Ghosted after a great first date. Best response?

[WildflowerGardens]

I had a first date with a man off hinge on Saturday afternoon - we had coffee and then walked round an illustration fair. The whole time we were laughing and talking animatedly and seemed to have a lot in common. At the end of the date he pulled me into a bear hug and said “see you again soon”.

I texted him that evening to say “Great to meet you, what a fun afternoon!” but he didn’t reply and it’s now Tuesday. I think I’ve been ghosted.

I feel like sending a final message, something like “Ghosting in your forties? I only date grown men: good luck with your ongoing search 👋 ” before blocking him but I’m not sure if I should do this.

My reasoning is that I think ghosting is crap behaviour and people who ghost should be called out on it.

Any advice very welcome.

From your progressively rude responses OP, I think he's dodged a bullet.

Dying 😂

How in the world did this post go from Op being ghosted and annoyed to OP being convinced everyone on here wants to date the bald man with the phd?

But she finds all that so attractive! Of course she’s thrilled

You’re only saying that because you want him for yourself!

🤣

Are you 12?

Your best response is to do nothing.

He didn't ghost you IMO. That's a bit OTT I'd say.
You reached out after the date clearly hoping for more, and he didn't and wasn't.

He doesn't owe you an explanation. Or even to say he doesn't want to see you again.

He is actually saying 'something' by saying nothing.

I understand you feel miffed and how it's all about 'bad manners' etc but if you're new to online dating I'd suggest you grow a thicker skin as this seems par for the course.

Onwards and upwards as they say.

Idk but the first two sentences would fit pretty much any shit boyfriend thread!
😂

Wait who? Hard to keep up

Have to get through me first, didn't you see he read from his viva voce?!

Wildflower and Baldy sitting up a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G

You can't claim the moral high ground just because you describe your life as 'busy'.

Seriously if you're going to get so upset with events like this, maybe steer well clear of OLD.

I hate to be blunt but here, you do come over as very black and white, rude to posters offering advice (which you don't like) and not very balanced in your own responses.

Laughing and enjoying illustrations does not mean he wanted to see oyu again. Maybe he didn't feel it, but doesn't want to say.

More to the point you must have chosen to date him and now you're belittling him for his looks , no decent job and poor communication skills.

Chose more carefully who you date maybe?

Bloody hell, I've read some bizarre threads before on here, but this one is quite something.

This thread gets more surreal by the minute!

I think you were on the thread for the uninvited labrador(?). You must be asking yourself what on earth you have wandered into.

Agree. I think I get it now. Very good.

Ignore it and move on.

I haven't RTFT but from the few pages I've read I think the OP comes across as quite pompous and full of herself:

I’m a busy author and took time out from finishing edits in order to travel to meet this man

Big whoop. Most people are busy, and have precious spare time. If the date had went poorly you would still taken time out from finishing edits to meet the guy.

He's a balding, short man with bad teeth

You're clearly licking your wounds but this is pretty petty. Remember he's a balding, short guy with bad teeth you're keen for a second date with.

I've been out of the dating game for a long time, but I would have just moved on. Is it 'ghosting' to not reply after one date? He's now replied, three days later, so seems (to me) like a bit of unnecessary drama over nothing.

Years ago I went on a date with someone who had mutual friends to me. We seemed to really click and he was talking about places he'd like to show me, etc. Never heard from him again. My friends told me that he really liked me and had been raving about me. I just said, "if you really like someone you then you keep in touch/don't disappear". And I got on with my life.

I’m a busy author and took time out from finishing edits in order to travel to meet this man

Your travelling time was 10 minutes!

You sound very hard work OP.

Dignity in not sending another message

Haven’t you read? He’s texted back today, so there. Second date at the weekend. Shows what you know.

I got ghosted after seeing a bloke for a few months & it was only a day or so after he’d confessed to me that he likes to wear a cock ring & wanted me to lock him in it & keep the key!! 😂

When he ghosted me, I binned the key! 🤣

I won’t send this to him - although it’s a good rhyme

Hahahaha

Well it seems I’m a bullet he’s texted back to schedule a second date with!!