Friend upset after I reported hacked account to the police

[ThisHappyBiscuit]

So my sons account got hacked by a friend of mines son who gave the details to someone to hack into. When this was all happening I said if my son's accounts password isn't given to me then im guna have to contact the police and my friend said "do it". So I did call when I didn't get the password. Ive gone upto my friend today and she's said do you really think you should be talking to me? I said why what's the matter? She said well we are under criminal investigation cause of you and we shouldn't be talking. I said well you told me to contact them and she said well it was to shut you up (in so many words) cause you were going off on one. Im really upset because I thought she was my friend and im just so lost now because I literally have no friends outside of my life. Can I just have some friendly words of encouragement because I'm just so lost and feeling so alone right now.

OPs friends kid hasn’t violated that act as far as I can see.

Unfortunately, she wasn't a true friend. What her son did was scummy, and he's only 10, not like he's a strapping lad of 17 over whom she may have no control or live in fear of. She absolutely should have helped you. Instead, she sent you to the police, then became angry when you did. That's not a friendship.

You can get by without her and look for new friends.

Calling the police was extreme but you do not want friends who let their children steal from your child and do nothing about it.

I'm sorry you're upset that you lost your friend and I get that, but she sounds aweful. I think you did the right thing, it will suck for a while but ultimately be an onwards and upwards type situations.

She's no friend and therefore no loss.

But you need to have a closer eye on what your lad is doing with his account, scammers are everywhere and he's not old enough to navigate that.

Shes not your friend. Her son isnt your sons friend

And shes right. Her DS will be being investigated for cyber crimes - you cant report this and speak to her like nothing has happened. There is an investigation and she will be advised not to contact you or your family while that happens

And even if she wasnt, its best for you anyway to cut these people out your life

Oh my god! I just kind of assumed these were teenagers.

Ok the fact it was Roblox and they are ten changes this. Are you sure “they “ stole it, and not just your son passed his details on and the other kid used it?

Don’t be ridiculous he’s ten and used his log on details to get some credit in a game. Cyber crimes is not investigating him,

Are they at the same school? Did you talk with school or involve them in any way? I think it would be wise to. Ideally, this could have been addressed with support from them in terms of setting up a restorative conversation to get to the bottom of the why and how and the impact it's had on everyone and what the consequences should be, who's accountable etc - including reimbursing the £45.

It was wild of the other adult to say "call the police" then act butt hurt when you called the police. Yes, maybe to her it feels disproportionate but theft is theft and if this is what will make the other two children involved understand the scale of the issue, it's not such a bad thing.

It sounds like she's gone straight into what I call Mama Bear mode where mums protect their kids at all costs (understandable) but they also protect them from any consequences of their negative actions rather than taking responsibility and learning from mistakes (big error and not a good move for their child's development or understanding of the world and their own actions within it).

She's mad at you, let her be mad. These kids shouldn't have done what they did. You wouldn't have reported them if nothing had happened. This has all unfurled because two stupid children made a big bad decision. Your child knows you have his back, you'll both have learned something about cyber security and passwords. Focus on what you can control and enjoy all the other friendships in your lives.

He passed it on to someone else to hack into and change the password and send the items he bought to the other friends account.

I would have assumed the go to the police comment was a tongue in cheek joke because it’s a daft argument over some Roblox items. No hacking was involved here if your son literally handed over his details and the child used them. This has happened to my son before and my attitude was well, you lost the items because you didn’t protect your account, that’s your lesson learned. I certainly wasn’t wasting police time with this. I’m a bit gobsmacked that you just thought you’d walk up to your ex friend and chat like nothing happened when you’ve sent the police to her door over Roblox. Hopefully both children have learnt a lesson about internet safety and etiquette.

But how was she supposed to help?

Her son had given the password away to someone else so what else could have been done?

I’m not sure passing on a password is a criminal offence. Your son gave his own password away.

No he passed the details onto someone else to get into then to send the items to him so he could have them.

Why did you son give him his password?

10 is old enough to be criminally responsible and they might be when hes passed those details on to someone else to steal. Thats serious, regardless of him being 10

It doesn't sound like she was ever really your friend. You're better off without her. You did the right thing when you called the police. You protected your child and reported a criminal act. I hope better friendships are on the horizon for you.

The police have said that its fraud. I know it may seem unimportant to some but its alot of money to lose to some and he was very distraught as this money hes used with his birthday and christmas money. He gave his details to a friend a while ago and theyve since fell out and its all been orchestrated. His ex friend gave the details to a friend my son doesnt even know or have contact with. They changed his password, numbers on the account so I couldn't even log in. So I used my passkey from my phone and I got in but if I didn't have it hed of not gotten into it. I said to the police i didn't want to press charges but just go round and give um a good telling off and that hopefully with that they won't do it again.

I mean, obviously she's not your friend and obviously you had to call the police.

You should definitely. DEFINITELY. press charges.

Right but your son gave him the details in the first place I assume? So a good lesson for him in not giving out his details. It is obviously crap what the other kid has done and I do hope he gets his account and items back. I’d be contacting Roblox to resolve this not the police. And this woman isn’t your friend and won’t be again now she knows you’ll contact the police over your children’s dispute on Roblox.

But how was she supposed to help?
Her son had given the password away to someone else so what else could have been done?

Friend could have helped to get the new password from the third boy, who is presumably someone op doesn't know, so op's son could recover his account.

Cause hes a silly goose 🙄 but ive had a very serious talk about cyber crime and the implications itll have if he does and hes seen it for himself now. So hopefully lesson learnt for him and myself.

You don’t press charges, that’s not how it works, it’s not your decision. The police and cps decide this. Ain’t no one prosecuting a ten year old for this.

good god, I can’t beleive as parents you could not sort it out.