Dating thread 54-New year new irons?

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The Rules:
-The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating -Develop a thick skin
-Do not invest emotionally too soon
-It’s all BS until it actually happens
-Trust your gut instinct
-People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
-Know your worth
-If it's not fun, stop
-Loo update is mandatory
-No dating the thread
-Treat others as you'd like to be treated
-Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
-The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
-OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item*

@Nosdacariad a wig wearing adjacent profession ey?! Sounds intriguing 14th can’t come soon enough x

Just got back from the date with Mr.Olympics. He is a tad shorter than me but that's not an issue for me or for him. Seems like a really nice guy - easy conversation, zero red flags. Let's see what happens next!

I think it might be because he had a nice voice - I do like some men's voices - and he asked follow up questions, which kept the conversation really flowing. So often I am either talked at, or they never ask me a single question. He also laughed a lot, and it really reached his eyes; a twinkle, you know. He said "speak soon," after a goodnight hug, but it's been 24 hours and nothing yet. Here we go again... a Chandler perhaps?!

No red flags and easy conversation sounds like a good date. How did you leave it? I am currently fascinated with last chats/promises at the end of the date after Mr ICU.

I had an ex like that. Big baggy jeans, filthy 'white' trainers, stained (but clean) grubby looking T-shirts all the time. No matter the occasion. I did feel embarrassed sometimes when we went to a restaurant etc, but then I told myself that I was being silly as it's just clothes...

He had to borrow a shirt & pair of shoes from a friend when his family organised a party at an expensive venue... & That was only because his mum refused to let him attend unless he did. He complained to me & I said that I agreed with her, so he wasn't happy

I didnt know it bothered me at the time it was only after a horrible breakdown that Madame look at my relationship a bit more. I love hims so dearly but things have gone so terribly wrong for us now becasue of my horrific collapse

It's not your fault, it really isn't

thank you

I said "this was great, we should do it again", got into my car and left. The ball is in his court now.
I think, the more I date the less bothered I become about "rules" and just state how I feel. They can step up or step out.

He has gone quiet so we won't count our 🐓🐓🐓

I would worry about the manbaby aspect

Yeah he's long gone now. Probably still wearing the same T-shirt though

I wonder if because an arrangement has been made, he’s saving it for the date?

I’m seeing MrScenester again tonight, trying not to get over invested but he’s lovely, and handsome to boot x

Enjoy.

Mr Wiggy has unmatched me on Tinder, what a 💧

Have you been communicating on a different platform? I had this with someone that they unmatched after our date but we did continue to date and communicated via WhatsApp.

I messaged him 17:30 ish yesterday afternoon with no reply and he has unmatched me...

I know not everyone is glued to their phones but still...

Oh that's a shame Nosdacariad.

What a coward, and better to find that out now. Sorry he’s behaved like this, it never feels good.

@Nosdacariad sorry Mr Wiggy turned out to be such a letdown. I know online dating is a numbers game but it's just rude to unmatch without saying anything when you've already met or made plans.

Sorry @Nosdacariad. Hope you can dust yourself off and forget about him. What a loser.

I had plans to meet someone when I got back to London tomorrow but he has also gone awol and I don't have the energy to chase. So off into the ether he goes too.

It's just a bit pathetic but saves wasting time 😁

There are no irons at the moment.

Just MrX still emailing although I told him not to.

No word from Mr Soughdough, so frustrating - I liked him. Had a quick coffee date with someone I wasn't that sure about this morning. He was nicer looking than his pictures but I'm going to call him Mr Ordered. This is what happened: I got to the coffee shop on time and he was already there. Greeted, etc. and he said, "I've ordered. You have to order at the counter." I looked at him, expecting him to say, "what would you like?" Was that presumptuous of me? I shuffled off to the counter and ordered. Feeling a bit miffed that he hadn't waited for me to get there first to order. I'd have liked it if he'd offered to at least buy me a coffee as the date was his idea. This has happened before, recently, and I was miffed then. We did have a second cup and he asked me what I wanted and went and paid for that one. Dating.. it's a minefield of manners and mirrors. Not sure if I liked him enough, as spent the date feeling uncomfortable after that. Anyway, am I being too precious about this? A friend said today, was it that or something else? Not sure.

Such crappy behaviour. I get that no one likes having uncomfortable conversations, but I just can’t imagine doing that to someone.