Just been dumped by FWB 30 seconds after sex!

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I honestly don't know whether to laugh at the sheer cheek of this, or cry, or neither because I possibly always had it coming.

I have been seeing a man casually for a year. We are both divorced and we were friendly acquaintances before. We began texting after our DCs were in the same show. The texts got flirtier and eventually sexual. We met for sex, it was great, and we have continued to meet every few weeks for a year.

This morning was one such meeting. It was great as usual but then immediately afterwards, like 30 seconds afterwards, he said that it would probably be the last time as he thinks it's run its course. That was the phrase he used.

I didn't know we were on a course! If we were, I certainly would have expected him to have ended it before shagging me not immediately afterwards. The CFery of that bit.

I didn't really know what to say. He has gone now and I feel a bit shellshocked. I will see him later at pick up and I don't quite know what to say! Oh dear.

Fucking hell that's bad. I'd definitely send him a follow up message to say he shouldnt have had sex and should have told you prior to that, as it was obviously planned when he said it so quickly after and has left you feeling used regardless of it only being a no strings arrangement.

You can expect it and think the other person is a nob if they don’t provide it. You’re right you can’t change their behaviour or attitudes but you can still expect to be treated with good manners. I expect people to treat me with respect. If they don’t I just move on but I am quite comfortable about offloading about it.

I don’t know what you mean about ‘making yourself valuable enough’. I hope you don’t mean stay chaste because that often doesn’t work either.

You didn't use condoms - bloody hell. Get yourself tested. Particularly if you think he's been sleeping with other people

And get regular STI tests. The assumption should be that there is no exclusivity. I do agree, though, that he could have gotten out of your bed before dumping you. That's callous.

Don’t text him. If you see him try and act totally normal like you aren’t bothered. I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of showing any emotion. If he ever comes back again tell him to do one.

Cringe!

This is why I will always discourage my children from loveless sex.

Agree except I’d echo his words and say ‘gee thanks but I think you were right we’d run our course’.

Just make sure you always look smokin at the school gate, he'll rue the day the sad sod

Wow still had to make sure he got in that last shag before things had “run its course”. What a fucking gentleman eh.

Omg he reminds me of the dickhead FWB in Bridesmaids

Thst is quite mean. But don't enter into this kind of arrangement and expect not to get hurt. He does sound pretty horrible though.

It wasn't a relationship though, was it? She says it was a FWB.

When I was about 22 or 23 I was in a FWB ' situationship' I literally went off him during sex! It was his tiny teeth. They were looming over me and I just realised he wasn't for me. I did wait a few days before ending it though.

Well out of all the fuckers that are cheeky, this has to be the cheekiest fucker of them all!!!!

What a complete and total bellend. Have some bloody common decency at least.

I didn’t say anything about staying chaste.

A FWB relationship by definition is no strings attached. It only has the boundaries that the participants themselves explicitly draw up together through words and actions.

It sounds like the OP didn't know or value this person particularly highly, he was a convenient shag, she was a convenient shag and they treated each other coreespondingly. Nobody had much at stake here.

That would be in incredibly odd and would make the OP look mental.

He’s already dumped her. She can’t just pretend that didn’t happen and then send a message dumping him like it was her idea.

Wow what an arsehole. Seems he forgot the ‘friends’ bit where you treat someone with a bit of respect!

Please don't do this - you'll look unhinged.

Don't send him any messages. What's that going to do, except make him think you caught feelings and that he was right to get out?

He’s met someone and he doesn’t want her to find out about you.

Someone I was going out with in my 20’s finished with me just after sex. I heard years later that he had said some disrespectful things about me to friends.

However, I now hear he’s miserable and married to a control freak whereas I’m married to someone lovely so 😂

I refuse to believe a grown woman would actually behave like this. That's unhinged.

I don't feel lowered at all, but thanks.

No, this is behaving like a cunt.

Reminds me of telling my 14-year-old boyfriend 'we need to talk-' and him immediately interrupting 'IT'S OVER!'