Life360 Shows DH Spent 59 mins in Thai Massage

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As the title says. DH away abroad with some friends. Checked life 360 this morning and showed he had spent 59 minutes in a Thai massage place. Took all the screenshots and sent a friend. It’s not on Google but on street view with a number. It’s not looking good is it??

I would say in my opinion, it would be unlikely that your husband has gone for a genuine Thai massage after going drinking with his mates, late in the evening. It's much more likely, that the Thai massage parlour is offering many extras on top of the massage!

However, I think it would be better to message your husband and ask if he's having a nice time, and what has he been doing. See what he tells you. I certainly wouldn't go in, guns blazing and accusing him of allsorts. Most apps that give locations, aren't always 100% accurate either. I doubt if he's up to no good, that he's paid for any services using a credit card, it would be cash...well unless he's really drunk or very stupid.

I remember a previous thread like this. The general upshot of that was that no one can tell you what happened there because Thai massage is a legit form of massage, but some places also offer erotic massage/sex work.

I think if you were already checking his location then you might have some suspicions that he can’t be trusted. But only you can know whether there is a chance he’d be interested in paying for handjobs

There is a chance he has done something bad, however you don’t know. The fact that you checked up on him might suggest that you already had suspicions.

Can you check credit card records, maybe get the name of the place and ask him if he enjoyed the massage. See his reaction.

As others have said the locations are not always accurate.

But if you read my replies, at no point have I actually said anything about whether Thai massage parlours are brothels or not.

The only point I was making was that the location sounded strange, down a street with no other businesses around it.That's not usual for a Thai massage parlour and less scope for Life360 to be inaccurate as it so often is.

I'm sure some people will know what I'm getting at here, because I'm not allowed to come out and say it. The rest can call me dense and a gaslighter.

Good measured response.

I can't honestly believe half these responses were done in good faith. If they were, what has Mumsnet become?

There are some very naive people on here. Theres a Thai massage place by us, on a row of shops, quite respectable looking. My friends rated it highly so I recommended it to my DB who was having back problems. He rang me afterwards kicking off because the masseuse had offered him a happy ending, and asking why I’d sent him to a brass house!

Trust your gut. I'm old but have learned over the years that if you are suspicious, there's good reason. It doesn't come out of nowhere. Part of you will be really reluctant to listen to your suspicions because none of us want to run towards that kind of gunfire unless we're sure. Learn to be brave and not listen to that part, because it will make you delay, get used to not trusting, and it will diminish you as a person in the end.

@WirralWool that reminds me of my FWB. He used to regularly go for a Thai massage in the town where he lives but on his last visit was asked if he wanted a Happy Ending.

He phoned me in utter shock, to tell me!! Bless him. I’ll have to find out the name and see if it’s on UKPundits. He declined the offer by the way.

People are either very naive or just nasty and disingenuous.

I agree. My friend's wife is Thai and has a massage place.

She has said herself that she doesn't and has never offered additional services but was inundated with calls asking if she did.

She said many places either turn a blind eye or allow it because it is a very popular service and can be lucrative for those women offering it.

It would be very naive to think a group of men who have gone for a night out/weekend away just fancied a massage. It's not a spa weekend.

And no, 360 isn't always accurate. My daughter and I had it for a while and it showed her as still being in the town she'd visited the day before.

But you'd have to be really bloody unlucky for it to get your location wrong and place you in a backstreet massage parlour!

I think this is totally normal. I check where Dh is when he’s away with friends or work. Not because I have any suspicions about his behaviour. I like to know when he makes it back at night. Because he’s a bit of a moron sometimes and doesn’t have much in the way of street smarts and I worry about something dumb happening to him. I wouldn’t think it was at all weird if he did the same when I was away.

It is standard for a European brothel. Absolutely standard.

Just because you’ve got a glitzy Thai massage place next to your local fucking Greggs means absolutely nothing in the context of lads going to brothels in Hamburg.

And no, nobody knows what you’re getting at and yes, you can just say it instead of skirting round whatever it is.

The very ordinary salon we visited in the region offered the men in our group ‘happy endings’.

Your DH has had a lot more I’m betting.

This is another thing the women saying they’ve enjoyed a lovely Thai massage on their high street are missing.

A huge number of them offer extras to men. Not to the women that go there but to the men only.

Sorry that you're going through this, OP.

Are you friends with any partners of those men on the trip, and if so could you speak to them about it?

I do agree with those who have advised that if you're ready to confront him then to wait until you're face-to-face so you can gauge his reaction on the spot.

The mumsnet 'shakes' are back!!

Seriously though OP, it is amusing to other people because it's so bloody obvious..I love the 59 minutes thing as well.

I mean if he doesn't mention it then that's the final proof you need.

Also, I would bloody hate these spying apps pitched as 'security'. Good for tracking your kids but privacy invading otherwise.

If he is in Glasgow, I went to a Thai massage place in a residential building and there were a few options that were similar. I went at 8pm and it was very professional.

Agree with all of this. Hope it goes ok op x

Were you abroad and pissed with a group of mates at the time though?

Having a nice massage isn’t the sort of thing a bloke in that situation does, is it?

I feel for OPs situation, but I really doubt it’s innocent.

Are you enjoying yourself?

She may not feel the "need" to track him at all. If they've got kids on there it would make sense for BOTH parents to be on there added to the family circle for them to know where their kids are

A woman I know went for a massage at a Thai place, the massage itself was a bit rubbish and had a strange experience with a masseuse that seemed a bit off and surly. She realised afterwards she had been in a knocking shop massage place and the masseuse was gutted not to be getting paid for the extras!

Tbh I’d always thought the Thai places here were knocking shops. So home or abroad, it doesn’t matter as it’s a knocking shop. Bin the H and get yourself a Swedish massage.

I messaged him earlier asking how his night was but I haven’t heard from him since early yesterday evening. It’s showing now he’s on the beach so clearly out of sight out of mind. He has been caught out going to a strip club and admitted to paying for a Private dance. I found out after he had lost his phone and I told him to ring round bars he had been to see if it had been found. It was only weeks later I was checked my DS phone (he was only 12/13 the time) and saw he had searched for the strip club number and had rang them. Things have happened before and he’s talked his way out of them. For example he worked in London a lot and on one of the iPads on iCloud a window was open saying ‘call girls London’ - he talked out of this by saying he had been on a porn site and a pop up opened and that was the pop up he hadn’t closed. He admitted before he met me he had paid for prostitutes in Amsterdam. So yes I have had suspicions about things before and a gut feeling so when I saw this it kind of felt like a punch in the stomach. It’s the only place on the street, I’ve googled the address on street view and it comes up but the pic was from May 2025. There was a number which I’ve rang and it rings out. Only thing I can think of to justify it is if it’s an old image it may not be open anymore.