this, I have been noticing often when I am out in public the heights of men to see if this is true, and it very clearly isn't. Last weekend I went to a well known seaside town for the day, due to the weather it was packed so millions of people and I would say literally the amount of couples of all ages where the man was average/slightly shorter than average height was the majority, it very clearly isn't the case that most women are not attracted to men below 6ft, 5ft10 or whatever. I myself have also never had a huge issue dating in the past, I never even knew I was particularly short until seeing this height related stuff online, and where women are concerned my height has never been mentioned

Was curious if this is only me that's noticed this, I think it could be more of a gen z thing than millenial and above? I'm not sure, but it definitely doesn't seem to match up with what I have seen with my own eyes in real life, have tried to reassure step bro that his height is fine, I think his parents have too, but don't seem to be able to convince him

I genuinely don’t think I’ve ever seen a thread on here dissing men’s height for dating purposes and I’ve been on here a long time.

In answer to your question though, my friends partners and husbands are, in the majority, shorter or a similar height to me and I’m 176cm. I have dated men my own height but not shorter and mainly that’s because it’s made me feel ‘too big’. Two of my friends are married to men noticeably shorter than they are. Perhaps they feel more confident in themselves than I did.

You just need to take a look around and see many, many, below average height men with partners.

You’ve not been looking then @JustHereWithMyPopcorn I’d say they are monthly, if not more frequent.

@BitOutOfPractice youre right, I haven’t been looking (be a bit weird if I was looking for that specifically), but if they are as frequent as implied in the OP then surely I’d have seen at least one.

Well im 6ft and find myself taller than 80 percent of men in public but I see shorter men with women all the time. I think when women say they want a man 6ft+ they really just want someone taller

@PforPaprika its fine to have preferences and to be picky. As a man I dont date overweight women, women who have slept around or had casual sex, who has Onlyfans or has done porn in the past, women with kids from a previous relationship, vegans, far leftist and women who dont want at least 3 kids. Lucky for me I met a woman who meets all my boxes and women should be allowed to have preferences as well as men

Although height has never bothered me personally, id date a woman who was my height (im 6ft). Ive also never cared much about how much a woman makes or what degree's she has although I know women care about that in men

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@GingerMan99

Is the reason you don’t care about her income or qualifications because once she’s provided those 3 kids she’ll be a “good wife” regardless?

@SleeplessInWherever No not really as long as she likes her job or it doesnt stress her out then I couldnt care how much she makes. A job is a job in my opinion and even jobs that people look down on (i.e working in mcdonalds or cleaning toilets) someone has to do it.

If a woman is working in mcdonalds but is attractive then she will be desired by men where as if a man is working in mcdonalds who is also attractive, he would be looked down apon by most women.

I know for a fact that most women on here wouldnt go out with a man who works minimum wage at tesco

@ChamonixMountainBum lol 5ft 11 aint short in fact its above average height, the only reason why its seen as "short" is because men who are 5ft 8 will call themselfs 5ft 11 to lie about thier height to women because they know they couldnt say "6ff"

@Flaskfan I can understand why taller women would want men who are 6ft+ but when a woman is 5ft 3 but only wants 6ft+ I find that a bit strange lol. As someone who is 6ft id date a woman around my height although some girls want thier man to be taller even when they are wearing heels so some tall girls would probaly consider me a bit short lol

@Strawberrycheesecake7 it depends but the global average height for a male is 5ft 8 so you could say nearly half the men on earth are 5ft 8 and below. As someone who is 6ft I felt average height in the neatherlands and in norway but when walking around london or paris where its multicultural I feel taller than a lot of men, men of european decent are on average taller

@GingerMan99

Fair enough. I personally wouldn’t, because I’m a high earner and I prefer financial parity - or as close to it as possible. It makes it easier in lots of ways.

However if I did earn less, then I’m sure somebody else earning similar would equally not be an issue.

@SleeplessInWherever I can understand why a high earning woman would want a man who makes good money also and its been proven that most women usually date across and up (meaning they only date men who make the same or more but never really less). Even in todays society where women can make more than men, Women are still biologically programmed to want providers (men who make more) and protectors (men who are tall). Another reason women want a man who makes more is because if she gets pregnant then she'll have to go off maternity leave so the man will have to step up a little and make a bit more money while she is off work

When incels get mad about women's standards this is why I dont get mad because Its biological programming. Men are also biologically programmed to seek certain traits in women.

Around 5’10 is the perfect height for me. If they are much taller then I start to feel like a child standing next to them!

I think a man earning minimum wage is pretty much any job the same would apply.

Just checked this thread again out of curiosity as I lost interest just over a week ago, suprised to see more people had posted on it for longer than I thought

Not expecting anyone else to see this but after about two weeks of being out in the real world and seeing couples of all ages in real life, its completely obvious that this whole thing of men who are average to shorter height are extremely disadvantaged in dating is a severe online exaggeration, whether it be on here or any other social media platform. Brother now has some thick soled trainers which have put him up to to around average height range for his age [he's 5'9, not 5'7 as I originally stated], and claims its made a difference to his confidence.

He now knows that any woman who wouldn't want to date him purely based on his height and nothing else is shallow and isn't worth his time, its a difficult age so I'm sure other things might come up but at least that issue seems to be resolved now