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Caramelsyrup · 2026-05-16T08:28:14+00:00

As the title says. DH away abroad with some friends. Checked life 360 this morning and showed he had spent 59 minutes in a Thai massage place. Took all the screenshots and sent a friend. It’s not on Google but on street view with a number. It’s not looking good is it??

Panama2 · 17/05/2026 12:10

If you do divorce do not assume he will fill in all his financial details on Form E. Yes he is supposed to do that but then they are supposed to do many things being faithful in a marriage is one of them

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 13:20

Caramelsyrup · 16/05/2026 12:14

I messaged him earlier asking how his night was but I haven’t heard from him since early yesterday evening. It’s showing now he’s on the beach so clearly out of sight out of mind. He has been caught out going to a strip club and admitted to paying for a Private dance. I found out after he had lost his phone and I told him to ring round bars he had been to see if it had been found. It was only weeks later I was checked my DS phone (he was only 12/13 the time) and saw he had searched for the strip club number and had rang them. Things have happened before and he’s talked his way out of them. For example he worked in London a lot and on one of the iPads on iCloud a window was open saying ‘call girls London’ - he talked out of this by saying he had been on a porn site and a pop up opened and that was the pop up he hadn’t closed. He admitted before he met me he had paid for prostitutes in Amsterdam. So yes I have had suspicions about things before and a gut feeling so when I saw this it kind of felt like a punch in the stomach. It’s the only place on the street, I’ve googled the address on street view and it comes up but the pic was from May 2025. There was a number which I’ve rang and it rings out. Only thing I can think of to justify it is if it’s an old image it may not be open anymore.

With this history … it’s obvious isn’t it OP.

Im sorry. What a scumbag.

Time to think about how you want the rest of your life to be. With a scuzzy bloke who thinks it’s ok to pay to fuck trafficked women. Or not.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 13:33

Hereforthecommentz · 16/05/2026 16:50

Maybe off topic but why do husband and wives have 360s. I find it odd you need to know where people are ALL the time and controlling.

Already explained. It’s a family 360 for teenage kids.

And people can use it for many non-controlling things like seeing how far away from home their partner is on the motorway rather than phone them, keep an eye if they are hiking somewhere in case of an accident, see if a train is arriving on time, make sure a kid at Uni got home safe to their accommodation after a big night out, all sorts.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 13:50

Thaawtsom · 16/05/2026 17:31

Neither. The OP has now updated her H has form, so as predicted her fears were likely right based on more than just this one occasion and he was not a good ‘un in the first place. My point was: in a solid relationship you don’t go to the worst explanation first. Clearly that’s always a possibility and the moment you have the conversation you know.

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Wow no you do not just “know”.

Several of my friends and many, many women on MN, who would have said they are in solid relationships, have spoken to their husbands who have boldly and baldly lied outright to their faces.

If you think otherwise, that IS naive.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 13:51

LittleMi55Nobody · 16/05/2026 17:37

i think he was genuinely having a massage as ive never known any man to last 59 minutes

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Had his turn, waiting for mates to have their turn. Vom.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 13:57

QuintadosMalvados · 16/05/2026 18:03

I'm just saying that a hand job is just part of the massage process.
It is what it is.

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I’ll be sure to let my therapist friends know they are doing it all wrong and need to be wanking off their clients to “clear their systems”.

What a load (vom) of misogynistic nonsense. Any man who tries that line, needs dumped.

Iamstardust · 17/05/2026 13:58

LittleMi55Nobody · 16/05/2026 17:37

i think he was genuinely having a massage as ive never known any man to last 59 minutes

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If a man is paying to have sex with a woman. And if that woman is significantly out of his league and would not look twice at him if he wasn't paying her then he'll want to make sure he gets his money's worth.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 14:05

Agree.

DugnuttEyeBoogies · 17/05/2026 14:08

LouiseMadetheBestBroccoliPasta · 17/05/2026 10:16

"t is pretty standard for men to be offered it as part of the Thai massage process.
It's part of Thai culture."

