Dating Thread 56 - Love is in the Air

[BoxOfCats]

The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy
Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

@Brightbluesomething this is a great opportunity to set a boundary and see if he respects it.

@coolpattern doing well 😁

@Brightbluesomething Has Mr T got an expectation you will answer immediately or relatively quickly or is he happy to wait for a response?

Sometimes its easy to get caught up in replying quickly to people but we dont have to.

Most of the people on my WhatsApp are muted except my best friend and my kids.
I reply when I can and most of my other friends know that.
If something is urgent they can ring me.

Even with people I've been dating or FWB they've never had an immediate response from me and I don't expect one from them.

I also know that lots of my friends are busy people. I message when I think of something but don't expect a reply straight away as they have busy lives.

Almost 2pm. Have text Mr Actor to ask what time we're meeting at. Place your bets on whether I'll be out with him or a friend later!

🤞🤞🤞

Nothing yet. I think I'll just go out with my friends. We literally confirmed on Tuesday but just not a time. Rookie error!

Oh no I hate this… hope he responds at least x

Not a peep. On my way to meet friends in Soho!

What a dick. At least you had a plan B - hope you have a fun evening!

Good for you, have a fab time. He’s a berk x

@CleanShirt Mr Bishop cancelled sat. #3

FFS. What was his reason?

Giving his adult offspring a lift somewhere.

I guess at least he told me.

@Nosdacariad Did he apologise profusely and say he wanted to reschedule? Or do you think it was an excuse?

Unless that somewhere is a hospital appointment that excuse is pretty awful.

Mr Starship (who I matched with earlier this week) has asked me on a coffee date. He’s away on a trip this week but keen to meet next weekend. Part of me wonders if this is a sensible idea, however given neither of the other two men I’m dating are showing any signs of wanting commitment, part of me also thinks why the hell not.

Has he suggested another day / time?

Out of curiosity, Do they know about each other?

I struggle with “juggling” multiple potentials, how do you manage?

I think it was an excuse for getting a better offer.

Why the hell not!

Nope

Eurgh sorry @Nosdacariad. Solidarity!

Backatcha😘😘😘

@Nosdacariad @CleanShirt
Commiserations....but its just the trash taking itself out 🫶

Back from date 3 with Mr Teacher and we discussed text communication. I said I prefer keeping in touch but talking more in person when we meet up, and don’t always have time to message extensively. He said he understands and doesn’t expect me to respond immediately or even at all if I’m busy. He’s happy that I always do get back to him so that’s ok for him.
We went for a lovely meal and he wouldn’t let me split the bill which was nice. Thoroughly enjoyed myself, we arranged date 4 for Saturday. He made it very clear that he really likes me.
He wants us to be exclusive and both delete the apps (he did it in front of me). I had no signal so haven’t yet.
I’ve not heard anything at all from Mr Supermarket today and yesterday the conversation was drying up. I think we’ve waited too long to arrange a first date.
Do I cancel on him? Mr Teacher has invited me to a festival that sounds great and I don’t feel right having a first date immediately beforehand when he wants exclusivity. Views would be appreciated!