Are you 100% percent sure that no one else is involved? Maybe he hasn’t done the dirty deed yet but he’s taken a fancy to someone? Or maybe he’s met another guy who happens to be single and is fantasising about a life he could have without you and the kids?
I was very much in love with my ex wife, I supported her at university, when she graduated she got a job which I helped secure, after a few months I noticed a stark difference in her behaviour.
No more kiss on the cheek when leaving or arriving from work, no holding hands in public or any other displays of affection, and it’s hard to explain but she sort of looked down on me.
I asked her if she could stay at her brothers home who lived about 10/15 minutes away whilst the martial home was as having new wooden floors fitted throughout, I didn’t want her routine to be disturbed because she had started a new job. I’ll never forget the day she left for her brothers stay, the builders had arrived, as she was leaving I said goodbye and went to give her a kiss and she turned away to avoid it right in front on the builders, I can’t explain why but it was at that point I knew that there was someone else involved
After the floor was fitted she never came back, her brother kept telling me he didn’t know where she was, but she was at his place all the time, obviously he’s her brother so he’s going to stick up for her.
I was at friends party and I received a text whilst I was talking to someone, I looked down at the message and it said ‘ I want a divorce’. I was trying to remind man interested in the persons conversation we were having but my mind started to race and I went weak at the knees. I made my excuses and left the party
Up until that point I had no idea this was coming, turns out she was having an affair with the husband of a couple we knew, he left his wife and kids and they shacked up together
Looking back there were a few signals I should have picked up on but I was so busy with life I never saw them, are you doing the same? Mind you even if I had picked up on them the end result would have been the same, but I could have prepared myself better mentally.
To me it sounds more than a tantrum or something more sinister.
He needs to sit down and look at what a divorce and custody entails, that’ll make him sweat, certainly opened my eyes even though I wasn’t at fault, and I never married to lived with anyone again after that, that was 25 years ago, it was hard enough at the time and there were no children involved, I have no idea how I would have coped if there were!