BIL Text Me In Error-he is having an affair?

[Robertsmithsnan]

I sent my BIL a message last week, my name starts with R.
Received a message at 7am, “R, you are the light of my life, I love you with all my heart”
He sent this to me by mistake.
The “R” person is someone he works with. What do I do?

Forward it to his wife and be done.

That's my first question as well. If its my sister, I would absolutely tell her. If its my sister in law I would tell my husband to deal with. Although, if I was very good friends with the SIL I'd tell her.

That was my first thought.

Screenshot it.
Reply, “I assumed this was for your wife, so I’ve sent it to her.”
Up to you whether you actually do that. I’d enjoy making the bugger sweat though.

What a weird message. I could see it being sent as a lighthearted response to a colleague who something like “sure I’ll give you a lift to work today” or “I’ve cancelled your 9am meeting” but it’s a weird affair text.

Whichever type of BIL he is (husband's brother or sister's husband), I would text back.

Something like "I've taken a screenshot of this. Speak to your wife now before I do it for you as you're clearly up to something."

Me too...

Yes, he's going to say it's a joke. And I suppose it could be, what with the excessively flowery language and all...

It sounds like a sarcastic/jokey text between colleagues, probably in response to something they’ve done to help each other out- e.g. can you cover for me in X meeting, or do you mind if we cancel X today…that type of thing, otherwise it’s a little bit dramatic for affair banter.

Or do you already have your suspicions about BiL so affair is your immediate assumption?

Yes it could be

Forward it straight to his wife. You can blame being half asleep and thinking it was for her but you only have a very short window for that option so do it now

It does sound jokey to me

I wouldn’t do anything. If he really dose love this other woman with ‘all his heart’ I think his wife is going to hear about it soon enough.

Just post back 3 question marks and let him explain.

Please explain how this very earnest message sounds jokey to you.

If that was my sister's husband I would tell her immediately. Anything less would be a terrible betrayal.

How do you know who your BIL works with?
Assuming SIL's name doesn't begin with 'R', does it begin with 'E' or 'T' and he's accidentally hit the wrong key on the keyboard?

If you're absolutely sure about his intentions then I'd respond with "That sinking feeling when you realise you've messaged your SIL instead of your bit on the side! Do you want to tell [name of SIL], or shall I?"

Having said that, what a weird phrase for someone to send "you are the light of my life". Makes me wonder if this is all BS.

Do you know the person R who he works with? It sounds sarcastic

Because it’s too earnest. Too over the top. If a female colleague who I get on with picks some work up for me I message back saying “love you”. I don’t actually love them nor am I having an affair. It could be along those lines.

I’m assuming your BIL has mentioned this work colleague rather too often, hence why you made this connection?

If he’s your sisters DH I would go straight to my sister. If DH brother, it would depend on my relationship with SIL whether I approached her directly or not.

Because it's so earnest! What man would ever text "You're the light of my life!"? It's deliberately overwrought language

Heck whoever it was meant for would surely get the ick from a message like that 😆

What was the message you sent him before this? Has he misunderstood and replied in a jokey way?

How do you know it was a mistake. He might have been declaring it to you!

Is he at home now or at work or elsewhere? Because unless he is usually quite a romantic flowery writer, this sounds like his mates at work getting his phone to play a mean prank. I don’t think men typically speak like this, even to affair partners they are shagging behind their wife’s back. It sounds like something stupid and over the top that someone would say to take the piss if they got ahold of someone’s phone.