Has anyone in their 30s met a partner through hobby groups?

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Any time I read a thread about dating the general consensus is to meet a man in real life and to put yourself out there and go to hobby clubs/groups to meet a man. But has anyone actually met a man at a hobby group/ hobby club? I keep being told to join clubs to meet men instead of online dating but who has actually met their partner this way? I don’t think many men in their 30s join clubs but maybe im wrong. If they do then it’s probably sports related? And im not sporty or interested in sports (that also includes walking and hiking) so what clubs / hobbies do women in their 30s join to find a partner? The type of things im interested in is probably not going to attracted the type of men im interested in, if that makes sense! And I also don’t want to join something im not interested in in the hope of meeting a man (if a man did this to meet women he'd be considered a creep) Would be nice to know how many people in their 30s have actually met a partner at a hobby group?

Strangely enough I didn’t see any guys with fish! Everyone else complains about that but those men clearly don’t like me 😆I never get them in my “likes” and I tend not to browse profiles of anyone unless they have liked me

Interesting about the algorithim. I’ve heard something like that before. Not surprising.

One of my friends met her husband at a Spanish evening class they’ve been together about 15 years now very happy so it does happen

I used to do a photography class - 2 people who met on that are now together. I also met one of my very best friends at the class.

DD plays in a brass band. Two of their cornet players are getting married soon.

So you’re looking for a cat man who’s into crafts. Yep defo gonna find that on tinder. 🤣

From the guys side I've known 3 chaps meet partners through dancing groups.

I think enlarging ones friendship group is a good plan. Joining any club or society perhaps in a new area and so meeting completely fresh group of women might lead to further meetings.
I met someone through going to concerts and supporting a choir. Seeing someone frequently and we started talking then dated. 😊
My cousin volunteers as a gardener at a Heritage Railway, she meets lots of men. Not had a date yet though.

What about darts? There are more women playing now but still quite a few blokes! Thinking about the ones I play with, there are a few who are stereotypical darts players, a few who are quite sporty but mostly just normal guys with a range of interests.

What do you do for work OP? If your weekends are free perhaps try getting a bar job once a week?

Or maybe set your self a challenge to try one new thing a week… If you find something you enjoy then stick with it for a while 🙂

There are also singles groups on Facebook that
do social events for single people - I’m in one for the hikes, but they also do nights out, weekends away. The chat is a bit anarchic but I just ignore that and go on the events ☺️

Pub or finding a part time side hustle job where more men are likely to be. It’s very difficult, I’ve been single for several years, I’ve only managed to get dates when I’ve gone on dating apps as men are already taken that I would be interested in.

I met exH through a hobby group in my 30s. It was a car related group

Met my partner last year whilst walking, not in a walking group though.

I was late 20s but met DH through an outdoor activities group. I know it wouldn't be for you OP, our first date was climbing a small mountain, but it does happen.

Other couples I know have met through church or other religious groups, shared musical interests and voluntary work.

Lol not church choirs (although there are plenty of non religious people who sign up for church choirs just to enjoy the music) - there’s loads of choirs that focus on secular and/or classical music, as well as pop, musical theatre etc. Some are audition based but there are also lots that are just open to whoever fancies joining. That sort of choir does tend to be more women-heavy, but really the way to meet new people is by broadening your social circle and making friends who have other friends you might click with.

Men predominate in archery and shooting apparently, not exactly sports so maybe something like that? At my local rowing club you can just be a social member. Then there's stamp collecting, train spotting...

Most choirs aren't church choirs.
At the risk of sounding rude, you have so many misconceptions here I think you just need to get out more and learn a bit about life. Try things you don't think you'll like. Try some outdoor activity. Meet the men your friends didn't click with. Just something to get yourself out of the house.

I’ve never met anyone through a hobby or group. I met both my husbands at work. I think it’s so hard to meet someone IRL now

I think this is refreshing honesty. It is just hard now and some people who have not dated recently can’t seem to appreciate that post 2020 there’s increasingly been a shift in dating as well as an uptick in men using red pill/manosphere talking points to inform how they date which obviously reduces the pool of decent men further.

Right. they’re not comparable at all and most of it grew out of from challenging misogyny. Not saying I agree with all their points or their approach but it can’t be compared to the manosphere.

I can really recommend Op - taking the step of widening your social circle without worrying about the meeting a man step yet.

You will eventually end up knowing more people - having a more interesting life and through that you are far more likely to then meet a man!

When I was about 30 and quite down about being single, I decided that what was actually in my control was my own social life - and that I would just make more friends - that in the end made me more confident, happier and I was out and about more and met more people.

It can only be a positive outcome!

I met my husband through work - but really in a way that was shared interest, we didn't work together but met at a social event linked to work.

I don't know if meeting at work is now less common due to WFH and longer commutes - I actually met my husband in the pub near where we were both working - somewhere a lot of 20's/30s people went after work on a sunny evening!

I was confident enough to start a conversation wtih him about shared interests - I think if you work on building your social life generally you can only be better placed to meet men you get on with.

If I was single now I think I’d get a PT job in a golf or rugby social club. Lots of nice men and you may get some slightly “richer” pickings…not just wallet size but also quality people who have nice friendship circles. Yes there will always be kn03s at all of these sorts of places but more to pick from!

Yes!

I've met my significant partners, ones I've been with for over a year, at:
church
friend of a friend
hobby
same hobby
work

Latest chap is through a different hobby.

I've also had more casual dates through taking part in hobby groups. There's a myriad of things to do out there - sailing, horses, folk, music, drama, historical stuff... it needs to be something you're genuinely interested in though!

Yes twice 😊 well kinda my current partner I met last year when I randomly decided to volunteer at a fantasy event (basically a ren faire) and then joined him at a bunch of larp events 😊. I met my ex through our love of magic the gathering.

^ this

Also - dating in your 30s is hard as a lot of people have already become part of an established couple

I had to wait til my 40s to meet my partner: he was divorced after being with the same woman since mid 20s and this is not uncommon

I hope you have better success at meeting the right person - it’s not easy & the more avenues (acquaintances, groups & apps) you use the better your odds