It's me now

[LifeSurvior]

I am ten years on from a very traumatic experience of my husband cheating.
It took me into horrendously dark places,,suicide, drinking, hospital admission to mental health facilities.
I am so much better now with my mental health wellbeing, I'm stable, I cope okay with my life, I'm a good Mum, I sorted myself.
But the anger, the disdain, the sheer fucking how on earth could he have done this to our family feelings are still here.
He came back after I had to be in hospital.
I still look at him and think, you only did that because your family were horrified. He has never come clean with his family, he told them I had a breakdown, I was suicidal, I was the nutty one.
He has never, ever told them he met another woman in hotel rooms for sex.
He still now can not abide me saying the reason I don't like you is because you fucked an other women behind my back and gaslightied me it was my fault.
He thinks I should just shut up, be okay, shag him and be silent.

We’re asking her to think what’s best for her children. She got this wrong before and she’s in danger of compounding it with a sunk cost fallacy. But there’s still time to be a better role model to them than her current martyrdom.

You don't need to explain to me why you have given the advice you have, just that it's best to be careful with someone who is obviously distressed, had a breakdown in the past and has been suicidal.

I am just hoping to hear from LS to make sure she is ok and that she knows that people are concerned about her wellbeing regardless of whether we agree with her choices or not.