Please don’t judge me to hard

[SENDChaos]

This is gonna sound really silly but my anxiety is through the roof.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go. It’s a family event so thought it would be something fun to do with my boy for the day as it’s a 2 hour drive each way.

Well now I’m panicking!! The whole influencer life really isn’t my circle so I was hoping to slide in, watch, see him briefly after and then disappear. He has other ideas! He wants me to get there a bit early and take me and my boy in to meet everyone!’

Its gonna be cold and even raining so it’s not exactly a look my best event and I don’t wanna look like a fan girl!!

can someone help me stop overthinking this?!

🤣🤣🤣. He’s not a footballer, tbh he’s more of a D list celeb 🤣🤣

I think you need to be careful. You don’t sound like you have a lot of confidence/self esteem. You’ve never met this guy so you don’t really know him and you’re bringing your child along. Don’t be blinded by the ‘celeb’ connections. Personally, I’d go along with friends, have a laugh but make sure you’re not put in a vulnerable position.

So I’m guessing maybe an actor in a shit soap e.g. Hollyoaks/Emmerdale.

My advice still stands….go, enjoy the (likely) shite football match, and don’t feel any pressure for it to be more than just a day out with your DS and your mates.

And if it eventually turns into a love story for the ages, just bare in mind my colouring comes alive with jewel tones (Royal Blue/Ruby Red/Emerald Green) and I can rock both a hat and a tasteful fascinator….

could this guy be an actor by any chance?

No he’s not an actor. I’m not gonna give details because I actually came on here cause he’s on all my socials! Lol

I’m not the only one taking their kid. My mates are coming and bringing their kids as well.

Also I personally wouldn’t call him a celeb as bad as that sounds 🤣🤣

No. I just say he’s an influencer. Dunno who but he does socials

To be fair, it’s irrelevant what he does and how he makes his money so please don’t feel like I’m prying.

Ultimately, you just need to decide if he seems to be a genuine and decent fella and if so, whether you think you can have an enjoyable day out in his company, without these being any strings attached or expectations on you.

If the answer is yes to both of those questions then I’d say go for it. Worst case you have a crappy date, watch a rubbish football game but spend some time with your son and mates. Best case, it may be the start of something new and exciting…

As someone who has been married coming up to 7 years and with my DH for 16, those new romance butterflies are long forgotten…..I’m living vicariously through you now @SENDChaos 🤣

We’ve actually been talking on and off for nearly 8 years! He’s never tried to pressure meeting or spoken inappropriately to me.

im just being silly and over thinking it

How did you first start talking, OP? Have you used paid subscription type services for the messaging and voice notes? I know sometimes influencers will take advantage of people in this way and “keep them on the hook” for long periods of time because it’s financially beneficial for them.

I’ve seen situations where they cultivate attention networks and blur the boundaries between supporters/ friends/ romantic prospects. They have “personal” phone numbers that are provided to subscribers and rely on messaging and social media intimacy that feels personal but isn’t 😔

If this isn’t the case here, please do not be offended. I wanted to raise the point just in case it did resonate with you and your situation.

Well then get yourself to bed, have some sleep and then go out tomorrow and have a good day. Don’t overthink, don’t put yourself under any pressure, just see it as a social occasion with someone you enjoy chatting with and what will be will be.

I hope you have a lovely day!

No we started talking way before OF even became a thing back in 2018 🤣🤣

Soooo which one is he OP?

And yes it's irrelevant but I'm nosy 😌

Nope. I’m not saying a word and there has actually been other names announced that aren’t on that list lol

Have you both dated other people in these 8 years- if he has been trying to date you for so long, why have you rejected him for 8 years?!

Yeah we’ve both dated other people and I’ve always been open about knowing him, he’s not been on my phone everyday for those 8 years.

I’ve just been wrapped up in single mum life, my boys SEND and I suffer with mental health so it’s just never really happened lol

You little tinker you

Sounds like a nice day out with your son and your mates OP just enjoy the day and see what happens would be my advice! Hopefully we will see a positive update from you later on, good luck!

Just be realistic with yourself - if he’s a minor celeb he’s probably got women on the go at all of the places he travels to for Z-list events!

Are the “girls” going with you, or also to meet the other celebs? Are these girls real life friends youve met or social media friends?

Enjoy yourself. I hope it's not David Walliams.

what do you mean by using paid transcription services?

Is it the one in littlehampton? Please don't say it's Dean Gaffney

This is from the local paper

Some of these replies are bonkers.

op, go have fun, wear warm footwear, a waterproof jacket, and some nice jeans and a top under. Do your hair and make up. Have loads of fun, meet the celebs, sounds like a fun day out,