Are all my midlife friends having affairs? (Apart from me)

[SnowIsOn]

This was the title of an article in the Times at the weekend.

The writer is an author who in the process of researching a character for her latest book contacted select female friends who then anonymously reported back - 12 out of 17 were having or had had affairs.

Obviously take this fluff piece with a huge pinch of salt but I can only think of a handful of people I know who’ve had affairs and they’re all just acquaintances. So this just doesn’t ring true to me. See it a lot on threads here, but that’s from a huge readership and very self selecting, and it’s mostly the husbands who are doing the dirty.

Or am I very naive, are a large minority of mid life women having affairs and are super good at hiding them?

Got tired of saying ‘and’ or ‘spouse’ 😂 Of course women and unmarried people can behave in exactly the same way. In my own personal experience so far though I know many more married men who have had affairs than women, married or otherwise.
Apologies for singling out one gender, no offence was meant.

People can slip up eventually by getting too complacent or cocky about how good they are at hiding it. Or in a tricky situation quickly hide something temporarily in a not too hard to find place hastily, then forget to move it later.

Was, the affair ended when we came clean. My ex was also married. We’re still together many many years later.

Was a complete mistake to break up and marry other people. That doesn’t justify it in any way but it’s one reason I know “once a cheater; always a cheater” isn’t true in my case. Because there was only ever one person I would have risked everything for. It hurt people and I’ve never rejoiced in that but for the most part, every one has moved on.

I agree that it’s not always that simple
as ‘once a cheater etc’. That’s why I don’t really judge as we never know the true situation

How long were you and the ex apart and married to other people? Were there children involved?

Probably only the ones not boasting,or talking about it.

For every man having an affair there’s almost always a woman involved.
😉😁😁.