Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

I hadn’t … but l have now 😳🤣🫤!

I’m probably immature but that’s something I’m working on

Gibberish nonsense. You'd get more sense out of Father Jack.

Yes, it’s strange isn’t when people, make up threads, to get a reaction.Your recent thread, you were bragging about, making it your mission everyday, in your words to p off the the daily Mail, to make up stories regarding the welfare state, apparently it makes your day, when you can see your comments are making people angry, getting lot’s of reactions.
Hmmm what a strange old world we live in, so desperate for attention!😬

I'm pretty sure this is a twelve-year-old troll.

I haven’t exactly covered myself in glory in this thread but it is upsetting to think you’ve been ghosted. Then I was elated when he DID reply - and castigated on here for my elation after I’d mocked the man’s baldness on here - but my elation died down once I realised there’s no future in it as I am a big texter and he is one of those people who seems to text once a week

I’m married so may be out out of date but honestly, a bear hug and non specific, comment about seeing you again - when I was single I would have considered that a polite way to convey you’re nice but there’s no chemistry without having to say it which always feels awkward.

Oh when will you Mumsnetters learn
That for the love of a man do not yearn
If he doesn't text
Ignore him, say "Next!"
And to your unfinished novel return.

You chose to meet him, presumably in the hope of a romantic relationship.
He also took time to meet you.
You can't now resent taking that time; it was your choice.

This poem scans the best of all poems in this thread so far, 10/10

Oh yes that’s a point. He even made a bear-like “rrrr” sound as he opened his arms for the hug - like you would do for a toddler. Maybe I need to work on being alluring, but it’s winter and all I want to do is curl up in my duvet and watch comedy shows, alone

I’d leave it, I think keeping your aura clear is way more important. Just leave him and if you want block his number.

I don’t know why people lead people on in that way, probably because they don’t have the vocabulary to inform people of their ongoing intentions and think it’s kinder to let people down by not saying anything and they’ll get the idea. That or stand people up.

good luck for your future dates x

Stop drip-feeding, OP. Tell us what bargains you got at Sainsbury's!

I hope it all works out, and she's not back here in a couple of years talking about getting her ducky ducks in a row.

Oh dear you just want to have the last word dont you.
Forget it and move on.

I have become stupidly invested in this thread. It's bringing out the best in Mumsnetters. OP is great. Bring back the laughing emoji in reactions Mumsnet HQ!

Probably will be back here, my love life seems cursed

Sorry but this poem isn’t any good at all.

My sister sent a really nasty message to a man in similar circumstances and it turned out his mum had died. He had mentioned she wasn’t very well, but I guess he hadn’t wanted to go into all on a first date. Anyway, if you really did like him, I’d leave it

Nevermind, I see he has messaged you and you are going on another date. Maybe this will make you think twice if it happens again?

I never said anything about a guaranteed correlation. Dan Brown for example.

I simply made the point that when you asserted that no one gets big advances in modern publishing, that was a fallacy. Because it is.

Two things can be true at the same time, chicky chick.

...wait...is this not satire...?
I only suggested the poem because I thought it was ...

Don’t waste your energy.

I am loath to post publicly about the bargains in case people start going to Sainsbury’s at the same time and getting them before I can. There were rich pickings although my date’s unanticipated presence meant I was deterred from buying all that I wanted in case I seemed greedy or “sad”. I also didn’t want him to think of me going home with, for example, a microwave meal for one on a Saturday evening.

There once was a mumsnet thread
that filled the reader with dread
Before it's too late, to read further debate
I've decided to fuck off to bed. Xx

I think you are being the weird one OP not the person on this thread you said was weird.
You've invested a lot of energy into this thread. Messaging him is pointless if he has ghosted you.
And fgs it maybe that he is keen! Just not as speedy as you in interacting. Maybe hes lost his phone or has an ermergency to deal with?
id give it a week at least before binning. But dont waste time giving him an ego boost by messaging him!