Life360 Shows DH Spent 59 mins in Thai Massage

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As the title says. DH away abroad with some friends. Checked life 360 this morning and showed he had spent 59 minutes in a Thai massage place. Took all the screenshots and sent a friend. It’s not on Google but on street view with a number. It’s not looking good is it??

Get screenshots, wait for him to come home and confront him.

I have a legitimate Thai massage parlour in my town and a brothel masquerading as a Chinese Health shop - completely different vibe. I saw a guy coming out of the second who just didn’t look like the Chinese herbal sort of chap. I googled the address along with the word “ punting” and I was able to see a load of reviews and comments without actually having to go on U.K. Punting which confirmed my suspicions. ( I noticed they now have a neon massage sign inside now ). I’m guessing that international visitors to brothels will also write a review somewhere - because let’s face it they want to brag. I’m really sorry you’re having to deal with this. I have had a legitimate Thai massage in Thailand but it wasn’t at 9.00 at night after drinking.

That was my first reply too. Nobody's interested in that though.

Exactly. No one in the middle of a lads piss up fancies an hour out for a massage only.

That plus the other destinations he chooses for these lads holidays, it doesn't look good.

He's settled down but him and these mates are still holidaying as if they are single.

OP trust your gut

I just commented as to why some people may be questioning the OP. I am not the one name calling or being a dick.

There is only one dick in this exchange...

I wouldn’t say anything to him yet at all… because you’re giving him a heads up. Just watch and wait. Big hugs xxx

The absolute worst replies on here OP. Really awful sorry. People are either very naive or just nasty and disingenuous.
I can tell you are in shock which maybe shows the drip feed.
Men do not go for physio massages usually after a night out drinking with the lads. Some men go to massage places because of back issues etc. But this is a totally different context. There is a Thai massage place near where I live, I wondered if it was legit massage place, so we looked it up on a punting review site. And lo and behold, reviews about all the actual services performed. Rough. You can check this places reviews out too.
Amsterdam and Hamburg are notorious for loads of brothels yes.
You can ask him what he's doing there and he will probably say having a massage and not mention the hand job. You won't ever get the truth I don't believe. Deny and minimise as it goes.
It's up to you what you do now but a full STI test should be done. Sorry this is how you are starting the weekend.

Yeah I wouldn't give him a heads up and chance to prepare excuses.

I agree. I very much doubt that all the posters being disingenuous and saying that they love a Thai massage and OP is being paranoid and controlling are actually going for a massage after 9.00 pm following an evening of drinking.

It's obvious what he is doing and OP has a right to be upset.

There is some mind blowing naivety on this thread. Yes, OP, your husband has had a happy ending. Deal with it accordingly.

I'm sorry you're getting such unhelpful replies OP.

Based on what you've said, the odds are that he has paid for sex. What does your gut tell you? Trust that.

You may never know for sure, as he will probably come up with a reason that you won't be able to disprove

So then it's down to whether you want to give him the benefit of the doubt amd move on, or not.

Hard disagree.

Anyway, bored of you all now. The poor woman is distraught and you’re nitpicking because she didn’t give the exact time of day he went to this brothel for a grand total of 120 seconds. Sad.

OP. Presumably he’s not back til Sunday or Monday. Don’t give him a heads up about the life 360. Just leave him to it, they’ll probably go back for seconds tonight. Give him enough rope as they say

Be glad he hasn't had full sex without a condom. But still not know for a fact that that wasn't the case and make him get full sexual health screening.

I’m so sorry, you must be feeling so desperate. You’ll probably never know the truth. But, try and spend some time thinking about what you want in your relationship. Also start getting a better understanding of your financial situation with a view to making a life on your own, should you chose to.

What is the address? I'm sure you'll find the answer on a forum somewhere if you type it in and look hard enough.

You should just approach him and say: Hey, so when you went for the Thai massage, did you pay for the full 60 minutes? Because I got a notification on the family app & you were only there 59 minutes, and that would include changing time so I’m feeling like you maybe got scammed.

He won’t know how to respond. Watch him squirm.

Oh come on people. Stop being awful to the OP. No proper massage place will massage a person who is drunk - it’s usually in the T’s & C’s. Of course he hasn’t gone for a massage in the middle of a drinking session.

OP have you had other reasons to distrust him? What made you look on Life360 to see where he was? Your gut made you do that - trust it.

Fucking lads trips and stag dos have gone beyond a joke. It sounds very suspicious op, it's likely a brothel. Gather what evidance you can as suggested by pp, and blast him with it when he returns.

Yeah, sorry OP.

I can’t believe people are saying it’s an innocent massage. Who does that at 9pm when drinking 🙄

I’m so sorry, my ex husband was a piece of shit who enjoyed lots of “lads weekends” to places where men don’t exactly go for the culture and scenery.

Can you run the number through WhatsApp? Maybe message and pretend you’re a tourist (remove your profile picture on it briefly) and see what they offer.

You could also run it through chat gbt.

Ignore the petty comments on here. I will say though, I remember getting a massage in Thailand after a night out. I’d still be suspicious.

Ask him how his night was and what he got up to. See if he mentions the massage. You’ll have your answer then.

Just to show how to look up if an establishment offers sexual services while pretending to be a Thai Massage place

google “Ruen Thai Massage UK Punting”
and Lo…

God I was just thinking yesterday that mumsnet is a depressing place these days. Some of the replies on here confirm that.

Whether op’s husband was having a Thai Massage or a “Thai Massage” and whatever your opinion, you can express it with some empathy.

So sorry op. I hope you have someone in rl you can talk to today.

This thread is bizarre. There was a similar one on Thursday about a lads trip where the best man was suggesting using a prostitute and lots of people were saying he was probably only joking. Because groups or drunk men away from home never do that kind of shit.

There are legitimate thai massage placeswhere you go if youve got a bad back etc. And there are dodgy Thai massage places where you go if you want a happy ending. Maybe the OP could assume the former if her husband was on say a cycling trip or similar where you want a massage after a long day of sport. But given its not on Google/ no massage shop front and he was with a group of lads drinking all day...to me it's pretty clear that he was going for the second option. No one stops drinking with the lads for a legitimate deep tissue massage to sort out their sore shoulders.

Only thing I'd be concerned about was if the life 360 was accurate. But if there is nothing else around there that he could have been doing instead (like a pub next door) then I think it's likely close enough

And the posters saying you are wrong for tracking your husband can get stuffed, people voluntarily download these apps together as a family as it helps know people are safe/ what time they're going to be home for dinner etc

This.

Get yourself a full screening for STDs....