Just been dumped by FWB 30 seconds after sex!

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I honestly don't know whether to laugh at the sheer cheek of this, or cry, or neither because I possibly always had it coming.

I have been seeing a man casually for a year. We are both divorced and we were friendly acquaintances before. We began texting after our DCs were in the same show. The texts got flirtier and eventually sexual. We met for sex, it was great, and we have continued to meet every few weeks for a year.

This morning was one such meeting. It was great as usual but then immediately afterwards, like 30 seconds afterwards, he said that it would probably be the last time as he thinks it's run its course. That was the phrase he used.

I didn't know we were on a course! If we were, I certainly would have expected him to have ended it before shagging me not immediately afterwards. The CFery of that bit.

I didn't really know what to say. He has gone now and I feel a bit shellshocked. I will see him later at pick up and I don't quite know what to say! Oh dear.

What?!?!?! 😂

Oh my god 😂 what an arsehole!
I’d say he’s either met someone else and fancied one for the road or he’s worried you’re getting feelings for him and he’s scarpered (without actually asking you).
Please go to pick-up looking fabulous!

Jesus Christ, how old you?

I take it the 'wiggly little finger' gesture is to demonstrate the OP is saying he has a small penis?

So if he was just as childish he'd giggle back, press his index fingers and thumbs together, to say OP has a huge vagina?

Embarrassing that you'd suggest this.

Yeah , like you wouldn’t meet a platonic friend for lunch and act normal then at the end say ‘btw I no longer want to be friends with you ‘ before sauntering off

Well I’m 55 so…. 🤣

I’m not being your mum. You do what you want. But you stated this was always just fwb, therefore no strings, not a monogamous relationship so it was always likely to mean he’d also be getting it elsewhere. I just think it daft in these situations but you do you

This with bells on. That’s all the ‘run its course’ thing could mean.

I think the comparison to a game of tennis or something is right actually, he's done now

What wasnt right was the lack of manners about how to say that.

Put it down to social ineptness and inability to have a conversation at the appropriate time. He clearly doesnt have those skills, thats not your problem or something you should hold onto

Someone else can deliver the same goods as him I would have thought.

I guess there's no age limit for childish behaviour

What an asswipe.

No you 'didn't have it coming'. Id have described it as more FB than FWB, but either way, common decency is still expected.

what did he say when you said 'what?? You twat, using me for sex knowing you were going to say that, makes you a disgusting individual. There's no 'might' about it, that's the very last time you'll be having sex with me, you twat'

If whoever’s caught his eye falls through he’ll creep back again
hope you tell him to fuck off if he does

He’s an arsehole.

Oh yes, when his new relationship doesn’t work out, he’ll be back. Don’t let him in!

At least get your fucking breath back

did make me laugh though! Shame you didn't actually say that to him.

The actual point of FWB is to be friends, as well as having sex. Absolutely shitty behaviour from him to end it in this way.

No this type of crap behavior needs to be called out otherwise he'll do it again without consideration for the partner. OP, I'd either say something this afternoon OR text before pickup. Say that you've been reflecting today on how disrespectful it was to dump you so spectacularly after coital relations and in future think about the feelings of the other person

I personally would either be civil at pick up or not speak to him.

FWB really dont owe anyone anything, even manners. They're not partners. Its a liaison, nothing more, nothing less.

Its why its not to everyones cup of tea

What a prick. When you see him later wave cheerily as if you couldn't give a toss that you're shot of him.

Have you missed the "F" part of FWB? People can have sex without being in a relationship and still expect to be treated like a human being. (Although clearly an expectation that people deserve to be treated like actual people isn't your 'cup of tea'...)

Yes you were foolish and people can have latent STI’s so unless he was tested periodically and showed you the test you could not rely on his word for safety.

Ooh OP, that was brutal, especially straight after sex. He could have told you prior to the sex, but then he probably knew you wouldn't be wanting sex with him!

I'd agree with others, he's met someone he wants a relationship with or a new FWB type of person.

I appreciate FWB is not being in a serious relationship but even so, it's normal to expect some respect and decency. He could have come over, told you and bowed out gracefully. Instead he chose to put his dick before doing the right thing by you.

If you've been having sex without condoms, then I would suggest for your own peace of mind to have STI tests, to make sure you're clean.

It doesnt mean literally friends though for most people/men

Also perhaps you dont mean to, but you sound very aggressive toward me, unless you mean the word 'your' to be a general 'you'.

Of course you expect manners.

This belief is just a way of women voicing their disapproval.

I be a bit tempted to play him at his own game and push for one last hurrah. I’d bet money he’d take you up on it based on his behaviour but then I’d be running late then cancel 30 mins after arranged time.