My partner is angry because I wont tell him my Bodycount

[northern2025]

He has repeatedly asked me and I haven’t answered him but now he has sat me down and said think carefully exactly what you say and wanted me to talk about my sec life since I was a teen, when I am mid forties now
I have been single for quite a bit of this time and had several short term relationships
he is making me feel anxious and isn’t speaking to me now as thinks I can’t be trusted

Good luck OP, you don’t need a loser like that dragging you down, buy yourself a lovely coat and boots as a Christmas present and make 2026 a fabulous year x

Thank you for all your kindness, and time. These boots are fantastic, I m normally not one to treat myself but perhaps it’s time to, and wear them as part of my armour against horrible men.

OP you sound so lovely, please fuck off the pathetic arsehole and buy the boots.

How about the coat? https://www.houseoffraser.co.uk/brand/biba/biba-archive-faux-fur-668755?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22386063781&gbraid=0AAAAA9YKeQ8YKUXWT9Bj9oUzFsxulhVu7&gclid=CjwKCAiA3fnJBhAgEiwAyqmY5f7QE1Hd-WtDMf9qsFvqIxhHN1aosc9IfvUVadsF5bmOTyMXJoUdBBoC4hkQAvD_BwE#colcode=66875569

THIS IS THE COMMENT! Please do all of this!

This isn’t how I want 2026 to be, I want to buy a leopard print coat and wear bright red boots with matching lipstick......

Girl, YES!!!!! ❤

Agree with every word.

Time to take the reigns and yeet the man baby off to his next victim.

Then go coat shopping 😁

Agree with PP. Dont agree with him on a break, tell him its over then block him. Don't enter into any communication with him.

Make 2026 the year you give yourself the gift of freedom. Buy the coat and the boots, eat the cake, drink the wine, go out with friends and come home as late as you fucking want

Learn to celebrate YOU and avoid red flag parade men.

And please look at doing the freedom programme

I feel the coat and shoes might need to wait til pay day but if anyone has recommendations for a bright red fuck you lipstick I would be grateful 😊

Good for you OP - don’t give him satisfaction of a reply, just block and then ignore anything else! Go get that lipstick!

I would recommend you visit your local department store and spend some time with the assistants on the make-up counters. There's a belief there's a "red lip" for everyone, but you really need to ensure whichever lipstick you choose it goes with your skin tone (I've seen two women on TV this week wearing the wrong red for them and it wasn't a good look at all). It would be fun and time well-invested to get just the right shade for you. 😘

You don’t need “fuck you lipstick”, you need fuck someone else (and someone else who is not misogynistic) lipstick.

ohh.

How about Fire and Ice, or Red Stiletto by Bobby Brown? Or Boy Trouble by The Lip Bar

https://www.saksfifthavenue.com/bobbi-brown-luxe-shine-intense-lipstick/product/0400011604516?ranMID=13816&ranEAID=OHlcvPYhHQM&ranSiteID=OHlcvPYhHQM-zC3zvOOKXO59uCiXvcoHww&site_refer=AFF001&mid=13816&siteID=OHlcvPYhHQM-zC3zvOOKXO59uCiXvcoHww&LSoid=1809726&LSlinkid=10&LScreativeid=1

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000W9FS2Y?tag=thecutonsite-20&ascsubtag=__c21214awd__cji0cutw100c3knyect70504t__196669________9________nymag.com%2Fstrategist&th=1

Or you can really splurge on Pirate by Chanel
https://www.chanel.com/us/makeup/p/160990/rouge-allure-luminous-intense-lip-colour/?ranMID=39938&ranEAID=TnL5HPStwNw&ranSiteID=TnL5HPStwNw-LFgjOFexXE3pKKFsxTVf0w&wt.mc_id=fb_eye_affiliate_en_us_dis&wt.mc_t=display&siteID=TnL5HPStwNw-LFgjOFexXE3pKKFsxTVf0w

Please change your locks asap.

Mac's Russian Red and Ruby Woo are two famous reds! Ruby Woo is a little brighter than Russian Red.

I'm 40, been single/celibate for over a decade. Do NOT stay with someone who is already treating you like this, just to avoid being alone. It only gets worse over time. If you're used to being in a relationship, being on your own can suck to begin with. But you do get used to it (and eventually reach the point where it would take a lot of convincing to get back into another relationship! 😆)

Asking about your past wasn't a red flag on its own. But the way he reacted afterwards and the videos he's sending you are massive stop signs! He sounds like a not-very-subtle control freak and he's already showing you the sort of content he watches and agrees with. Men like that view you as property rather than a sentient human being.

(I'm also in favour of the boots!)

@Ialwaysthoughtitwasadojo This is the Andrew Tate brigade, women need a low body count and men can have whatever one they want.

From what I'm gathering, this thread seems to be about past number of sexual partners.

In that case, what you have said is not true. It is frowned upon for men to have many sexual partners and most people would not regard that as being socially acceptable (especially among women, from what I've seen).

You misread @Ialwaysthoughtitwasadojo 's comment. She's saying "The Andrew Tate Brigade" believe this unequal behaviour is OK, not other (decent, respectful) men and women.

He’s showing some really scary behaviour in the way he’s speaking to you.

My partner knows roughly, he also is a swinger so far more relaxed about these things. Context is everything - the question and the way your partner is handling this is LTB territory for your ow safety. 🚩.

bin this one

No, I would not. That’s abusive and controlling.

Please don't feel people are judging you OP because we're not. Most of us are outraged at this guys audacity because it's not okay to treat women like this. It's extremely disrespectful and when there's a pattern of disrespect we need to walk away. People need to learn that in order to have ''access' 'to others then they need to treat them with respect.

Back in the sea you go