I lived and worked in Thailand for many years and I can tell you that Thai massage that ends with a handjob is categorically NOT part of Thai culture. The Thai men do use local prostitutes more often than European men use prostitutes in their own countries, but for the local Thais, Thai massage is seen as trained skilled professional massage work and definitely not a front for sex work.

The association between Thai massage and sex work in Europe is NOT born from Thai culture.

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Meant to quote this to say agree.

Massage is an integral wellbeing component in many many cultures around the world. Nothing seedy about it.

Certain sections of any massage world may merge into
prostitution but it is NOT the basis for an entire culture, Thai included.

That poster is just trying to justify the ickiness of men who rape women they’ve paid.

Pessismistic · 17/05/2026 14:32

Caramelsyrup · 17/05/2026 09:45

I did some detective work yesterday and rang the massage place in question and the address they said they was based at was different - I asked if they were at the address in question and she said no they had moved property. I asked if there was another Thai massage at the old address and she said no it is empty. So life 360 may have it wrong ?? I’m hoping so anyway. But after hearing nothing from him yesterday and the shambolic phone call we’ve exchanged messages this morning and I’ve said I don’t want him to come away with us o need time to think. He just kept saying ‘stop busting my balls I’ve done nothing wrong’ apparently the woman on the phone was serving them in a bar, and he was drunk. Even so not being in contact with a family at home for over 24 hours in itself is disrespectful. He does this often these benders, the last one was in October again before a family holiday.
I’m not even mentioning life 360 as there’s no point, it’s the total disregard that I even exist when he goes away. He was away a few weeks ago with work abroad and didn’t hear much from him then either.

Op I’m not sure someone on the phone would openly say oh yes that’s a sex parlour or anything like that. So don’t doubt your gut or the 360 he acts like a single man once he’s away and he’s not. Op could you live with him moving on with someone else. That is the reality of this if you call it a day I’m not saying don’t but if he’s sleazy on holiday he won’t be single long will he.

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Caramelsyrup · 17/05/2026 18:17

Now he’s annoyed at me for being upset and not talking to him - he just thinks it’s because he didn’t contact me at all yesterday which he doesn’t think was a big deal as he was drunk and enjoying himself. I’ve not mentioned life 360 as he will just turn it off and deny it I’ll never know. I’ll not know if that address is still a Thai massage or not unless I actually go there myself ! I asked on the phone when I rang where they are based and she gave a different address. I asked if they are still at the other address and she said no they moved and that building is empty. The street view pics on life 360 where from May 2024 and on google street view 2025 so that could be true. There are bars at the other end of the street but this was specially pin pointed at this address and there for 59 mins. So I don’t know if I’ve assumed the worse automatically cos I know his past and things that have happened before?Hes said to our DD ‘your mum doesn’t want me to come on holiday’ So now of course she is saying she wants him to come!!

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Lins77 · 17/05/2026 18:24

QuintadosMalvados · 17/05/2026 07:10

I'm not a bloke either.
And yes it is pretty standard for men to be offered it as part of the Thai massage process.
It's part of Thai culture.
There's no need to be snarky, observing and being aware of how other cultures operate is neither agreeing or disagreeing with them.

Or assuming that they're a 'bloke' because of it.

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Right, well, you certainly sound like either a bloke justifying paying for sexual services, or - less likely, but possible - a woman who's been told this line (no doubt by a man) and believed it unquestioningly.

People who know Thai culture have in any case told you categorically it's not true.

