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Proposal - he has a ring but I’m sick of waiting

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CurlyOldGirly · Yesterday 21:48

I know that proposals aren’t the be all and end all. But I am desperate to marry my partner and so is he (so he says pretty much every day).
Ring exists because I’ve come across it when I saw the box in his suitcase when we went on holiday last year. But we had issues on holiday (not with each other) with our villa so i can see why he didn’t do it there. We had a few days of just being super disappointed with certain problems we had with our holiday let and then I had an allergic reaction to something so literally there wasn’t a window that I know he could have used.

he has said when it happens he wants to do it properly. He knows I don’t care for a massive show and I don’t want money being spent to make it happen. I really hate stuff like that. All I want is some thought.

I’m just at a point now where I’m getting more and more pissed that he hasn’t managed to just work out a romantic way to do it. I’m not asking for instagram worthy, just take me on a trip to a bloody lake or a pretty looking forest that’s free to visit and get down on a knee or something.

i don’t want this bogus thing of me asking him or him just asking me at home. This is the only thing I’ve actually ever wanted in our relationship to be just a little bit special. I’ve been married before and it was all pretty shit and I was never made to feel loved the way I wished to be. DP is so loving and affectionate, I can’t understand why he hasn’t just bitten the bullet or even found a way to make it happen

what do I say to him? Should I have a chat with him? because it’s been 9 months since he knew I saw the ring and I’m just getting fed up. I’m getting to a point where I just question if he even wants this any more.

Gosh I’m sorry this is long, I guess I needed to vent more than I thought I did.

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rainbowstardrops · Today 16:06

Oh I do feel for you. In your mind, you haven’t asked for much but in his mind, you’ve asked for the world! Nothing too flashy or public but has to be special etc etc. If I was him, I’d be worried that I hadn’t met your expectations and you’d be disappointed. Hopefully things will move forward now.
As an aside, me and my now DH went on holiday to Scotland and unbeknownst to me, he intended to propose. But things didn’t go to plan and he ended up proposing on a garage forecourt before we left Scotland. He hadn’t even bought me a ring so at least your bloke is more organised than mine was!
He continues to be less than thoughtful at times but hey ho.

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