Husband walked out of his job issue

[Flowers76]

We are both 55..My husband has walked out of his job , as they have given him a report saying due to his attitude and adruptness with his words and lack of completing certain jobs correctly they haven given him a warning. If it does continue then it will be a displinary matter..
Well basically he told them where go go ! Literally..

He had this so many times before with previous jobs.i was really hoping this was different as nearly been it it a year.
And yes he does have issues with his attitude, hes the type of bloke that thinks its everyone elses issue..not his..
Weve just sorted our selves out finacially as well, im so mad...
Becouse weve been here before im getting tired of it now..so now again pressures on me to pay all the bills...i cant support him orveven speak to him as so mad , am i wrong ? Ive stuck at jobs in past that reduced me to tears but never walked until i had another job lined up..i would never walk as got bills to pay...just feel like getting to old for all this crap..

No, this is just a very fragile ego man who cannot stand to be disagreed with.

I worked in HR and I know what you mean.

Nobody else is ever at fault and they lack the ability to self reflect.

I always wonder what kind of women are married to men like this.

I worked in HR too and these men are way too common. Like the earlier poster, I always wondered about the family and wife who had to put up with the consequences of such immature behaviour

Thing is most of us at 55 are getting a bit fed up of work. We've seen it all before, and are getting bored of the whole circus. Most of us stick at it. Everyone could end up with one shit job, it happens. For it to happen more than once sounds like a DH issue

This was in response to the poster suggesting rejection sensitive dyphoria.

What plans are you making to rid yourself of this deadweight…

My H isa bit volatile too at 61, however he does reign it in with clients and luckily works for himself - unfortunately I tend to get the brunt of his work frustrations, we work in same business and I’ve trained myself to zone out at times - I’m sorry OP , I too used to work in HR and these ‘walk out ‘ man children ‘ ’ if challenged are incredibly common - my H can’t stand anything he takes as a personal criticism either , when often it’s just a passing comment .

Utterly selfish disgusting man child. Probably expecting you to give him pocket money and beer tokens absolutely not

Tell him things won't be okay because he's so hard to deal with he can't hold down a job while you're working two jobs.

There is no job where he isn't going to get negative feedback about being an asshole. You should accept that and take note. I bet he would stack up poorly on a spousal evaluation. Take a page from his book and tell him where to go. And it's not to bed to lay around.

You should think about separating. This guy is dragging you down big time.

Leave the pathetic manchild

My advice is very simple, you tell him how much he has to pay each month, (half) if he doesn't, he finds any job to pay for his keep, until a better job comes along that he is trained to do, with the proviso he does not walk out, act disrespectfully, and learns to take critism.
Is he lazy, are his work mates pissed of with covering him not finishing his work. Honestly he sounds a peach.
Whatever you do, do not cover him. Time at his age to take responsibility. He is in bed all day with a headache, how often have you, others, and myself had to work with s headache.
Time to stop bailing him out, and tell him the truth that everyone else see's, a arrogant foolish man

As always, @AttilaTheMeerkat spot on.

yes it really is dire! I have a PhD and not even looking at academic jobs but there's nothign really

I cant decide which is true of my husband. but he doesnt have problem keeping jobs as he has been in the same one for 27 years and doen every well. its at home he is utterly useless

Once, maybe the problem is the job. He has a history of it, he problem is him.

How on earth do you put up with him?

when I first went into my husband's workplace. they said to me 'Hello Miss luck, nice to meet you. You deserve a medal!' I laughed at the time but years later I had a psychotic breakdwon from stress and lost everythign even my own self.

That’s really really sad. I hope things are way better for you now

This 100% , what a horrible flake of a “ man”….have a long hard think about this OP x

In the current job market my employer would have to make me redundant to get rid of me. I wouldn't quit in any circumstances!

Not gonna lie @Flowers76 I'd be gone if I were you. Your husband appears to bring nothing to your life but stress and headaches. He sounds immature and irresponsible. I could never stay with a man who thought it was a good idea to jack in his job/walk out of his job, (with no job to go to,) because he CBA, or is finding a bit 'stressful.' He would be showing he doesn't give a fuck about our financial security or how it affects me and our children, and is happy to throw us into the financial mire.

Women put up with ALL kinds of shit in life. Stresses raising the kids and juggling the work-life balance, holding down a job, looking after elderly and infirm parents, doing all the grunt work, domestic tasks, general day to day drudgery, and most of the childcare, and we just fucking get on with it. We don't walk away, or jack it in. We stick it out. Most men do fuck-all except go to work, so if a man can't even be arsed to hold down a job 'because it's a bit stressful or boring' when he's got very little else to do in life, he can fuck off. I don't want him. I don't need him.

This is not going to stop, why would it? I could not live with that if I were you.

It feels like it would be highly unusual for this cretinous man to behave like such an arse at work time after time and be a perfectly reasonable human at home

whats his response to ‘criticism’ in your home life? Or do you avoid it because you know how he will react?

Had this with an ex. Always telling someone to stuff it without anything to go to. But he was arrogant to think he could pick up a new employer more or less straight away, which he could to an extent in his industry. That was good enough for him, he had no concern about the 2-3 week delay in wages coming in that I had to cover.

He had no idea about finances of the concept of budgeting which is why I took it all on - this probably didn’t help matters as it didn’t aide his awareness of the real world.

Reading your post has brought back the memory of the worry covering bills back then - don’t miss it one bit! I didn’t leave him for this reason but it was a compounding factor.

Leave him. You don’t need this shit and the reason he doesn’t give a fuck is because he has you to pick up the pieces.

He is a 55 year old child. I have a staff member whom we watch suffer through this situation quite regularly with her DH. Its very sad. She struggles to pay the bills, does her best to encourage him and keeps a smile on her face. He is a knob. I hope it isn't as difficult for you. I don't blame you for being furious.