Dating Thread 56 - Love is in the Air

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The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating
-Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy
Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

@Nosdacariad the whole messaging thing is hard isn’t it maybe see how you get on in person on your date?

Must admit the thumb irritates the crap out of me anyway so him using it was in instant ‘fuck off’ in my head.

It’s like the men on dating apps who send 👋 because using words is far too much effort

Give an example

"Bit limp" chuckled at that 😉🙈😂

Yep nearly as bad as 'k' 🙄

Oh god yes the wave too 🤦‍♀️ yuck

I find 👍rudely dismissive for a love interest.

Yes!

Eg I say I'm daydreaming about holidays - where would he like to go next, he answers. No question back.

Actually that would annoy me. When there’s a really easy ‘in’ to continue a conversation and they don’t take it. I guess it all hinges on how the meal goes tomorrow (pun intended!)

Just saw a profile that initially looked ok but when I zoomed on one of the scenery shots he had his shorts pulled down, pissing over the mountainside I presume. 🤮

I agree. I’ve spent 13/14 hours in this man’s company in just over a week and talked about every subject under the sun. Even if there’s no attraction I’m worth more than a 👍. It’s rude even as a friend

Hes just appeared in my FB people you might know 😂 well he won’t be getting a friend request

Gross!

In my dating finds this week

A guy I used to work with who was vile, bitter, vindictive...and those were his best qualities. Looked quite normal on Hinge til I realised who it was.

A guy whose SIL I used to work with who was veerrry worried I might mention it to her, and who is not quite divorced.

Ahhh 🙄 sounds painful.
Date is tomorrow?
Hopefully hes different in person 🙏

Date is tomorrow. Date 2.

So I started chatting with a guy on Tinder on Tuesday night. Lots in common, same sense of humour and I found him really interesting. Yesterday we continued the chat via Tinder although not quite as much or as late into the evening. The conversation finished on a question from me and I haven’t heard anything from him today. Ho hum. I’ve got a few things to do this evening but I’ll send him another message once I’m home and hopefully we can pick up where we left off. He’s the most interesting person I’ve spoken with so far so fingers crossed!

I agree @TwistedWonder it’s time to throw this one back. He’s not going to get any better.
I have the first date from my Hinge surge tonight (Mr Teacher) and I think I’m already getting the ick. He’s trying really hard but it’s offputting. He said 4 times last night that he was really looking forward to seeing me. In the end I just said goodnight and ended the conversation. He messaged this afternoon to ask what drink I wanted so it was there when I arrived (giving me kinda royal visit vibes). My friend thinks this is sweet and I get her point, I would order in for a friend before they arrived but not a first date. Maybe I’m just too used to the safety element of buying my own drinks to avoid being spiked. I’ll meet him (and order when I arrive) but I hope he’s better in person.

There are two others left in the running, both seem to be chatty and a bit more compatible for me. One has asked where I’d like to go for a date but no details confirmed, the other seems to be out of practice but good fun. Hopefully I can meet them both for comparison.

You should definitely keep your options open! The guy who asked where you’d like to go on a date is definitely putting out the feelers…. And definitely think he’s building up to asking you!

Beware the guy in the Dr who scarf on Tinder. Been there 😱

@Brightbluesomething if that was in person, it might be nerves but on messages it smacks of having zero to say already!

That sounds way too eager and would send me running in the other direction! However that could just be me, I also got the same vibes the last time a guy tried to get my number 😩😁

I wouldn't bother. It's quite common for someone to drop off. Leave it be

I’m glad I went to meet him as he’s actually very different in person and perfectly normal. We got on well. Seeing each other again at the weekend.
He’s more attractive than his photos which could have been a factor! But very relaxed and chatty, not at all creepy as I was starting to worry he was!

I would avoid double texting, it's his turn!

So often men are better than their photos, that is defo a thing, so glad for you.

So last night I messaged Mr Soughdough if he wanted to talk and as I was doing it he called me. We chatted about general stuff, and I decided I would wait until I see him in person to raise the questions about "if I stick around" and him not remembering things, it doesn't feel like a phone chat. He messaged again tonight wanting to talk to me though, and I was busy so he's calling tomorrow. I don't think he's not keen, but will get to the bottom of what is going on, and report back.

See I'm a bit weird in that I don't like messaging after the date is arranged, gives you more to talk about once you meet!