Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

Because producing anything of quality is very,very difficult.
At least you have something to distract you whilst you wait for the.....what was it....short,balding, middle-aged man to deign to contact your exquisite self.

He replied this afternoon so that's all ok. This thread has gotten WAY out of hand, people commenting that I must have talked too much on the date etc - and now I cannot rein it in because there's no way of deleting threads

I think that OLD and modern tech has a lot to answer for.

When I was dating, mobile phones weren't around, nor the internet.
You'd do all your dating by phone. Landlines.

You could have a date and the guy might say 'I'll call you' - some did, some didn't. It was always the case that you assumed it was ONE date (either way- you or him) and that if they wanted to see you, they'd make the effort.

No prompting, no calling 'just for a chat' to test the water. And don't believe what anyone says as they say 'Goodbye' because no one is going to say they've had a crap time.

I think it's reasonable after a few dates to let someone know if you want to end it but a first date is just that. Both parties are free to do whatever they choose without saying 'I don't want to see you again' by text or whatever means.
Yes, it's fine to tell someone you don't want to continue but I don't think it's given that you do this.

Wow, it was only Saturday that you went on a date. I only start to feel ghosted if I don’t hear anything after 2 weeks.

You don’t owe each other anything. You had a nice time, end of. If you hear anything within two weeks great, maybe it could be a thing. If you don’t hear back - well, it was still a nice date.

Chill out or any chance of it developing will be cut dead.

You really aren't funny.

Thank you - that is most charitable of you.

Hundreds say otherwise, ducky duck

Just stop replying then?

Ouch. I hate the use of 'gotten'. Dreadful US speak (unless we're going back a few centuries.)

It's become a long thread because you OP have been feeding it for almost 8 hours.

As have you - when can I expect your invoice? I don't imagine someone as sought after as you would be feeding this pro bono

😂

This is an absolutely bonkers thread. Place marking for further updates.

Best response is no response. Don’t give him the satisfaction.

If we're having a competition about who's spent the longest on this- you win hands down. You started it a 10am.

Your replies are eliciting responses because a) you do U-turns and b) you are mostly rude to posters who aren't standing for it.

Why won’t op answer about
the date she was going on today? Is that done yet? Don’t tell me he’s ghosted you?!

Has he, aye?

I sent a poem and he DID respond - to ask me on a date. Not sure what I should do really.

“We had a nice date on Saturday
We laughed a lot, had much to say
I hoped you’d text, even if you were blunt
You have not - turns out you’re a bit of a
letdown”

Eh Ducky Duck...methinks you royalties are going to your ducking head..wind the proverbial neck in and find other forums to torture...

Is that ok to say in 2025?!

No thanks!

@WildflowerGardens do you think you could shoehorn your poem into the thread a few more times?

You shouldn't - he's having a great time and is taking me out somewhere splendid this weekend

Your ever-valuable comments - so inspiring

🤔

Another wind up thread?? about a complete non-event

Some of the OP's responses don't sound particularly adult IMO

What an eloquent response. You disappoint me. But pat on the head for a second date dear. The drake may get his quack after all...