Posting in relationships for more traffic as haven’t been able to stop thinking about this. It feels quite petty compared to some things on here but it’s been playing on my mind all day.
DH and I have been together 12 years, married 7. Two kids (9 and 6). Generally we get on well.
Last night after the kids went to bed he asked if we could talk. I assumed it was something normal (finances, holiday plans etc).
Instead he asked if I’d ever thought about “opening up the marriage”.
I genuinely thought he was joking at first but he was completely serious. He said lots of couples do it now and it can actually make relationships stronger.
I was really taken aback and said absolutely not. He then backtracked a bit and said he was “just curious” and we don’t have to do anything.
But it’s really unsettled me.
I asked where this had come from and he said it was just something he’d been reading about online.
Here’s the bit that’s bothering me though.
When I pushed a bit more he eventually admitted there’s a specific person he was thinking about.
And it’s someone I know.
It’s actually my younger sister.
Apparently she’d joked with him a few weeks ago about “modern relationships” when we were all having drinks and he says that’s what made him start thinking about it.
I feel completely weird about the whole thing now and honestly a bit sick.
He’s saying it was just a hypothetical conversation and I’m massively overreacting.
But I can’t get past the fact that he clearly has been thinking about my sister in that way.
AIBU to think this is completely inappropriate or am I turning something stupid into a huge issue?