Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

Hear hear. How long does it take to text 'It was a lot of fun meeting you, but I can't see us going anywhere romantically so we'd best leave it there. Good luck!'

There once was a "writer" called Ducky,
Who thought that she had got lucky,
She gave it a crack,
But he never text back,
So she said he looked yucky.

Your poem doesn't scan

Not necessary and rather conceited.

Maybe you didn’t behave or come across as well as you thought you did on the ‘great’ date, and he didn’t want to see you again. Either way, don’t message him - he obviously isn’t interested in you.

😂

I think a professional session with your sister is needed. Also you commented on another thread that would were far too busy to spend all day on MN🤣

If you've read this far you will find
That OP so often changes her mind
Ducky duck she keeps saying
So with us she's just playing
With a ghoster she'll get wined and dined

I wouldn’t say anything. His silence is your answer. He doesn’t fancy you. Yes, ghosting is shit, but would it really make you feel better if he explicitly told you that he’s doesn’t fancy you?

Your ridiculous story doesn't ring true.

We had a GREAT date.
I texted him to tell him it was great with a "poem".
He GHOSTED me.
I also tried to get rid of him on the date .
He followed me around Sainsbury's.
He has no communications skills.
He is middle aged, balding and has bad teeth.
Ohhhh he has text me!! Whoohoo!
We are going out somewhere SPLENDID!

What an absolute crock of crap.

P.S. Mine was not a poem but a limerick.

He's already texted back with a great suggestion for a second date - thanks though!

Again, he's texted today asking to take me out at the weekend, sooooo....

I am really enjoying this. Keep it up, OP.

Usually, yes - but I finished my work early today and have been rolling around in my big pile of money

Why? She's not remotely funny.

This "limerick" sucks btw

Is that why you've spent the last hour and a half of your life posting on my thread? Do you fancy me or something? Erk.

Much like your stupid story. I actually believe your first post but the rest is bollocks. He's ghosted you and you can't get over it. Pathetic.

I think she is, personally.

If I call her a troll I'll get deleted and my collar felt by MNHQ, but I don't mean it badly...trolls don't have to be made up or malicious. Sometimes someone sees the thread has taken on a life of its own, decides "fuck it" and just keeps poking and feeding it to see what happens. Minimal effort from them and an entire community going completely round the twist about something that really doesn't matter in the slightest. That's what good Internet trolls used to be like, rather than crappy boring unfunny low effort twats plopping to say something divisive or offensive just to get a reaction or to try to feel clever.

I like it!

I haven’t ever had to do online dating. But if I did, I think I would end something in a bland forgettable way, however wronged I felt. I would not want to be ‘memorable’. I just do not trust the potential for men to develop vengeful or stalking behaviour.

See, this has got me properly lolling. Who cares how real it may or may not be?

And of course it means she might be... Scrooge McDUCK!!!!!!

Disagree sorry; it’s hilarious, but I concede that ‘wacky’ totally understates the batshittery of it

We’re going out at the weekend following his text to me today, you absolute maniac

The limerick was the post before, so try keep up.
This was, in fact, a list of your innate ramblings that make no sense at all.
In all honesty, it's a bit sad. You are either some bored weirdo sitting at home looking for attention on your post or you really are that delusional woman who went on a date, fell for him, wrote him a shit poem and got ghosted and then decided he was crap. Now suddenly he has now texted you and is bringing you somewhere fab!

It's pathetic.

Yeah sure. You sad sack.

I'm off to the real world.

Goodness OP! Of course he's a rude twat, but you seem to have taken it really to heart. Maybe online dating, isn't for you.