Husband walked out of his job issue

[Flowers76]

We are both 55..My husband has walked out of his job , as they have given him a report saying due to his attitude and adruptness with his words and lack of completing certain jobs correctly they haven given him a warning. If it does continue then it will be a displinary matter..
Well basically he told them where go go ! Literally..

He had this so many times before with previous jobs.i was really hoping this was different as nearly been it it a year.
And yes he does have issues with his attitude, hes the type of bloke that thinks its everyone elses issue..not his..
Weve just sorted our selves out finacially as well, im so mad...
Becouse weve been here before im getting tired of it now..so now again pressures on me to pay all the bills...i cant support him orveven speak to him as so mad , am i wrong ? Ive stuck at jobs in past that reduced me to tears but never walked until i had another job lined up..i would never walk as got bills to pay...just feel like getting to old for all this crap..

I'm serious alright get a life life's too short for taking rubbish from another employee I would certainly walk if my missis was talking about me to a lot of strangers get out mt she has no respect for you leave her to her socials that's all women do never of the computer get a life

Oh dear, what a sad attitude. Apart from outing yourself as a man, you've shown a distinct lack of comprehension. He's not walked out on his "missis" but his job, same as all the various jobs he's had in the last few years. And please learn how to use punctuation, a sentence that long without even a comma is very hard to read!

"leave her to her socials that's all women do never of the computer get a life"

Apart from the fact you are "on the socials", this particular woman is working TWO jobs, and I'm assuming dealing with all the household chores. Doesn't she deserve an hour or two for herself while he's lying in bed sulking? 20 years ago that statement would have been "watching soaps that's all women do", which is something I never did

Yes there are some shit bosses out there, and some shit work colleagues, but for it to be every single job suggests there's just one common factor - and it isn't the employers.

OP, did I read correctly you are working two jobs, while this whiny excuse for a man lounges around in bed?

He's a millstone around your neck. I imagine you have already told him to shape up. I would not even be able to look at him. He'll never change. Do you want this to be the rest of your existence?

I hate to be negative but this isn't going to change, and you know it.
Your DH has a persecution complex and will never hold down a job for long.
Do you love him enough to carry him? unfortunately that's the only option unless he is willing to accept he has a problem and find help.

@ByKeenTaupeDreamer well it may be life’s too short - personally I think life’s too short to hang around with a bloke who can’t hold down a job ,but will no doubt fully expect his wife to pay the bills and if you say plenty of women do it, yes they do and it’s usually due to childcare or is a mutual decision, not because they can’t hold down a job or accept a bit of constructive criticism -

I read it differently.

"they have given him a report saying due to his attitude and adruptness with his words and lack of completing certain jobs correctly they haven given him a warning. If it does continue then it will be a displinary matter.."

I thought 'haven' was haven't?

That they have given him feedback and chosen not to give him a warning (so a chance to improve and not have it on his record). But they will if he doesn't improve.

I'm not sure i would say it is a legal requirement to do this but it is a nice touch. So they have been very fair in my (HR/legal background) professional opinion.

His issue is not being able to accept any feedback. Sounds v low EI. There are people like that but they bounce from job to job, forever the helpless victim.

Don't be daft! Why should any posters have any good things to say about him? We don't know him and we only have OP's posts to go on. As she has said:

'He had this so many times before with previous jobs.i was really hoping this was different as nearly been it it a year.

And yes he does have issues with his attitude, hes the type of bloke that thinks its everyone elses issue..not his..'

It is pretty obvious that he is the problem. Not OP and not his many employers.* *He is an awful employee who can't take instructions, who is really shit at his job but can't take criticism and he doesn't care that he keeps putting his family in an awful financial situation.

Why are you on Mumsnet talking to strangers then?

You and OP's husband sound like kindred spirits. Really crap at their jobs and allergic to criticism so they have a tantrum and walk out.

I thought he had been given written warning and next step would be a sacking . Written report sounds like written warning to me .
I have worked with assholes / bad bosses, I haven’t walked out of a job because of it , I’ve just had to be “emotionally intelligent “ (suck it up) - but the power imbalance is galling and I can see why even emotionally intelligent people can’t put up with it .
can be worse depending on the sector you’re in .

He sounds bloody useless. Taking a day to spend in bed when he should be busting his ass with household chores as you have 2 jobs. And he should be out looking for another job. Has he even signed on to UC? I think I'd just bin him off as I couldn't terate his stupid ego.