Friend upset after I reported hacked account to the police

[ThisHappyBiscuit]

So my sons account got hacked by a friend of mines son who gave the details to someone to hack into. When this was all happening I said if my son's accounts password isn't given to me then im guna have to contact the police and my friend said "do it". So I did call when I didn't get the password. Ive gone upto my friend today and she's said do you really think you should be talking to me? I said why what's the matter? She said well we are under criminal investigation cause of you and we shouldn't be talking. I said well you told me to contact them and she said well it was to shut you up (in so many words) cause you were going off on one. Im really upset because I thought she was my friend and im just so lost now because I literally have no friends outside of my life. Can I just have some friendly words of encouragement because I'm just so lost and feeling so alone right now.

I have a law degree. One of the things we were taught early on is there is a general misconception in the public that you can choose to press charges or not. What the police were likely seeing is whether or not it was worth their time preparing a case for CPS.

I was raped. I wanted charges pressing against the man who raped me. He was arrested and interviewed under caution. The CPS made the decision not to proceed and press charges because it ended up being a “he said/she said” situation. I was asked early on if I wanted to press charges, which I did. If I’d said no, they’d have been no point in the police investigating because my testimony would have been crucial - without it they’d have not had a chance of a win. And the CPS will not proceed if they don’t think they stand a chance of winning.

I don’t dispute you were asked - but that doesn’t mean that it was genuinely your choice in the matter. It was likely worded that way but what they really meant was “are you happy to be a witness and testify at trial should we go ahead” or similar to that.

There are no misconceptions on my part. Whatever their intentions or how they worded it, that’s exactly what I was asked. Twice. Years apart. I would imagine if I’d said yes, then they’d have to build a case, I don’t assume it would automatically go to court.

Oh, I’m sorry for your trauma too, should have said that first.
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Your son matters more than she does.

At the same time, she is correct because you should not talk to someone who might be the defendant or a defence witness in court when you would be a prosecution witness.

The friendship broke down when she refused to help resolve the situation IMO. And yes, finding out that people aren't who they seemed is unpleasant.

I find it helps to never trust anyone because you cannot know what anyone is thinking. Always keep in mind that someone might turn on you. It feels like less of a betrayal when part of you expects it from the start.

Definitely a police matter. You have done nothing wrong or unreasonable OP. I am sure there are some nice people piut there happy to be your friends.💐

An “unsuspecting victim”😂 the kid gave his own password out, these aren’t criminal masterminds he’s been a complete fool. Hopefully he learns from the mistake.

Her son has done something criminal. That's why they are being investigated, not because of you.
She is not a friend. Holy crap. I'm glad I don't have any friends like that.
Join a club/class or volunteer somewhere to meet people. It is very hard to break into groups for sure but it is not impossible.
Sorry this has happened but she sounds a bit mental and you're better off without someone like that in your life. She's hardly got your back and her moral compass is way off, as is her sons.

I wouldn’t have thought of contacting the police, but I’d insist that they’re returned.
It’s really mean spirited to steal from your friends Roblox account. It happened to DD years ago. I went to the mother and contacted Roblox, they were returned. Roblox support helps in this situation.
Your friend should have dealt with her brat and taught him a valuable lesson, on stealing, manipulation, letting down his family.
She should not have tried to brush you off.

Why would she be under investigation unless she did something wrong? Innocent until proven guilty I guess but still, her actions are Sus. No need to feel alone. She sounds dodgy af OP.....

Hacking can be a criminal activity. Your friend's DS deserves to get a rap over the knuckles & a caution, at the very least.

Your friend is an idiot.

I have a mental image of your friend doing a shocked Pikachu impression. Lol.

“When this was all happening I said if my son's accounts password isn't given to me then im guna have to contact the police and my friend said "do it".”

Well, she can’t say you didn’t give her precisely what she asked for.

Let her be mad and don’t worry about it. She clearly wasn’t much of a friend.

thank you. I don’t know why they told you that, but I promise you, in law, the decision is absolutely not your decision whatsoever, I don’t doubt you were asked. I just don’t think they were completely clear with you that your decision might not be the final outcome.

As an fyi, there’s another active push right now. A lady has posted that she filled a form out in 101 to ask for advice. The police have then come and arrested her husband, bailed him and basically given him a restraining order. She has been trying to tell the police she doesn’t want him charging etc but they are ignoring this. It’s a great example to show that it absolutely is not the victims decision, for many reasons but one being that they might be afraid of repercussions.

To someone he trusted, who he didn’t anticipate sharing the password with a third party, and stealing from him.

He was foolish, and also an unsuspecting victim.

Goodness they are still very young to have accounts where they can spend money like that.
I thought we were talking about adults and bank accounts.

It happens a lot of children. Teaching them that some people are shit. A life lesson, not a nice one but an important lesson, don’t trust anyone.

At the very least your (ex) friend should have wanted to sort her son out to nip this kind of behaviour in the bud. My parents and friends’ parents would have formed a united front when we were kids to keep us in check had we needed it. My DP once did exactly this kind of thing with his son who’d got in with a few kids who were a bad influence - not any theft involved but general mucking about and the police had a word and as you suggest, it scared him back on to the straight and narrow. You are honestly better off without this kind of person in your life @ThisHappyBiscuit

There are lots more than 1 other poster who thinks OP is correct - me included

OP's son has learned that passwords should be closely-guarded secrets. The other children and their parents have learned that cyber crime is still crime and breaching trust has consequences.

I doubt the police will do anything, but it needed reporting. However, it was obvious thst your mate would turn away.

How did your passkey work if it was changed? Or did you have a different secondary one?

going to the police was extreme but I understand why you and your son were upset by it.

It doesn’t matter though does it. Doesn’t matter who thinks she’s correct or incorrect, we aren’t her friend. We are strangers. Everyone will grow bored of this thread, and this was the ops only friend. She said she felt lost and alone.

shes lost her only friend. So as right as she may be, this is the price she paid for her actions.

woupd i have done it, absolutely not. I’d have contacted Roblox and the parents of the boy who took the 45 quids worth of game stuff. I’d have spoken to my friend about passing the password on, but not been too strong as I would kjow my son did the exact same thing, and her son didn’t steal. It was the third boy.

but for me, it’s utterly ludicrous to go the police over this, others in a minority disagree and would report a ten year old in this situation and gladly lost a friend over it.

for me, no, it’s not worth police time, I’d speak to the third boys parents, ask Roblox to get the 45 back, tell my friend her kid shouldn’t have passed the password on, but recognise my son did the exact same thing, and expect th4 parents to deal with it,

either way here is the police will not act, and the op has lost her only friend.

Lots of misinformation here as far as I can see. It is an offence to log on to someone else's computer account without permission. It is a theft of £45 whether it is IRL or online. Sounds like the theft occurred, perhaps not the logon but was there any suggestion of "I won't be your friend any more" if the password was not handed over. This would be the sort of thing a 10 year old might do. I am sorry that this situation has arisen for you OP.

Thays not what she said happened, at least read her posts. She said he gave it to his friend for him to do something, then the two boys fell out. The friends son then passed it to a third boy who stole the 45 pounds of game stuff.

"I'd rather be alone than unhappy" springs to mind here. The OP's "friend" was OK with her son passing on account details that weren't his to share.

She never said that and any consequences or conversations she had with her son on his behaviour has not been spoken to here. She didn’t feel th4 police should be involved. But thay doesn’t mean she didn’t speak to her son and give him consequences;