Please don’t judge me to hard

[SENDChaos]

This is gonna sound really silly but my anxiety is through the roof.

a man who has been asking me to take me out since 2018 is taking part in a celebrity charity football match (celebrity side) and has asked me to go. It’s a family event so thought it would be something fun to do with my boy for the day as it’s a 2 hour drive each way.

Well now I’m panicking!! The whole influencer life really isn’t my circle so I was hoping to slide in, watch, see him briefly after and then disappear. He has other ideas! He wants me to get there a bit early and take me and my boy in to meet everyone!’

Its gonna be cold and even raining so it’s not exactly a look my best event and I don’t wanna look like a fan girl!!

can someone help me stop overthinking this?!

we’re actually never been in each others company in this 8 years, it’s been social media and on the phone.

Should you not meet up first before he introduces you & your boy to everyone?

It's strange that he has been pursuing you for 8 years, hasn't got the message that you're not interested and hasn't found himself a girlfriend who reciprocates his attention.

Why are you keeping him in your life when you aren't interested in him and he's now trying to drag you into an activity that's a 4 hour round trip that you don't want to do? If nothing else,your son should take priority surely.

Jeez there's a list to definitely avoid like the plague. Soap legend, really???

Dr Alex?

@SENDChaos this is potentially quite outing for you now, with all the guesses and links to events in replies

This is a very strange thread with all the name dropping.
wouldn’t someone just say I’ve been invited to an
event and not sure as we’ve been talking on and off
for 8 years instead of trying to tell everyone all about how special this is as he’s famous

So a guy you’ve never met invites you to watch a Z-list celebrity charity football match that involves a 2-hour drive for you and your young son, and you don’t want to go and the idea is raising your already high levels of anxiety — wouldn’t it be a lot easier if you just said no?

She does want to go, she’s going with her friends and all the kids, she’s not met in the flesh but she’s video called etc. why on earth shouldn’t she go. She’s just anxious.

sometimes people on here just want to bring others down.

The reason she posted was to say the invitation had driven her anxiety sky-high. She describes herself as struggling with her MH, having severe depression and anxiety, who has a child with additional needs, and as someone who seldom leaves the house. There’s a very simple way to alleviate her anxiety, which is not to go, and find an easier way to start to socialise again.

Go and enjoy it @SENDChaos and as someone else said - don’t think about what others think of you. Just enjoy the day and the bite to eat and have fun!

Oh god if it's DG I know 3 people he's done this sort of thing to 😂

Op I'd say very gently that this is not to be thought of seriously. If he wanted to be involved with you, you would have got together by now.
Also, I really wouldn't see it as a date. He will have spammed all his contacts so he looks famous like the others. It's a tactic that agents tell clients to do.

I hope it’s not Kieran Hayler because he’s currently on conditional bail for child rape.

Op, it sounds like he really does like you. Do you like him in the same way?

As far as how to dress, just dress how you normally would for an event of this type. If he likes you as much as he claims, he won't give two shits what your wearing.

I say go and have fun!

Oooh Jake Wood. Get me an autograph 😂

Not to sound harsh but could he have maybe invited you to get the numbers up? ‘and we’ll get you backstage access too’ sort of thing?
Could it have been a message sent to everyone in his contacts as a pp has suggested.
Also if they’re real life friends do they mind the long journey? (Or are they maybe online people who go to this sort of thing a lot?)
Trying to figure out who from that photo was famous in 2018, only the older ones but you mentioned this man was younger 🤔

He was my first thought

Oooh I’m thinking it must be, I’m sure 2018 was when he was in LI too.

I might be going against the grain here but I think he sounds like a creep. I think he’s preying on your vulnerability and he’s obviously trying to push your boundaries. Asking you out since 2018 makes him sound like a stalker. He clearly has no respect for you as a person.

Thank you for posting this. I was reading the replies thinking I was going mad. These circumstances and this situation sound like the worst way to meet someone, even more so if you're struggling with MH.

I'd also be cautious, remember the thread on here from a lady who'd got 'involved' with an influencer who was asking her for money all the time? And to pay to meet him and to have time 1 on 1 with him?

That was what sprung to my mind. But I'm sure you're too canny for that, OP.

Avoid, avoid, avoid.
Yes it can be an ego boost - I’ve seen it happen but not to me - but you say you are quite vulnerable.
People from that world - even on the D list - get a lot of attention and believe me they love it.
Edited to add: I looked at charity events and both Kieran Hayler AND Dean Gaffney will be there.
I don’t watch LI or any of the other shows that people might recognise from the list.

If it's sunny, make sure he uses the sunscreen!

Do you want to go? I’d base it on that really. What happens when you are there is entirely in your control too.

Quite the opposite the best way to get rid of her anxiety about it is to go she’ll have friends with her and her son she’ll be dressed warmly - sounds like it’s outdoors that decrease a blood pressure going with your head held high enjoy it. He sounds kind

Just remember OP if your kid is 12 now there is life after them growing up . They will want to go off into the world and you need to make a life for after your life as a Mum …

It’s time to start finding you again , go and have a bit of fun .