Please don’t judge me to hard

[SENDChaos]

This is gonna sound really silly but my anxiety is through the roof.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go. It’s a family event so thought it would be something fun to do with my boy for the day as it’s a 2 hour drive each way.

Well now I’m panicking!! The whole influencer life really isn’t my circle so I was hoping to slide in, watch, see him briefly after and then disappear. He has other ideas! He wants me to get there a bit early and take me and my boy in to meet everyone!’

Its gonna be cold and even raining so it’s not exactly a look my best event and I don’t wanna look like a fan girl!!

can someone help me stop overthinking this?!

The way I’d not over think it, is to just live the day through my son’s perspective.

Does he want to meet these celebrities, are they people I want him to admire? If yes then enjoy the game with him.

Personally i could only meet someone who had been “interested” in me if I was sure that was over and they were clear it would never happen. I’d hate the ambiguity/ feeling I was leading them on.

If you have severe depression and anxiety, you don't leave the house and you're busy with a child who has SEND, will your mental health be able to cope with dating a man who has 'girls chucking themselves at him'?

Just something to consider.

I’m sure she said he’s 31.

OP, have great fun but don’t take it too seriously. These “celebs” often live a lifestyle of meeting lots of different women all the time.

Given your background, you’re likely to be vulnerable and potentially easily taken advantage of. Just keep your guard up.

Some men have a clever way of making you feel like you’re the only, most amazing woman in the world. Then all of a sudden, and I mean sudden, you’re dropped like a raging hot stone (don’t ask me how I know!).

Good luck, have fun, and be careful!

Can’t see if anyone has said this, but if you keep up with that sort of influencer vibe it’s quite obvious who it is. Your preogative obviously but if you do want it to go somewhere you might want to delete the thread! good luck either way!!!

I think you’ve given enough details about him here to make him identifiable OP, may want to ask MN to delete.

It's obvious who he is unlesss she disgused him. 31 MH influencer brother died. Recently

I'd imagine he just wants as many 'fans' as possible to turn up to make him look popular. It's presumably some self promotional nonsense under the guise of it being for charity?

Sounds boring and cheesy and just awful in every way.

I don't see why you'd go unless it was literally your DH or sibling or kids doing it. Or you really are some big fan of this supposed 'celebrity'.

I wouldn't do it for some bloke who asked me out 8 years ago and nothing came of it.

She's making it very clear who he is, drip feeding easily googled info.

OP I worked in the music industry for 30 years and have worked with and met a lot of celebrities etc and these men are awful to date and should be avoided like the plague.

The fact that you even think Calum Best is someone who is fanciable despite his horrendous dating history shows that you need to take a beat.

These egotistical blokes are constantly crawling social media for women like you.

8 years and you haven't met?

There's a reason why.

This is just such a bitter nasty little post.

Without wishing to be a killjoy are you certain this person is who they say they are and that you are not being set up for disappointment. Why have you never met in 8 years, is this the occasion you had envisioned for your first meeting, including your dc? I think you are right in your instinct to question the motives of this person. Might he not have others he talks to and has “invited”?

It kind of is, but there’s a grain of truth in it - isn’t there? If they were going to meet they would have done so already.

I am sure OP is an incredible woman but even the nicest men don’t just hang around waiting for a date for 8 years. ~influencer types are notoriously shallow and by the OPs own admission, he has women throwing themselves at him. What is in it for this bloke?

Add in mental health and disabled children and it just seems even messier. I would probably give this whole thing a wide berth.

I'm.sorry it's really not. As someone also involved in this world a little bit, this poster is correct

Sounds a bit weird from what you describe. I don’t think I’d be going.

It really isn’t. The OP is clearly very vulnerable, and thinks she has some kind of ongoing relationship with a Z-list influencer who has wanted to date her for eight years, when his ‘job’ involves making his fans feel as though he has relationships with them all.

He might just want someone who isn’t out partying and still acting like they are 20. He might want someone who is more mature, thoughtful and grounded. He might also just fancy you because you see him as a human being and jut a piece of flesh to chuck yourself at.

Please whatever you do don't fan girl over Callum Best... he might look pretty but the man is a moron, especially to women wanting photos, etc. (Haven't done it myself but my mum did after a few drinks!) 😂

A celebrity has been pursuing you for EIGHT years? Don't be like my MIL who tells everyone that her daughter's now-husband "waited for her to become single" all his adult life. So he didn't look at, much less sleep with, any other woman until he was almost 40 and my SIL became free. Yeah right.

This reads like a bit of a humblebrag, op...sorry if wrong.

Re the Callum Best comments, he lived where I used to live before we left London. He is absolutely not a pig or aloof, or whatever. He's really nice. Not sure how he treats women but that's another matter.

OP, just go and have fun with your friends! It sounds like a good day out for your son as well. Try to stop fretting and enjoy the moment xx

Listen to that poster OP, she’s not referring to OF. This is how some influencer subscription services work.

Am I the only one who is absolutely clueless as to who this is?

Wise words

OP - look you’ve never met this man in real life, you don’t know him at all and if he really wanted to meet you he could have done so long ago. You clearly lack confidence and by your own admission have some mental health issues; in addition to a demanding child. I have no doubt you are a a great mum to your kid. But this is not the man for you.

If you must go, treat this day as a fun day out with your friends and kids. But that’s all.

Don't go. It sounds completely out of your comfort zone.

No, me neither.