Husband walked out of his job issue

[Flowers76]

We are both 55..My husband has walked out of his job , as they have given him a report saying due to his attitude and adruptness with his words and lack of completing certain jobs correctly they haven given him a warning. If it does continue then it will be a displinary matter..
Well basically he told them where go go ! Literally..

He had this so many times before with previous jobs.i was really hoping this was different as nearly been it it a year.
And yes he does have issues with his attitude, hes the type of bloke that thinks its everyone elses issue..not his..
Weve just sorted our selves out finacially as well, im so mad...
Becouse weve been here before im getting tired of it now..so now again pressures on me to pay all the bills...i cant support him orveven speak to him as so mad , am i wrong ? Ive stuck at jobs in past that reduced me to tears but never walked until i had another job lined up..i would never walk as got bills to pay...just feel like getting to old for all this crap..

So they basically chose not to discipline him but give him a second chance and that was to much for him. What type of work does he do?

As you say he's one of those that thinks he's right and everyone else is wrong. And can't handle any feedback at all.

It's a shame for you both. Particularly in this job market.

Could you be better off without him?

Sounds awful op!! He absolutely should have bit his lip, took the feedback and worked to try and resolve the issues. It is tough out there. Im looking for a new role and even jobs at the same title/level I am not getting much traction... so I hope hes getting his cv reviewed and applying for roles right now!!
Its not fair leaving it to you to pick up the slack

I would be furious OP

He does it because he knows that you will support him.

You need to stop bailing him out

Is this the same man who argued with your daughter that you owed money to?

it's not a partnership. Leave and don't look back. You need to focus on providing some security for your retirement.

hes a prick. selfish and too full of pride to taje any criticism.

i think i’d be telling him to go as i’ve had enough. using je as a backup plan to bolster his useless ass. nope. bye.

Unless he’s in a type of job where he can pick up work easily, in the current job market he’s fucked.

You are undoubtedly better off without him, as financially, he’s nothing but a burden.

Most men with attitude and anger issues are able to keep a lid on it at work. They'll speak to their families in a way they'd never speak to a colleague.
If your husband can't even control himself at work, it makes me wonder just how badly he treats you behind closed doors.

Sounds familiar. No regard for bills or anything, their poor little ego is hurt so they must make a stand..pathetic. I wish I could up and quit my job and just know DH would cover all my expenses, wouldn’t that be fab?

I find this sort of man hugely tiresome and these days it’s a dealbreaker to me to have a partner who is capable of holding down an ordinary job. I’m just tired of it. But here you are.

He might do better working for himself, but he’ll have a problem if he talks to clients like this. Does he have any skills to offer? Would he take on cleaning work, because you don’t usually have someone leaning over you? Is he better with people who aren’t challenging him - would he cope with care work because he can be kind to people who need him?

Pathetic behaviour. What’s keeping you from separating?

I am assuming his job isn’t the only place his attitude is a problem. Leave and downsize to a place you can afford to support yourself.

Well hes spent the day in bed so far, with a headache, while im off soon to my second job.
He wants me to say it going to be okay dont worry, i cant!
He needs a job that wont give him negative feedback.

For last few years this has been a issue regarding his jobs...

I think you’re the one who should be giving him negative feedback…

Utterly childlike behaviour. I don’t know what I’d do in this situation honestly like you I’d be lost for words.

Honestly, I am not sure I could stay with him. You are working two jobs and he walked out of his one. His attitude is the problem and if he cannot see that even if he does get a new job then you are most likely being in the exact same situation in six months time or a year.

I am not in the UK but have read that the job market is dire. He is 55 so sadly his age will not stand to him and people will be questioning why he had so many different jobs.

I think I'd be leaving.
Hard to say from here obviously as we don't know what's wonderful about this guy but not being able to hold down a job so leaving you to pay the bills is really not ok especially since it doesn't sound like you're on a high income.
Maybe he has the golden penis and makes you handmade croissants at the weekend but if not I think probably breaking up so you aren't supporting him for the next 30 years at the cost of your own retirement is the best plan.

I work in HR in an industry that often attracts men who thinks the world, and organisation, revolves around them.

I’ve dealt with a number of men like your husband. Not even to disciplinary level, but men who will throw a tantrum and resign on the spot at the slightest hint of criticism. Typically, they’re well able to criticise the work of others, but can’t take it themselves.

It’s always the wife I feel sorry for. I figure if someone can behave like that in work, they have to even more difficult at home. Plus, I imagine it’s the wife picking up the financial slack as these men job hop with no safety net.

I’m sorry OP, he’s a knob.

A divorce I could not stand this especially as he was warned and could have improved.

A friend’s EX husband was warned his manager and he did the same, like yours he was gaming the next day and not looking for a job. The following day she took a day’s holiday and saw a solicitor, a year later divorced and a smaller but nicer house (he wasn’t making it a shit tip) two years later oh my god she met the most lovely man. Happily living rent and bill free in his house (hers is rented out now). God she is happy. He is absolutely lovely.

How is he of benefit to your life op?

Unless he becomes self-employed then there is not really a job out there that there is no chance of negative feedback. He is the problem - not the jobs.

He’s really of no benefit to you life is he. And now you’re going to your second job whilst he lies in bed with a headache. I’d seriously consider ditching this male millstone now before he further drags you down with him.