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Please don’t judge me to hard

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SENDChaos · 28/02/2026 02:11

This is gonna sound really silly but my anxiety is through the roof.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go. It’s a family event so thought it would be something fun to do with my boy for the day as it’s a 2 hour drive each way.

Well now I’m panicking!! The whole influencer life really isn’t my circle so I was hoping to slide in, watch, see him briefly after and then disappear. He has other ideas! He wants me to get there a bit early and take me and my boy in to meet everyone!’

Its gonna be cold and even raining so it’s not exactly a look my best event and I don’t wanna look like a fan girl!!

can someone help me stop overthinking this?!

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LoyalMember · 01/03/2026 18:28

'cold and raining..' 😆

LucyLoo1972 · 02/03/2026 05:09

SENDChaos · 28/02/2026 15:18

I’m actually 40! 🤣🤣🤣

some of my closest friends are in the music industry and I barely go to any of their events because I don’t get the whole world of the ‘celebrities’ if that makes sense?

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I dont want to be mean but all this sounds like you are a teenager

BauhausOfEliott · 02/03/2026 22:28

LucyLoo1972 · 02/03/2026 05:09

I dont want to be mean but all this sounds like you are a teenager

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If you don’t want to be mean, don’t say something that’s clearly mean.

LucyLoo1972 · 02/03/2026 22:30

BauhausOfEliott · 02/03/2026 22:28

If you don’t want to be mean, don’t say something that’s clearly mean.

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fair enough - I didnt know quite how to put it in a nicer way btu I shouldn't have said it I see now

ApeachAndaGoodBook · 03/03/2026 03:27

I haven't read replies but I'd cancel.

ApeachAndaGoodBook · 03/03/2026 03:30

SENDChaos · 28/02/2026 03:08

My girls will play buffer if they see me struggling. I suffer with severe depression and anxiety but I think it’ll be a good chance to slowly get back socialising. i think I’ve got to a place where i don’t know who i am outside of being mum.

we’re actually never been in each others company in this 8 years, it’s been social media and on the phone.

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Omg why put your nerves through it?

AnnaQuayRules · 03/03/2026 03:43

Has the match happened? If so, I hope you had a great day @SENDChaos

ApeachAndaGoodBook · 03/03/2026 03:54

Just read the complete thread. It doesn't sound as bad as your first post, where you sounded panicked. If you've video chatted and are sure he's not a bad un. And you'll be with friends and children.
I met people from online, one was a relatives internet forum friend, they hadn't met yet either. Thosands of miles away. We up kept an internet friendship, exchanged Christmas cards, and I stayed friends until her death.
I can tell you were leaning towards going but anxious about meeting for the first time. Hope you and your ds have a fun day out.

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