2O26 · 17/05/2026 18:41

Interesting research paper about Thai Massage
"In many street front establishments, male clients are offered an unsolicited sexual service especially when requesting an oil massage. However, since the onset of the AIDS epidemic sex workers moved into indirect sex establishments spaces such as bars, nightclubs, cafés or restaurants, and massage parlors."
https://digitalcommons.odu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1022&context=sociologycriminaljusticefacpubs

Lins77 · 17/05/2026 19:04

Caramelsyrup · 17/05/2026 18:17

Now he’s annoyed at me for being upset and not talking to him - he just thinks it’s because he didn’t contact me at all yesterday which he doesn’t think was a big deal as he was drunk and enjoying himself. I’ve not mentioned life 360 as he will just turn it off and deny it I’ll never know. I’ll not know if that address is still a Thai massage or not unless I actually go there myself ! I asked on the phone when I rang where they are based and she gave a different address. I asked if they are still at the other address and she said no they moved and that building is empty. The street view pics on life 360 where from May 2024 and on google street view 2025 so that could be true. There are bars at the other end of the street but this was specially pin pointed at this address and there for 59 mins. So I don’t know if I’ve assumed the worse automatically cos I know his past and things that have happened before?Hes said to our DD ‘your mum doesn’t want me to come on holiday’ So now of course she is saying she wants him to come!!

I feel for you, OP. I don't know what the answer is - you definitely have grounds for suspicion, especially given past behaviour, but this address business has introduced an element of doubt. I still think it's more likely than not that he did it, but if he's not going to admit it there's no way of knowing for sure (other than as you say going to the place to see for yourself, but that probably isn't feasible).

Good luck whatever you decide to do.

Ginandpanic · 17/05/2026 20:12

It’s possible that they are aware that men could be caught out like this, and to avoid any drama they give false information about the address? She could probably tell you were ringing from overseas?

Shinyhappyapple · 17/05/2026 20:24

Besidemyselfwithworry · 17/05/2026 12:09

my partner wouldn’t be abroad with “mates” his priority is me and our kids
I’m always amazed it’s an invitation to cheat if you ask me!

Do you think the same for women who holiday with their friends?

Nothing to do with the OP or the subject of this thread, but in instances where a family can afford for parents/couples to holiday separately with their individual friends, this really shouldn’t be a problem. Also assuming one partner wouldn’t be left alone with 3 under 5’s or additional needs. Would you think the same if there weren’t children involved ? Or if the children are teenagers?

Covermeinrainsrops · 17/05/2026 21:57

This man is in his 50s...god leave he will never change why waste anymore of your life

AreWeHeadingForAnotherLockdown · 17/05/2026 22:49

His involved your daughter in this
That alone is out of order.
Man child

Spicysirracha · 18/05/2026 06:38

AreWeHeadingForAnotherLockdown · 17/05/2026 22:49

His involved your daughter in this
That alone is out of order.
Man child

Exactly
this family is broken and likely has been for years
and rather than act years ago - the Op carried out enduring this, which sadly meant her kids did too

Didimum · 18/05/2026 06:59

Regardless of anything to do with the Thai massage place, you husband sounds diabolically awful. How on earth do you put up with any of this?

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Caramelsyrup · 18/05/2026 08:43

Didimum · 18/05/2026 06:59

Regardless of anything to do with the Thai massage place, you husband sounds diabolically awful. How on earth do you put up with any of this?

I often ask myself the same question!! He put all his washing in the basket as well just expecting them to be washed and folded, which I won’t be doing. I feel like a complete mug. Then made to feel like I was in the wrong for being annoyed at him, now my daughter keeps saying she wants him to come on holiday! Not sure what to do due to leave Thursday 5am but I can’t think of anything worse than spending a week with him pretending.

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Spicysirracha · 18/05/2026 08:48

How old are your kids?

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Caramelsyrup · 18/05/2026 08:52

17DS & 12DC

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Lins77 · 18/05/2026 09:10

What is he saying about the holiday? Is he agreeing to not come? What reason have you given your daughter?

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Caramelsyrup · 18/05/2026 09:25

He finds it funny saying ‘oh so I’m not allowed to come on a holiday I’ve paid for?!’ He hasn’t really said anything!

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