Am I in the wrong for wanting to continue yearly holidays with my son but my boyfriend who’s always invited but doesn’t want to come

[Welshmumkate]

So, I have always taken my son on holiday, my boyfriend of a few years isn’t happy. He’s been invited to come with us but says he doesn’t have the money (he earns more than me), anyway, I’ve said I’m not going to stop giving my son memories and will still take him away but now he turns it into an argument all the time? Am I wrong for still wanting to take him away? My mindset is I can always make money but I won’t always have the time. I even booked a trip to the USA for him and he doesn’t want to go … he makes me feel bad and I guess I just want some validation

Why on earth are you with this "very miserable man"?
PS. You don't need to ask anyone here. The answer lies with you.

My children are only 3 and 5, but I would pick a holiday with them over anything else even if they were adults 😂
If he earns more money and wants you to go away on your own, he can save up and you can do that as well. But it is your money and your choice.
Also the child is 11, take him on holiday, make the memories.

Your son comes first . End of. Get rid of the jealous control freak

Its totally okay that he doesnt want to go on holiday (cant relate but each to their own and all that) but not okay that he makes you out to be selfish for going away and making memories with your son.

Let him stew in his own juice then, the miserable git.

I get the impression that he's jealous. How pathetic is that? A grown man being jealous because his partner spends time with her dc.

Run, now!!

Sack him off. An ex of mine tried to sulk his way into me cancelling a 3 week holiday I’d worked so hard to pay for for my son and I. He was out the door the next day and we had the best holiday

I had this with my ex. I love travelling and asked him if he wanted to take a long haul trip, and that I would pay. He refused so I went alone (paid for with my own money), which angered him. He said I was selfish too. We didn't live together and I just ignored him. No regrets.

I suggest you do the same with your partner. Ignore him. Take the trips and make memories with your children. Don't even give it a second thought. You are not selfish - he is the selfish one.

I d say you have no future with this man.He tries to prevent you spending quality time with your own young son.He doesn t want to spend quality time with you, selfishly eon t take a holiday with you.Doesn t he want to get to know your son a bit better??
What would your future life be with this man in it.
Why are you pursuing the relationship??

I take my dc each on holiday solo every year and leave my own husband (who is their dad!) home. Of course, it’s fine. Your bf sounds pathetic.

Just do what you want.

T husband couldn't be bothered to book his leave in time one year for a 2 week holiday. I told him to book it on 1 January, as it was for August in school holidays and the team is small. He tried to book it in middle of July. It was rejected.

We went without him.

Your BF would be an ex if he tried to stop me going on holiday just because he doesn't fancy it himself.

I had missed that you don't live with your boyfriend OP and it has made me so happy to read that you don't - knowing that your son doesn't have to live with this miserable man.

It is fine if your boyfriend doesn't like to travel - totally up to him. But how he has managed to make a parent feel that they shouldn't take their own child on holiday I can't imagine. It suggests to me a very controlling personality. Please never live with him. Look out for him.trying to control you through emotional manipulation.

I can't imagine that anyone could make me feel guilty for spending my own money and time on my children (I'd tell them to fuck off) but manipulative people are clever I guess. Protect your son from this man as your priority.

You have a controlling abusive miserable arsehole of a bf! Make life nicer for yourself and your children and throw him back overboard with the other rubbish! Life is too short!