Please don’t judge me to hard

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This is gonna sound really silly but my anxiety is through the roof.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go. It’s a family event so thought it would be something fun to do with my boy for the day as it’s a 2 hour drive each way.

Well now I’m panicking!! The whole influencer life really isn’t my circle so I was hoping to slide in, watch, see him briefly after and then disappear. He has other ideas! He wants me to get there a bit early and take me and my boy in to meet everyone!’

Its gonna be cold and even raining so it’s not exactly a look my best event and I don’t wanna look like a fan girl!!

can someone help me stop overthinking this?!

Hold up!! I’m not going to this because o believe he wants to date me, like I’m some fan girl!

He doesn’t need to know anything about her life as long as she pays her subscription. Of course he’s not her type. This is how some influencers make their money.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go

It does rather sound like you think he wants to date you OP.

Doesn’t this put you off both him and the event OP?

Especially as a mum?

Can you share with me the link that says he’s going to be there because I’ve tried looking and can’t see anything anywhere

You literally said in your OP that he’s ’a man who has been asking to take me out since 2018’, OP.

But you do seem to think it would lead somewhere. You are flattered by his attention to the extent you want to go along in support and meet him and his “friends”. Sounds like he has groomed you, and potentially other vulnerable women. Have you been asked for money or subscribed to a site over past 8 years to talk exclusively? This is a large chunk of your ds life, how much has it compromised your time together?

Why have you been face timing and exchanging voice notes with someone who you have never met for years ?I find that very strange

It’s a pen pal situation clearly. She was a fan and it’s gone from there obviously. Nothing romantic about it . I think he clearly knows ops home life situation and is trying to be nice and bring her out .

I’d be suspicious of a man who was putting so much investment into this “pen pal” situation when she hasn’t even met him. Sorry but I would .

I think Mumsnet people are just telling you to be very very careful, and not to be disappointed with the day.

I feel mean saying this though.

https://www.sussexexpress.co.uk/news/people/celebrities-coming-to-west-sussex-to-play-in-charity-football-match-and-its-this-weekend-5611132

The celebrity players confirmed so far are:

Dan Osborne - TV

Calum Best - TV

Jake Wood - Soap star

Cal the dragon - Internet Star

Man like haks - Comedian

Nathan Campbell - Married At first sight

Orson Nurse - Married at first sight

Ryan Livesey - Married at First sight

Dean Gaffney - Soap Legend

Ricky Groves - Soap Legend

Arthur Poremba - Married at first sight

Adam nightingale - Married at first sight

Georges Berthonneau - Married at First Sight

Bleu Landau - Soap Star

Sean Stone - Love island

Bsilly Brown - Love island

Matt Lapinskas - Soap Star

Flintz - BGT finalist

Munveer - Love island

Reuben Collins - Love island

Joe Jackson - Actor - the Business

Keiran Hayler - TV

So would I . Who knows . It’s not a date either way .

There’s one before this at Littlehampton and he’s not playing that one I believe .

That’s exactly why you’re going.

I actually found who he was because of did promoting for my friends mental health charity event. And I never said there I was going with any romantic intent

It has been me that has turned down the date invites but he’s just continued to stay in contact that’s all

Go and have fun OP - I hope he turns out to be a gentleman IRL too !

Don't get over-invested and stay cautious , and you will be okay !!

Hope you have a lovely time. One or two of those men (not the one who's charged ew) look dishy ! Indeed had not ever heard of a number of the younger ones!

I’m sorry, but your post VERY much comes across as exactly this. And he sounds like a creep. Please listen to everyone here who is asking you to be careful and whether this is a suitable event to be bringing your kid to.

lol. He’s never asked me for anything and I wouldn’t subscribe to something just to talk to someone, I have a therapist for that 🤣🤣

It was me who made a joke about turning up at this game and then thought why not? It’s a family event, my friend lives literally around the corner from where it’s happening who I haven’t seen in years and 2 of my other mates are coming with their kids.

So you’re leading him on then? Because if he’s supposedly wanted to date you for 8 years then you going to him might be a sign. Listen it’s ok if you’re going with romantic intentions and we know you are we are just saying keep safe and protect yourself

Thank you!!

Think maybe it’s come across completely wrong because I’m not going on a hope of this man being the love of my life and I’m taking my son with me, I’m not gonna be drapped all over this bloke.

That’s my point. I’d be suspicious of the fact he stayed in contact

🚩 I am just going to pop my red flag here for a sec, just needed somewhere to put it down

I’m definitely not leading him on and there’s no way I would say it’s with romantic intentions, we’ve never been in the same room. He did some promoting for my friends MH Charity years ago and that’s how we ended up talking