Do women really rule out average height men, or is it online talk?

[Uravinalaugh]

My younger step brother who is 19 [I am male btw], told me that women only want to date much taller men, he's roughly the same height as me, 5'7 [5'9 in thicker soled trainers lol], and is very introvert and hasn't had any dating experience, he has a few friends and I have noticed girls in the past being nice to him/liking him when I have seen him socializing. I was aware of this height bias which shows up quite a lot online and on social media, even here on mumsnet I have seen dating related threads where many women appear to be very dismissive of dating shorter men [used to nose sometimes using my OHs old account ,she didn't mind ahaha]

Because of this, I have been noticing often when I am out in public the heights of men to see if this is true, and it very clearly isn't. Last weekend I went to a well known seaside town for the day, due to the weather it was packed so millions of people and I would say literally the amount of couples of all ages where the man was average/slightly shorter than average height was the majority, it very clearly isn't the case that most women are not attracted to men below 6ft, 5ft10 or whatever. I myself have also never had a huge issue dating in the past, I never even knew I was particularly short until seeing this height related stuff online, and where women are concerned my height has never been mentioned

Was curious if this is only me that's noticed this, I think it could be more of a gen z thing than millenial and above? I'm not sure, but it definitely doesn't seem to match up with what I have seen with my own eyes in real life, have tried to reassure step bro that his height is fine, I think his parents have too, but don't seem to be able to convince him

Some do some don’t. Like all things, women aren’t a monolith. Stop trying to understand women en mass as though we are all cardboard cut outs of each other just with different looks. We have different beliefs, values, types and interests because we are humans.

@Uravinalaugh my DP is 5’9 on a good day and is the hottest thing on two legs. Thinking about it, all my best sex has been with men under 5’9 or so - I have a theory that the testosterone is more concentrated 😁

Of course there are some women who wouldn’t date a man under 6ft, just like
there are some men who wouldn’t date a woman over a size 16. That’s fine, because he’s not looking to date those people - they’ve already ruled themselves out as not being compatible. The only offputting thing about a shorter man or a larger man or whatever is if they’re bitter and self-conscious and weird about it and use online incel speak (just as it would be dull to be around a woman who constantly talked negatively about her size and how unfair it was that some people wouldn’t date her and talked
about how horrible all men were for not fancying her). Confidence and charisma - and being a pleasant, fun, emotionally aware person - go a very long way.

No I mean open your mind and understand that there is more to it and maybe educate yourself on sexual attraction, for some it's not simply a case of choosing to rule out certain men, they are simply only attracted to certain men.

You are persisting in this idea that it's a choice and that this can be changed by being open-minded. It's not true.

OK, the point I was trying to make, which is clearly lost on you, is that humans are generally complex beings capable of forming a deep, meaningful connection on an intellectual, emotional and spiritual level, which can feed into sexual attraction as much as purely physical characteristics. That doesn’t go for everyone, of course!

It wasn't lost on me, you just grouped everyone in together. For some it really is just a preference and not a requirement, and for others it's different.

OK, you’ll stick with really tall blokes, I get it. Lucky them 😀

They are lucky, thanks 😛